Really Bad Day

[Katy Belle]

Hang in there!

 

[Suzimom]

Hey, honey...I'm sorry you had such a hard time!!!! Hang in there! I hate when EVERYTHING jumps at you at once....you don't want to stir a fight, so, of course, the bumps and issues will hit you more than others. I'm the same way. I feel your pain. It may not feel like it, but you WILL survive these moments and issues...thanks for reaching out to the rest of us who have perhaps dealt with similar issues already. We NEVER want you to feel badly, but we certainly understand where you are coming from!!! It's ok to be sensitive...embrace it!

 

[honugirl]

Hey Jessi, lots of hugs going to you! That sounds like a really awful day. Is there any way you can get another body for your classroom? At least for the time being? Hang in there. As you get more experienced, you'll learn the tricks of the trade.

 

[TLSnell1981]

Song lyrics come to mind...when I have a day like this.

I guess I should have stayed in bed
My pillow wrapped around my head
Instead of waking up to find
A nightmare of a different kind.......
This just doesn't seem to be my day

Sorry you had a bad day

 

[Holidaymouse]

EB,

Sorry to hear about your day. I hope the news you were told is not too devistating.

As for the car~please call the TB and see if they have a camera. Also, it sounds as though someone witnessed her. We had a fender bender (with damage) in a grocery lot. A witness saw, when we called the insurance we gave them her info AND the witness information...he came through for us..instead of he said/she said both pay both get hit on insurance~ the witness provided enough info that the woman who hit us was found at fault.

If they have the video-even though you didn't get her inof you might still be able to get her license # on her car. Going forward..ALWAYS get their info and look at her ID to verify name. She may find that offensive but I'd rather her be offended than you be told a falsehood. take pics including her lic plate on the car..if you can, get the VIN# in the windshield..yes, its obtrusive but shows you mean business and will protect yourself. She can hissy herself elsewhere.

Best of luck to you and here's hoping your days improve ahead.

 

[MushyMushy]

No advice, but big big to you!

 

[XTinabell]

Yikes, I think now I understand why my dad wants out of teaching even though he only has 6 more years until retirement.
I think I am in awe over the way you handled those situations. After a bad day at work I probably would have yelled at the lady who forgot her change let alone the woman screaming at you for backing into her license plate. For all you know her plate was already dented.

Some days you just need to throw in the towel, go to the spa get a massage and soak in the tub. Everything has a way of working out, you'll be okay.

 

[jackemail]

Special ed is one of the hardest jobs there is. Since structure is so, so important, the kids' behavior of course will be affected when they leave the classroom and then return. It is definitely hard to have them come back in and then settle back into the routine/structure of your room. All I can say is that I did it for 31 years, some years were just harder than others...the first few were the worst. It takes a LONG time to really get the "hang" of teaching special ed...just keep with it.

I made the same mistake you did about the car, a long time ago. Someone hit me, swore he would take care of it if I didn't call the police...well, we all learn the hard way.

 

[dakcp2001]

I guess I don't get why you would call the police when there was literally no damage to either car. I mean, if it happened while the cars were parked (and I had been in her car) I would not have expected a note or anything. It never even crossed my mind (like I said, at the time I was really flustered, I"ve never been in an "accident" before if you can even call it that). She never demanded it either, so I'm wondering if she would even have a leg to stand on if she made some kind of claim?

The police make a record of the damage or lack of damage and they make a nice report that can be sent to insurance.

I once had a guy get out in bumper to bumper traffic and start screaming at me that I hit him (i was behind him) and I didn't think I had,I was not even close to him, I assumed he was on drugs and he was so scary I called the police and locked my doors when I pulled over. When they arrived, they informed me that this is how he makes a living and he was going to sue me for neck and back injury. They wrote a very nice report saying no visible damage and no apparent accident,and I had witnesses and everything and my insurance STILL settled with this guy.(not for much but still, he deserved a boot in the behind if you ask me) It is infuriating! Every time I see him now he has a brand new car. I actually came home one day to find he and his very sketchy lawyer in my backyard measuring my parents home. I had to have the police come then too! Apparently they thought they hit the jackpot, since I was living with my parents at the time, they did not realize I did not own the home. Joke was on him, I owned nothing. lol. I was only 19 at the time.

