Rain, Surprise Birthdays, Rain, First Visits -(Ginny is deceased-Prayers for her.)

[longing2Batdisney]

Hey! DEE
glad things are going well for you!!!
I gained 10#'s w/ Gwendolyn, 8#'s w/Dayne, and 0 yes zero pounds w/Ashton!!!
Now I did look and feel PG! My body loses weight (fat stores) while I'm PG! After I had Gwendolyn & Dayne I lost 20#'s w/in two wks of their birth--so the doctor said I actually gained the 20#'s he likes to see and with Ashton I was waaaay over weight when I got PG so I had to lose weight to be healthy; they only wanted me to gain about 10#'s for him--I lost 40#'s two wks after he was born.

Your body is probably pulling from stores you had to start with; as long as the baby is gaining and growing the doctors will be fine and you are doing GREAT!
You are not suppose to gain 75#'s like my SIL did! her sugar & BP was high from the wt gain!

Have a great evening and fun tonight! What fun picking out the baby stuff!!!!
Connie

 

[longing2Batdisney]

DH and I don't exchange gifts, either. Usually we just get something we can BOTH enjoy. Sometimes we exchange, but not often.

I know what you mean, Connie, about the holidays being stressful. My MIL usually makes them stressful for me. She wants to have it at her house all of the time, but whenever I want to do it at mine, the answer is NO. My house is the largest of all the houses and we have the most space to eat and spread out so that no one has to sit on the couch with their plate. Plus we have two living rooms so no one has to sit on the floor. I guess I'm being silly, but every once in awhile, I like to entertain, too. I don't know why she feels threatened if I want to do something.

I had so much food left over that eventually had to be thrown out. I was heart broken. DH doesn't really go out of his way to make me feel better when they are around. he just thinks I need to get over it and quit trying so hard. He just kind of starts acting like them. He's gotten better over the years, but he just can't help himself.



Whew! Sorry, didn't mean to go through all of that. The point I was trying to make was that the holidays are stressful for me too!

When I moved into this house 10yrs back; I started having Christmas DAy at my house! I was nice a few yrs in a row my family and Danny's family spent the day w/us. Danny's dad can't travel except for emergencies, now this past year was the first time we did not have CD at our house (SIL and nephew were only able to get together on that day)!
I always cook and have the big spread; but, I have always liked to stay home on CD so the kids can enjoy Santa's gifts.
I don't have the problem w/the snooty's; I just have the sharing of family time problem! Both my mom and Danny's mom want to have Christmas Eve at their house; use to be easy when they lived down the street from one another. Now, mom lives here by us and MIL still lives on southshore so that is an hour drive each way! For thanksgiving we try to do lunch at MIL for 11 and than dinner at my mom's house for 6:30! to ease the stress we have been trying to have Christmas at MIL's the weekend before; this way it ease's the stress on me and mom is happy! MIL really doesn't care anymore she just enjoys having the family together!

There I go again!

Hey, D! Isn't that so exciting to hear your baby's heartbeat? I never got tired of that the entire time I was pregnant. It was such a blessing listening to each little beat of that tiny little heart. Oh, I want to go back!!!

I cannot believe that you have not gained much weight. How lucky! I'd gained nearly twenty pounds by six months. The dr. told me she was gonna put me on a diet if I didn't quit. I couldn't help it! By the end, I totaled about thirty five pounds or so. Not too bad, I don't think.
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35#'s is a good weight; I'm sure you were skinny as a stick and needed it
my doc for the first two told me 25-30 #'s for the size I was at when I became PG!

Now, Dee I'm not saying you don't need to gain wt just don't be alarmed if your not gaining wt. The entire time I was pg w/Ashton, Danny was always trying to feed me! so I would gain wt! Doc told him to chill the baby was growing and my body was doing what it needed to do to keep me healthy!

Suppose to be doing our lessons; but, Fox and the HOund 2 is on and Ashton won't budge!

 

[deedeew80]

Yea, I'm not too concerned about the weight thing. However, DH is always trying to make me eat! LOL! He actually just called to ask if I ate lunch yet. I said no, not yet. He said, well you better eat something soon! LOL! He must think I sit home all day & never eat!

 

[aaaateamsgrandma]

OMG, I have some catching up to do.

