Raglan Road--a band member almost ruined my evening

[Lucky4me]

I should have remembered that people in these boards get offended easily.

Let's go over this once more. A guy trying to set up his band, most likely in a big hurry, looks over and notices a chair not in use at your table. Your table right next to the stage. I assume there was no place setting or glass there, am I right? He takes the chair. I don't see the problem. Not one little bit. Could he have asked? Yes he could have. Was it rude that he didn't? Absolutely not as the chair was EMPTY, therefore not really yours in the first place.

Since you've told this much, could you please tell the rest? Maybe we could then understand why you were so upset that it ruined the rest of your evening.

 

[OhMari]

To everyone who beat me up, I apologize. I did not mean to insult anyone. I was making a sarcastic statement and I should have remembered that people in these boards get offended easily. I am hispanic myself and I am subject to much ethnic jokes/comments/stereotypes and should have been more sensitive.

As far as ruining my evening... well, I see that people don't agree with me because you just weren't there. I didn't let it ruin my evening. I just don't feel like patronizing someone who was so very rude... and I did not tell the full story, but just the jist of it. I don't want to get into it. I just didn't expect to be flamed in this way. I've managed to survive a lot of years posting on these boards without being flamed by not posting personal opinions. I should have kept it that way.

Again, for those of Irish descent, my sincere apologies. I do not think Irish are rude people at all.... I was just mad and you say stupid things when you are....

Next time, I'll remember not to post.

Hey, I see that we joined at the same time. I was sort of like you in the beginning, mostly a lurker and just read posts. For some reason I go in streaks and respond, but mostly I like to just read.

I posted a new thread about Howard Stern and I said the guy is a scum bag. Right now there is over 100 posts made to that thread. I should of asked the mods to close it today, I didn't know that many people actually enjoy listening to him on the radio. I happened to catch his show last nite on the E channel and it was horrible.

I wanted to respond back to a lot of the people, but I thought if I went into an explanation, I would of been thrown off the DIS. That kind of conversation was not meant at all for the DIS.

So don't let your thread get you down, it happens to a lot of us.

Have a better tomorrow.

 

[nicolemarie]

Howard Stern IS a scum bag.

 

[Aimeedyan]

It does sound like this ruined your meal and your exp that night and I'm sorry to hear that... I have learned that I alone have control over my happiness and would never let something so minor ruin a night out (this is VERY VERY VERY minor! it's just a CHAIR!). I hope someday you can reach that point as well.

Life is too short!

 

[dsanner106]

Having just returned from Ireland a couple weeks ago, I can say that the many Irish people we encountered we without exception, very friendly. I try to remind myself that no one can ruin your evening unless you let them. If someone is rude, I just feel sorry for them and move on.
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[AllyBri]

I don't think the OP is serious. Just having a little fun with everyone.

 

[RyMickey]

I'm just surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet...

 

[cstraub]

Howard Stern IS a scum bag.

OT~ I posted about him on a different thread- someone was going to miss listening to him!!!!??? I'm with you, he disgusts me!

 

[alabamagirl]

Another Howard Stern hater here too. I also caught a glimpse of his show last night on E! and it was so gross and demeaning to women.

Sorry, don't mean to hijack the thread, but I don't think anyone really has anything new to say to the OP, except get over yourself!

 

[susan1]

hi
as flame suits are one size fits all, i happen to agree with the op, it was an extremely rude thing to do, i probably would have said " do you mind, you could have asked first" and left it at that. i wouldn't have let it ruin my evening, but then i wouldn't have been in an irish pub in the first place. i like to try and find different things to do oin holiday that i can't do at home

 

[Robo]

To everyone who beat me up, I apologize. I did not mean to insult anyone. I was making a sarcastic statement and I should have remembered that people in these boards get offended easily. I am hispanic myself and I am subject to much ethnic jokes/comments/stereotypes and should have been more sensitive...

Next time, I'll remember not to post.

Here's the problem (as I see it) as to why you got so many negative responses:

When you POSTED this thread (especially with such a VOLATILE subject line, "...RUINED my evening") you had to expect some sort of RESPONSE (otherwise, why put it on a public forum?)
You even made TWO posts of it, as you said it was in your trip report.
You REALLY wanted folks to hear this story!

If you had ONLY stated the fact that the chair was taken and that you told the manager...

Here are (basically) the only responses possible:

1. "Oh my, that was terrible, I am so sorry. It would have ruined my evening too."

2. "That was nothing. Why did it upset you?"

3. "This must be some sort of joke."

BUT, since you added the "Irish unfriendly" comment, you virtually INVITED the flame-throwers.

Some negative responses are purely "flames" (negatives just to INCITE anger), but some negative ones are genuine SHOCK.
Either way, ALL might be taken as lessons in how to interact in public discussions. We can learn every day.

 

[DVCconvert]

duplicated post

 

[DVCconvert]

this small act of rudeness ruined what would have been an otherwise great experience

All of this could have been avoided if you'd only switched to Decaf !

 

[ctrabada]

Look, most people don't understand and that's fine. I thought I could vent here because I truly felt this community were friends. Obviously, I did not communicate properly... one of the disadvantages of writing instead of speaking... but the flaming really got to me.

As I said before, I did not mean to insult anyone. That's why I apologized. I still got flamed after that. So, let me offer my sincere apologies again and ask that this subject be closed.

It will take quite some time for me to post on these boards again. Some people's answers were just mean and really meant to hurt me. And they did. Again, to those I offended, I'm sorry. Goodbye.

 

[hockeygirl]

You shouldn't be offended, use it as a lesson to think about how other people might react when they read your post. Personally, I was shocked when I read your post, I couldn't believe that you posted that on this forum, because I knew you would get the response that you did. I don't post that much, but I always read what people have to say, and I knew what was going to happen, you should have to.

I don't think this is a reason to not post anymore, that is ridiculous!

 

[Bill From PA]

Howard Rocks!!!!

 

[Robo]

It will take quite some time for me to post on these boards again. Some people's answers were just mean and really meant to hurt me. And they did. Again, to those I offended, I'm sorry. Goodbye.

Ah, the DRAMA.

Ah, the FEELINGS.

I'm HURT! Goodbye!

(As a famous man once said, "You won't have ME to kick around anymore.")

Hey, this is a PUBLIC forum.

If you ONLY want SYMPATHY, make a phone call to your best friend.

If you want DISCUSSION, post it on an international bulletin board.

You obviously did the latter.
Just let it roll-off your back and join in the DIS.

 

[cleo]

Closing at OP's request.