SO always calling the police for ANY accident is good advice, had I not called them, he would have sued the heck out of me and got a LOT of money from my insurance.



But you know what, that is why you have insurance! Please don't let your bad day ruin another minute! Go home, have a nice bath and a glass of wine and read a good book or watch a good movie! ALl you can do is your best, and roll with the punches. Tomorrow is a new day!

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I can't believe somebody can get away with that crap. When I worked at Disney, one thing we were told is that if they refuse to allow the medics to see them and then later claim injury, they have no proof that the injury was sustained on property and therefore would lose in a judgment. I always assumed that principle worked elsewhere (if you don't get it documented by the authorities and later make a claim you have no leg to stand on.) I guess not.

Today was better thankfully. I got bitten a few times (and one of those time put a hole in my skirt), but thankfully no blood was drawn. I'm going to try something new with lesson planning next week to see if it can help both the student and para situation.

 

[locolala]

I'm actually taking a training right now called Mandt that is in restraint and how to handle difficult behaviors. It is a 30+ hour course. That means I am going to school at like 6:30 am and not getting done til 9:00pm. I'm not sure if I'll be paid, even though it is a job requirement. I hope I am because the first day conflicted with a new teacher training they required me to go to and I am being docked money because of it. If not, I knew it was a possibility going in. A.) The training is required, and B.) It is very necessary to what is going on my room right now.

My Daddy teaches Mandt! He travels all over the country teaching as a part time gig, it's really quite cool. I was actually going to suggest you look into the program. I hope your weekend helps you to relax a little, working in those classes can be so difficult. Many, many hugs!

 

[Ember]

You need to write today off as being an utter waste, have a long bath, and go to bed. Tomorrow will be better.

 

[scrump]

I am sorry you had a bad day.

I had one today, too. So bad, in fact the our nurse at work gave me some valium lol.

 

[cocodog]

So sorry your day was went so badly. Hopefully, you are due for a string of better days!

 

[Luv Bunnies]

I work with special ed students as an teaching assistant in a preschool class. We've had some really difficult kids in the past and I've also been bitten, hit, kicked, scratched, peed on, etc! Thankfully, we have a pretty good group of kids this year and none are violent. I totally know what you mean by what happens when you send them out to another room. Our speech therapist takes our kids in groups to another room which also doubles as an OT room. She lets the kids "play" on the OT equipment. There's very little discipline in speech sessions and the kids get away with a heck of a lot more than they do in our room. Then they come back to us and we spend time reminding them how they are expected to behave!

In terms of your teaching assistant, have you discussed him with the school principal? In our school, the teachers direct us in the classroom but the principal is considered our supervisor. A teacher in another room was having trouble with an assistant last year. She would routinely take cell phone calls from her kids (teenagers) at certain times of the day like when the kids were on breaks at school. The teacher asked her to make calls on her break time but she never told her kids to stop calling unless it was urgent. So the teacher documented when the calls usually came in and had a talk with the principal. The principal agreed to drop in around those times. She caught the assistant on her phone a couple of times and then had a talk with her. This took the burden off of the teacher and she didn't have to be the bad guy. Perhaps your principal can help you in this way? Good luck!

 

[Tinijocaro]

Song lyrics come to mind...when I have a day like this.

I guess I should have stayed in bed
My pillow wrapped around my head
Instead of waking up to find
A nightmare of a different kind.......
This just doesn't seem to be my day



Sorry you had a bad day

Yeah! Another Monkees song! I was a Monkees junky when I was a kid-had a HUGE crush on Mickey.

To the OP. You have chosen one of the hardest teaching jobs out there. It is going to take you some time to figure things out. Lean on other teachers and ask advice often. Ask your administrator for help-they would not want you to go it alone. Find your support group.