Heather, I so love buying Christmas for kids. Now mine are grown and want $$$$$. Thanksgiving is my fav holiday cause everyone can get together and don't have to worry about competion. We generally have dinner at Sheris cause her table seats 14. We have Don's parents, my brothers and sis in law, generally Sandi, Tim and Alex and sometimes my nephew and wife and 3 girls. Mom doesn't come cause she won't leave her house. Most everyone has the Friday after off work so it works well. When you get to be my age presents aren't so important cause when I want something I go buy it.

Connie, passports is a great idea. Don and I have ours but none of the girls or families do. I think I will do that for them. Thanks for that. I so don't do much with my mom as everyone knows.

Get ready for this shocker. I called my mom last week and she commented how lucky I was that my girls get along and how it breaks a mom's heart when her children can't communicate. So I call my sister. ????????? I got her voice mail and left a big long message and she never called back. So last night I call my mom and told her how I had called Ruth but she didn't return my call. So after 1,000,000 excuses I was done. But no, I called Ruth again last night. Got the voice mail and was leaving a message and she picked up. We had a long (30) conversation while I was driving home. She is coming by my work today to get tomatoes from me. Yay for me.

Mel, I have done that route when I was young of cooking and no one (Don) saying it was good and thank you for the hard work. I vowed to never do it again. But vows are made to be broken. Now everyone likes my cooking. Don's mom is not a good cook except for bread and desserts. Her idea of spaghetti is noodles with tomato sauce. yum. I am lucky tho when we have family meals Sheri's DH Mike cooks lots of stuff too. Hang in there. It will get better.

D. I think that would be amazing to hear a heartbeat. Never got that chance. That's what happens when you are old. The Docs never did that kinda thing. Hope the diabetes test comes out well for you. My friend Cindy had gest. diabetes. Her son weighed 13.8 pounds. She is 6foot tho, but whoa.

I was a bad girl when pg with Sandi. I had a miscarriage at 4 months so I had gained with that one. Then pg with Sandi. So I ended up with a 60 pound gain. Don't ever do that. I lost all but 10 within 3 months. With Sheri I had miscarried at 5 months and had gained 15 pounds with that one, then got pg with Sheri. I lost 40 pounds while pg with her. Running after a 2 1/2 year old and bowling 3 days a week helped. I bowled the day before she was born. So I was pretty much where I needed to be at that point. It was the years after that have done me in. When my dad died in 87 I went on a diet so at graduation for Sandi I was in 10's again. Stayed that way till probaly 93 then I exploded. Just kidding. I didn't really explode, but my weight started building. In 98 I found out I was diabetic so I've struggled ever since. I was back down to 14's last year right after my ca surgery but now back up to 18's. Not liking it one bit. So you girls help me and let's get rid of this weight.

Connie. Kiss your boy for me.

Mel, Kiss your boy for me.

Heather, kiss your boys

D. Tell your little one Miss Ginny is thinking of him/her

 

[aprilisis]

Ginny, you have been through so much. I just wanted to send a your way.

 

[aaaateamsgrandma]

Ginny, you have been through so much. I just wanted to send a your way.

Thank you April. I love hugs. My boss (the psychiatrist) says I should be major depressed with all the things we went thru last year.

1. Dec 07, favorite cousin killed in car wreck. Other driver texting
2. Jan 08, cruise Best ever
3. Day back in the states, Boss calls the computers crashed, what to do
4. Found out nephew was missing
5. Got the real flu
6. Flood in the basement of our building at work. 7000 charts destroyed
7. Found nephews body
8. Funeral service
9. Found nodule on thyroid
10. Ultrasound and nucleur study
11. Biopsy
12. Father in law has bone ca
13. Surgery
14. Surgery
15. Radiation
16. Cruise. Excellent healer with family
17. New Years with family in Tennessee

Of course the worst of it all was losing my nephew. But it just seemed to pile one thing on another. Did I get depressed? Not really. I had blue moments but I knew my healer. Am I a better person for all of it? I hope so. I know it has made me realize just how short life is and how everyone in your life needs to know you love them. Don't take anything for granted.

I do admit I am on an antidepressent now. Not do to any of the struggles but due to the diabetes and thyroid medicines. They tend to cause anxiety and inablity to cope (which I hate) and my memory has gone to pot. I used to have the best memory and now it isn't. I would like to blame the age thing but I know better. I also struggle with words sometimes. Believe me when you are a talker that stinks.

 

[longing2Batdisney]

I am beginning to wonder about my memory! I know each time you have a baby it will affect it; I wonder if everything they say about sweet and low and artificial sweetners it true. I had what was very very close to a photographic memory. Now, my memory is horrible; I find I am even forgetting things about when Gwendolyn and Dayne were little. I'm too young to start with this type of memory loss. I blame it on a severe hormone imbalance that continues to go undiagnosed along with my hair! this problems of a person post menopause not premenopause!

I beleive to help you in your bad year; is the wonderful things that you and your family do together. Family, love, and fun can offset the worst of things!
Ginny ***don't know why I typed your name here you were really on my mind as I typed
that and whinny won't stop today connie

 

[aaaateamsgrandma]

I am beginning to wonder about my memory! I know each time you have a baby it will affect it; I wonder if everything they say about sweet and low and artificial sweetners it true. I had what was very very close to a photographic memory. Now, my memory is horrible; I find I am even forgetting things about when Gwendolyn and Dayne were little. I'm too young to start with this type of memory loss. I blame it on a severe hormone imbalance that continues to go undiagnosed along with my hair! this problems of a person post menopause not premenopause!

I beleive to help you in your bad year; is the wonderful things that you and your family do together. Family, love, and fun can offset the worst of things!
Ginny

I avoid aspertame at all costs. It messes with you stomach and your memory. I don't seem to have a problem with spenda or the new stuff, whatever it is called. I have been post menopausal for 10 years so I do think that has affected it also.

I know for a fact HE was with me in my year of Yuck. Cause it really was. Because I had so many good things that happened too it has made the bad bearable. Bad things happen to good people all the time. It's how you handle them that makes them not so bad. I know my girls became closer than ever and that is a big blessing in my life. So believe me no complaing here. It just makes for a stronger person. You know that with Ashton and what he had to go through.

 

[MICKEY4EVER!]

Ginny, this is for you! You have had a rough year. Bless you. I know who brought you through all of that and you are much stronger b/c of it. I'm just sorry you had to lose dear loved ones in the process. Here's another . I know you like them! Mitchell sends one your way, also!

On the cooking subject, I'm tooting my own horn, here, but everything I cooked that Thanksgiving was so good. I was so proud of myself. I can be a good cook when I want to be, even DH says so and Mitchell thinks I'm the best "cooker" in the world! I guess I just wanted DH's family to say thank you. I didn't really want praise, but I was looking forward to seeing them enjoy it, at least and perhaps take some home to enjoy later. Their mother (my MIL) is very competitive when it comes to me, and she can't cook very well. She makes excellent chicken dressing and corn casserole, but that's about it. Everything else comes out of a can. On Thanksgiving, I prefer not to have that metallic flavor in my food. But for some reason, her kids can sense that she's feeling insecure about the food situation, and whether it's at my house or MIL's, whatever dish I bring, no one touches, not even DH.

Whatever I prepared, he always leaves off his plate. It hurts my feelings and he's been home, so he knows how hard I worked on the dish, but he'd rather have the canned baked beans. Ugh! And if I bring rolls, I usually bring the good kind, like the yeast rolls that have to rise three hours before you cook them, she'll put out the plain rolls (just in case). And guess which rolls the kids get? The plain rolls! Not the ones I paid extra for and watched so carefully for three hours waiting for the "perfect" moment to put them in the oven! They drive me crazy. Ginny, ask your boss what I have! Cause I definitely have issues!

 

[aaaateamsgrandma]

Ginny, this is for you! You have had a rough year. Bless you. I know who brought you through all of that and you are much stronger b/c of it. I'm just sorry you had to lose dear loved ones in the process. Here's another . I know you like them! Mitchell sends one your way, also!

On the cooking subject, I'm tooting my own horn, here, but everything I cooked that Thanksgiving was so good. I was so proud of myself. I can be a good cook when I want to be, even DH says so and Mitchell thinks I'm the best "cooker" in the world! I guess I just wanted DH's family to say thank you. I didn't really want praise, but I was looking forward to seeing them enjoy it, at least and perhaps take some home to enjoy later. Their mother (my MIL) is very competitive when it comes to me, and she can't cook very well. She makes excellent chicken dressing and corn casserole, but that's about it. Everything else comes out of a can. On Thanksgiving, I prefer not to have that metallic flavor in my food. But for some reason, her kids can sense that she's feeling insecure about the food situation, and whether it's at my house or MIL's, whatever dish I bring, no one touches, not even DH.