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

Ugh. I just want to have one decent day. One! Is that too much to ask?

My kids were a total mess today. Mondays are always like that, but this one was spectacular. They were that weird combination of tired where they are exhausted and can't focus, but totally loopy to the point htey will not follow directions and are just crazy.

I was so excited that my one tough case had a good day, and then in the last ten minutes he grabbed my hand and bit me on the knuckle. Hard. It was a good minute or two te get a release. We learned bite releases in my training, but they're for if somebody else is being bitten and require two hands. I tried to improvise, but wasn't able to do it myself. My para was out of the room at the time (he does that quite often.) Finally he walked by and I asked him to help. It's pretty red and swollen, I look like I have lipstick mark around my knuckle. I'm sure it will be a spectacular bruise by tomorrow.

If I could just get my para to stop texting long enough to do his job I feel like things would be better. AT one point he was standing out in the hall with his phone talking to another teacher and watching the room. I admit, it made me feel really self conscious. Like they were saying, "Look at her, she can't even control her own room." But I feel like I could if I had actual adult support.

Trianing tonight was nice. I feel good now that I am learning some new techniques for when my kids get aggressive, and it was nice being with people who get it. I'm just hoping tomorrow will be better. (Fingers crossed for no bodily injury!)

 

[TLSnell1981]

Ugh. I just want to have one decent day. One! Is that too much to ask?

My kids were a total mess today. Mondays are always like that, but this one was spectacular. They were that weird combination of tired where they are exhausted and can't focus, but totally loopy to the point htey will not follow directions and are just crazy.

Sorry, I keep responding with song lyrics. I guess, I tend to use music in my coping skills.

It's just another manic Monday
I wish it was Sunday
'Cause that's my funday
My I don't have to runday
It's just another manic Monday

But, this is my favorite song....if I've had a bad day.

Runnin out of self-control
Gettin close to an overload
Up against a no win situation
Shoulder to shoulder, push and shove
Im hangin up my boxin gloves
Im ready for a long vacation

Be good to yourself when, nobody else will
Oh be good to yourself
Youre walkin a high wire, caught in a cross fire
Oh be good to yourself

When you cant give no more
They want it all but you gotta say no
Im turnin off the noise that makes me crazy
Lookin back with no regrets
To forgive is to forget
I want a little piece of mind to turn to....

\

 

[figment52]

Call your insurance agent first thing tomorrow, if you have their email,send them a note now. They will be prepared when she contacts them tomorrow, if she does.

It will get better.

NEVER MIND - I just noticed the date of your original post.

 

[momof1princess]

Ugh. I just want to have one decent day. One! Is that too much to ask?

My kids were a total mess today. Mondays are always like that, but this one was spectacular. They were that weird combination of tired where they are exhausted and can't focus, but totally loopy to the point htey will not follow directions and are just crazy.

I was so excited that my one tough case had a good day, and then in the last ten minutes he grabbed my hand and bit me on the knuckle. Hard. It was a good minute or two te get a release. We learned bite releases in my training, but they're for if somebody else is being bitten and require two hands. I tried to improvise, but wasn't able to do it myself. My para was out of the room at the time (he does that quite often.) Finally he walked by and I asked him to help. It's pretty red and swollen, I look like I have lipstick mark around my knuckle. I'm sure it will be a spectacular bruise by tomorrow.

If I could just get my para to stop texting long enough to do his job I feel like things would be better. AT one point he was standing out in the hall with his phone talking to another teacher and watching the room. I admit, it made me feel really self conscious. Like they were saying, "Look at her, she can't even control her own room." But I feel like I could if I had actual adult support.

Trianing tonight was nice. I feel good now that I am learning some new techniques for when my kids get aggressive, and it was nice being with people who get it. I'm just hoping tomorrow will be better. (Fingers crossed for no bodily injury!)

i pray your tomorrow is better!