Whatever I prepared, he always leaves off his plate. It hurts my feelings and he's been home, so he knows how hard I worked on the dish, but he'd rather have the canned baked beans. Ugh! And if I bring rolls, I usually bring the good kind, like the yeast rolls that have to rise three hours before you cook them, she'll put out the plain rolls (just in case). And guess which rolls the kids get? The plain rolls! Not the ones I paid extra for and watched so carefully for three hours waiting for the "perfect" moment to put them in the oven! They drive me crazy. Ginny, ask your boss what I have! Cause I definitely have issues!

I know exactly what you have (I don't have to ask). It's a mother in law who is so jealous she can't stand it. First you took her little boy and second, he's happy. How dare you. As a mom I can't imagine not wanting your children to be happy adults but there are all kinds out there. Your next problem is you want acknowledgement for what you have done. You so deserve it. That is a normal feeling. It is too sad that mom can make DH feel guilty if he praises you. He needs to learn to stand up for you and say something. Chances of it happening are slim. Remember, he was raised this way. Changes are very hard for men. They have been told their whole life that Mom is best. And if dad is in agreement with that statement Dh doesn't stand a chance. If it were me I would limit my time with them. Don't do dinners for them. Continue to let her feel in charge. If you do say something to her she will just cry on DH's shoulder and make you the bad guy. Don't make him choose.

Next time you make those rolls mail me one. I love homemade bread. But that is why I have my MIL. She is awesome. No food, just bread.

Just keep doing what you can and trust me Mitchell sees all of this. Just teach him differently that some day when he becomes an adult you want him to find someone to make him happy. When he does, treat her as she deserves, not that she stole your son. You don't steal a son. A son chooses you.

 

[longing2Batdisney]

Ginny, have a great weekend!! since we won't hear from you again until Sunday!

Mel, try bringing something that is not a duplicate. and next do like I do now; I just buy a frozen pie or one from Cracker Barrel. That way my feelings are not longer hurt!!! the past years I have just given up...

I know how it feels; my MIL never wants me to bring anything
last year I bought a turkey breast (because she said she was only cooking a gumbo--and Gwendolyn & Danny wanted turkey and dressing/so she agreed to do the dressing but not the turkey) well earlier in the week she told Danny that our nephew got a turkey from work and that he and SIL were going to cook it! than on Tuesday she tells Danny that nephew has to work and the turkey is at his appt frozen an hour & half from his mom. So, I took out the turkey put it in a brine and baked it Wednesday! MIL called to say that SIL was doing the turkey! I about had a fit!!! No I did, I had a major fit!!! well we brought the turkey anyway!! hers was all dried out my was awesome (pat on the back--both MIL & SIL had to agree ) but, If I do dessert, they already have it, if I do a veggie they already have it,
whatever!!!!

 

[MICKEY4EVER!]

I know exactly what you have (I don't have to ask). It's a mother in law who is so jealous she can't stand it. First you took her little boy and second, he's happy. How dare you. As a mom I can't imagine not wanting your children to be happy adults but there are all kinds out there. Your next problem is you want acknowledgement for what you have done. You so deserve it. That is a normal feeling. It is too sad that mom can make DH feel guilty if he praises you. He needs to learn to stand up for you and say something. Chances of it happening are slim. Remember, he was raised this way. Changes are very hard for men. They have been told their whole life that Mom is best. And if dad is in agreement with that statement Dh doesn't stand a chance. If it were me I would limit my time with them. Don't do dinners for them. Continue to let her feel in charge. If you do say something to her she will just cry on DH's shoulder and make you the bad guy. Don't make him choose.

Next time you make those rolls mail me one. I love homemade bread. But that is why I have my MIL. She is awesome. No food, just bread.

Just keep doing what you can and trust me Mitchell sees all of this. Just teach him differently that some day when he becomes an adult you want him to find someone to make him happy. When he does, treat her as she deserves, not that she stole your son. You don't steal a son. A son chooses you.

You hit the nail on the head. You know, she did cry that Thanksgiving, too, now that I think about it. It was something that I said, apparently, but no one could figure out what it was. All I know is she sat on the couch and cried like a baby and wouldn't speak to me for a LONG time afterwards. Whatever! I tried to talk to her about it the next day, but she would have no part of it. I wanted to make amends, but she got mad at me for trying. Some people. You just can't please 'em!

I appreciate the information on how sons feel about their mothers and wives. It helps to hear it from a third-party. Makes total sense to me, but it also seems as if it's just something I'm gonna have to live with. It would be nice for DH stand up for me. I've asked him to point blank in times past, but he says that's between me and his mom and he's out of it. But you can tell I'm the one to blame in his eyes. He doesn't say it, but I know him well enough to know that his mom isn't the bad guy. That's okay. After nine years of marriage and six years of dating before that, I'm kind of gettin' used to it!

I wanted to tell you Ginny that I was proud of you for calling your mom and your sister. You are DEFINITELY the bigger person. Who knows? A relationship may pop out of this. If HE is in it, then good will come of it!

 

[longing2Batdisney]

I appreciate the information on how sons feel about their mothers and wives. It helps to hear it from a third-party. Makes total sense to me, but it also seems as if it's just something I'm gonna have to live with. It would be nice for DH stand up for me. I've asked him to point blank in times past, but he says that's between me and his mom and he's out of it. But you can tell I'm the one to blame in his eyes. He doesn't say it, but I know him well enough to know that his mom isn't the bad guy. That's okay. After nine years of marriage and six years of dating before that, I'm kind of gettin' used to it!

WOW, your MIL is a drama queen! is there a FIL; if not at what point in DH and MIL's life was the departure? was DH the only one in her immediate life before you came along? just curious as to why he feels it is between you and her! cause in all reality it is between him and her! the purse strings NEED to be cut! I just don't think I could do that to my child!

although it hurts your feelings and he knows it; you are a wonderful person for trying!!! I don't think I could...

similiar situatuion:
my girlfriend across the street tried all that when the grandbaby came along w/her son and his girlfriend. Even wanted him to leave her and take the baby and she was going to raise the baby!
Well, the girlfriend gave him the ultamatium (sp?) him or his mom and no he could NOT have custody of the baby w/o a court fight! He chose the girlfriend and baby!!! did not speak to his parents for about 6mo. When she finally apologized! Now, there is alot to the story as you can imagine and both parties were very wrong! but, I was always proud when he had to make the choice he choose his GF and child.

 

[deedeew80]

Well, I guess I'll jump in on the MIL conversation! My MIL is CRAZY!!! She is so the kind of mother who thinks NO ONE is good enough for any of her sons! She has 4. Her oldest is married & just had his first baby. He dated his wife for about 7 years before they were married. Both have great jobs, great house, basically they are set! However, when it came time for him to marry, she kept saying how he was not ready for marriage! He was like 26 or 27 yrs old!!! What?! And she always talks crap on his wife! Then there is DH's twin brother. He just got married in May. However, had a baby 3 yrs ago. He has been with his wife since HS! Long time! She got pregnant, they bought a house, then got married. MIL did not want him moving out just because he was having a baby! Then she thought he shouldn't get married. She thinks he wouldn't be married now if it wasn't for the baby. Also, she use to talk crap on this girl too. Now they are like BFF! Weird! Then there is her youngest, who still lives at home, goes from girl to girl. She has yet to like any of his girlfriends! LOL! Now onto DH and I! Of course out of all her sons, I get the one who is the biggest mommas boy! Well, she didn't like me from the beginning! I am 3 yrs older than DH. I met him in March 2003. He was 19, turning 20 in April and I was 22, turning 23 in May. She thought I was some crazy older girl! She wouldn't allow me in their house for the longest time. Finally, DH did put his foot down. To this day, I know she prob doesn't like me! She talks crap on everyone else, so I'm sure she does the same. I could go on forever about this woman. DH and I were married in Oct. 2008. We had a pretty big wedding. But we went as inexpensive as we could because we were paying for it ourselves. MIL thought how could we have this huge wedding without it costing us like $20,000 - $30,000! What?! Ours cost about $12,000. Then I got pregnant on our Honeymoon! She thought that was way too soon. Well, that is how we wanted it! Then I miscarried in Dec. She said, I guess it wasn't meant to be. Then I got pregnant again. When we tell her, she says she's happy for us, but forgive her for not being more excited because to her it's just another grandbaby to add to the bunch she already has!! Then FIL says, are you sure this time, it's not a false alarm!!!! Well, DH claims he didn't "hear" any of these things said! Whatever!!! I don't even care anymore. I just deal with them when I have to & that is that. I do not and will not go out of my way. The weird thing is, DH knows exactly how they are. But he won't say one word about it till he is mad about something, then he goes off!! Well, like I said, I could go on all day about thie IN LAWS!!! Sorry it's so long already!

 

[aaaateamsgrandma]

All of you girls. Really big hugs. My mil always liked me but Don was her oldest. We went together all thru high school and got married the Dec after I gradated. She still had 4 small children at home so she didn't bother us too much and we lived 100 miles away. There were times I felt she wasn't nice to me but once I had kids she turned completely around. When Sandi was a year old mil had a baby (very unexpected) the following year I had Sheri. Their little boy was born with heart problems and died before his 3rd birthday. My heart broke for them. It was so sad. But it seemed after that she and I became really close and it has been great ever since. And she loves my kids and grandkids. Each and every one. No favorites here, unlike my mom. If it's favorites it is Sandi cause she is the oldest grand and Austin cause he is the oldest great grand.

Connie is right Mel, Buy something premade to take. Don't put forth any effort. It's not worth getting your heart broken by someone so callus. I pray that DH comes around for you. He needs to.

D.

She said, I guess it wasn't meant to be

. Let me at that woman. For someone who has had 2 miscarriages that is so uncalled for. Sheri was pg with Austin before she married his birth father. It so doesn't matter how these babies come, everyone is a blessing. We feel very fortunate that Sheri's and Austin's outcome was so good. A lady I worked with had just had a baby when we found out about Aust and she had just had a baby. She said "I'm sorry Sheri broke your heart". I couldn't believe this good Christian girl said that. I just looked at her and said "every baby is a blessing. You may not like the circumstances of how they come but you will still love the baby. My daughter would never break my heart with comments like that."

I am thankful that I have not had the situation that you girls have had and I would so not wish that on anyone.

Have a great weekend. I should post after the game tonite.

Ginny

 

[aaaateamsgrandma]

I hope you are not sick of seeing Austin's (#52) behind in a football jersey. Seems like that is as close as I can get to him.

I had previously stated they were playing the team that has #1 in the state for the past 8 years. They kinda beat us 56-7. Yes you read that right. At the second half it was 49-7 so both teams put in the whole secondary teams. No chance of getting the varsity hurt. No major dramas like last week. Aust almost intercepted the ball in the endzone. At least he did stop a touchdown for the other team. Like it mattered. He of course gets banged and bruised. His friend Josh (6'2", 300 pounds) was playing center and Austin's best friend Joel (6'4" , 220 pounds) fell over his shoulder. When I last heard from Aust, Josh was at the hospital getting an MRI. He is such a great kid. I hope he will be ok.

Austin does the punt return after a TD and the place kicker. So he did have some really good kicks tonight. So a kid on the other team caught it and ran all the back for a TD.

#75 is Josh. He is a big boy.

Everyone have a great day tomorrow and think of me at 'the reunion'.

 

[MICKEY4EVER!]

Ginny, have a great weekend!! since we won't hear from you again until Sunday!

Mel, try bringing something that is not a duplicate. and next do like I do now; I just buy a frozen pie or one from Cracker Barrel. That way my feelings are not longer hurt!!! the past years I have just given up...

I know how it feels; my MIL never wants me to bring anything
last year I bought a turkey breast (because she said she was only cooking a gumbo--and Gwendolyn & Danny wanted turkey and dressing/so she agreed to do the dressing but not the turkey) well earlier in the week she told Danny that our nephew got a turkey from work and that he and SIL were going to cook it! than on Tuesday she tells Danny that nephew has to work and the turkey is at his appt frozen an hour & half from his mom. So, I took out the turkey put it in a brine and baked it Wednesday! MIL called to say that SIL was doing the turkey! I about had a fit!!! No I did, I had a major fit!!! well we brought the turkey anyway!! hers was all dried out my was awesome (pat on the back--both MIL & SIL had to agree ) but, If I do dessert, they already have it, if I do a veggie they already have it,
whatever!!!!

You know what's funny? I will have talked it over with MIL EXACTLY what I'm bringing so there won't be any duplicates. I'll tell her, I'M BRINGING THE ROLLS. And every single time, there will be rolls before I get there. Ugh. So irritating. The last get together we had, I just didn't bring anything at all. Nobody noticed!

WOW, your MIL is a drama queen! is there a FIL; if not at what point in DH and MIL's life was the departure? was DH the only one in her immediate life before you came along? just curious as to why he feels it is between you and her! cause in all reality it is between him and her! the purse strings NEED to be cut! I just don't think I could do that to my child!

although it hurts your feelings and he knows it; you are a wonderful person for trying!!! I don't think I could...

similiar situatuion:
my girlfriend across the street tried all that when the grandbaby came along w/her son and his girlfriend. Even wanted him to leave her and take the baby and she was going to raise the baby!
Well, the girlfriend gave him the ultamatium (sp?) him or his mom and no he could NOT have custody of the baby w/o a court fight! He chose the girlfriend and baby!!! did not speak to his parents for about 6mo. When she finally apologized! Now, there is alot to the story as you can imagine and both parties were very wrong! but, I was always proud when he had to make the choice he choose his GF and child.

FIL passed away about two years after DH and I married. The clinginess got really, really bad at that time. It was almost more than I could take, except I knew she was mourning. But you know what? MIL & FIL only co-existed in the same house. She told me many times that she only tolerated him and there was no love there. But even still, she lost her husband to cancer, and I know that had to be hard. She had two other children to go to also, but my DH was the one she turned to every time. It was wierd, it was almost like she wanted husbandly comfort from him, not the type of comfort a son would offer. I just chalked it up to me being jealous from all the attention he was giving her and her lapping it up like a puppy. I've def had bitter thoughts!

Good for the guy who chose his GF and baby over Mom. Seriously, WHAT was she thinking????? I hope I don't become a crazy mother.

Well, I guess I'll jump in on the MIL conversation! My MIL is CRAZY!!! She is so the kind of mother who thinks NO ONE is good enough for any of her sons! She has 4. Her oldest is married & just had his first baby. He dated his wife for about 7 years before they were married. Both have great jobs, great house, basically they are set! However, when it came time for him to marry, she kept saying how he was not ready for marriage! He was like 26 or 27 yrs old!!! What?! And she always talks crap on his wife! Then there is DH's twin brother. He just got married in May. However, had a baby 3 yrs ago. He has been with his wife since HS! Long time! She got pregnant, they bought a house, then got married. MIL did not want him moving out just because he was having a baby! Then she thought he shouldn't get married. She thinks he wouldn't be married now if it wasn't for the baby. Also, she use to talk crap on this girl too. Now they are like BFF! Weird! Then there is her youngest, who still lives at home, goes from girl to girl. She has yet to like any of his girlfriends! LOL! Now onto DH and I! Of course out of all her sons, I get the one who is the biggest mommas boy! Well, she didn't like me from the beginning! I am 3 yrs older than DH. I met him in March 2003. He was 19, turning 20 in April and I was 22, turning 23 in May. She thought I was some crazy older girl! She wouldn't allow me in their house for the longest time. Finally, DH did put his foot down. To this day, I know she prob doesn't like me! She talks crap on everyone else, so I'm sure she does the same. I could go on forever about this woman. DH and I were married in Oct. 2008. We had a pretty big wedding. But we went as inexpensive as we could because we were paying for it ourselves. MIL thought how could we have this huge wedding without it costing us like $20,000 - $30,000! What?! Ours cost about $12,000. Then I got pregnant on our Honeymoon! She thought that was way too soon. Well, that is how we wanted it! Then I miscarried in Dec. She said, I guess it wasn't meant to be. Then I got pregnant again. When we tell her, she says she's happy for us, but forgive her for not being more excited because to her it's just another grandbaby to add to the bunch she already has!! Then FIL says, are you sure this time, it's not a false alarm!!!! Well, DH claims he didn't "hear" any of these things said! Whatever!!! I don't even care anymore. I just deal with them when I have to & that is that. I do not and will not go out of my way. The weird thing is, DH knows exactly how they are. But he won't say one word about it till he is mad about something, then he goes off!! Well, like I said, I could go on all day about thie IN LAWS!!! Sorry it's so long already!

This is a juicy topic! Welcome aboard! Your MIL sounds a lot like mine. She literally BEGGED me not to marry my DH the day before our wedding. She told me he had cheated on me and everything. After all, she was his mother. She knew these things. Whatever. I came home that night crying hysterically and DH was there. I told him what happened, but he just shrugged it off. If it had been my mother saying those kind of things about me, I'd have been livid, but he didn't seem to care. He didn't care that she had made me so upset,either. Or at least he didn't seem to.

And when that episode was brought up a couple of years after the wedding with MIL, do you know what she said? "I never said such a thing to you! Mel, I don't know where you come up with these things!" She has done that with other things on more than one occasion. I swear, she tries to make me look crazy in front of DH.

And she kept telling me I was going to miscarry the entire time I was pregnant with Mitchell. I was terrified something bad was gonna happen, up until I gave birth. Then she told me how big I was and how my rear end had grown as much as my stomach had. Her daughter was two months ahead of me in pregnancy and she was losing weight, so MIL thought that I shouldn't let myself get too big because nobody liked a fat girl. Yes, she said it.

Sorry, I could go on about this subject ALL DAY!

All of you girls. Really big hugs. My mil always liked me but Don was her oldest. We went together all thru high school and got married the Dec after I gradated. She still had 4 small children at home so she didn't bother us too much and we lived 100 miles away. There were times I felt she wasn't nice to me but once I had kids she turned completely around. When Sandi was a year old mil had a baby (very unexpected) the following year I had Sheri. Their little boy was born with heart problems and died before his 3rd birthday. My heart broke for them. It was so sad. But it seemed after that she and I became really close and it has been great ever since. And she loves my kids and grandkids. Each and every one. No favorites here, unlike my mom. If it's favorites it is Sandi cause she is the oldest grand and Austin cause he is the oldest great grand.

I am glad that you and your MIL have become so close now. I always wanted that, but now I don't really. I just tolerate my MIL now, but she has seemed to come around more now that I don't seem to WANT it as badly. Strange how when you pull back they come to you, huh? That is so sad that your MIL's little boy died. How tragic. But something good came from it. That is how HE works.

Connie is right Mel, Buy something premade to take. Don't put forth any effort. It's not worth getting your heart broken by someone so callus. I pray that DH comes around for you. He needs to.

Good sound advice from Connie. I will definitely take it and apply it to the next family get together!

D. . Let me at that woman. For someone who has had 2 miscarriages that is so uncalled for. Sheri was pg with Austin before she married his birth father. It so doesn't matter how these babies come, everyone is a blessing. We feel very fortunate that Sheri's and Austin's outcome was so good. A lady I worked with had just had a baby when we found out about Aust and she had just had a baby. She said "I'm sorry Sheri broke your heart". I couldn't believe this good Christian girl said that. I just looked at her and said "every baby is a blessing. You may not like the circumstances of how they come but you will still love the baby. My daughter would never break my heart with comments like that."

I know. That is such the WRONG thing to say to a woman who has just lost a child. Some people don't think before they talk.

I am thankful that I have not had the situation that you girls have had and I would so not wish that on anyone.

Me neither.

 

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I hope you are not sick of seeing Austin's (#52) behind in a football jersey. Seems like that is as close as I can get to him.

I had previously stated they were playing the team that has #1 in the state for the past 8 years. They kinda beat us 56-7. Yes you read that right. At the second half it was 49-7 so both teams put in the whole secondary teams. No chance of getting the varsity hurt. No major dramas like last week. Aust almost intercepted the ball in the endzone. At least he did stop a touchdown for the other team. Like it mattered. He of course gets banged and bruised. His friend Josh (6'2", 300 pounds) was playing center and Austin's best friend Joel (6'4" , 220 pounds) fell over his shoulder. When I last heard from Aust, Josh was at the hospital getting an MRI. He is such a great kid. I hope he will be ok.

Austin does the punt return after a TD and the place kicker. So he did have some really good kicks tonight. So a kid on the other team caught it and ran all the back for a TD.

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#75 is Josh. He is a big boy.

Everyone have a great day tomorrow and think of me at 'the reunion'.

Awesome update, Ginny! Sorry your team got beat, but hopefully everyone had fun. I will be thinking of you today. I hope everything goes well. Please let us know!

 

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aww Ginny! I feel so bad for the guys. I hope Josh is OK! a lose is hard but to loose that big of a lose is really really hard; it hurts the ego!

Hope your reunion is a fun one!!! and I know you are able to make any outing fun!!!
Later
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Ginny, I hope the reunion goes OK. If it is like here it is raining so that will cut out on some of the "extra" stuff. I hope you have a safe trip.