question for Catholics re: marriage

[NAB]

Were you not taught to hold your hands in a certain way?
I made my First Communion almost 3 decades ago and we were taught the correct placement of the hands, although I don't recall it being referrenced to a throne.

Yes you always put your left over your right hand so that you always pick up the host with your right hand and say "Amen"

I remember getting host on the tongue and kneeling down with the thing under your chin so it didn't fall on the floor. Now we form lines and just go up for communion. Church is different from when I was a kid and even more different when my mom when and the priest back was to you and it was all done in Latin.

Times are changing. All Catholic churches are different and that is why I think they need to to to the church in question. Some don't even kneel down anymore ours still do.

 

[mvazul]

No need to shout. Here is the way your quote was worded:



You were using an absolute in this statement, which from the first quote of yours itself states that there are exceptions..so.....your absolute is untrue!

I apologize. I didn't mean to shout. My posts aren't posting right and I couldn't bold it. Yes, unfortunately, I did use an absolute. Didn't mean to. It was meant for the church I grew up in specifically. I will stand by every priest/church/diocese are different.

 

[LiLIrishChick63]

i'm pretty sure catholic preists won't marry outside of a catholic church. i know they've changed the rule now, you can marry someone of a different religion but not outside of an actual church.

 

[mjkacmom]

I've never heard of the term 'throne' either. I'm assuming it's what most do when receiving in the hand?

I bow my head before receiving, and I say Amen and I receive in the mouth...but I only occassionally do the sign of the cross as it's not necessary.

Really? I always do the sign of the cross, and have never seen anyone NOT do it. My kids were taught to do it as well when making their First Communion.

 

[okeydokey]

Really? I always do the sign of the cross, and have never seen anyone NOT do it. My kids were taught to do it as well when making their First Communion.

At our church they are teaching the kids that it is not necessary to do the sign of the cross. The eucharist is a blessing in itself so there is no need to bless yourself either.

Things are certainly changing. We teach the baptism class in our church and it is different than when I was a kid.

 

[nmmom95]

Really? I always do the sign of the cross, and have never seen anyone NOT do it. My kids were taught to do it as well when making their First Communion.

I was taught that it is not necessary. I went to Catholic school for 12 years, and we didn't have to. Maybe it's regional? I have seen a lot of people do it.

 

[luvmy3]

Yes you always put your left over your right hand so that you always pick up the host with your right hand and say "Amen"

I remember getting host on the tongue and kneeling down with the thing under your chin so it didn't fall on the floor. Now we form lines and just go up for communion. Church is different from when I was a kid and even more different when my mom when and the priest back was to you and it was all done in Latin.

Times are changing. All Catholic churches are different and that is why I think they need to to to the church in question. Some don't even kneel down anymore ours still do.

Once a month I would attend Mass at a different Church than my own because they performed it in Latin, this wasn't so long ago and they still do it once a month today and my Dad now takes my Grandmother instead of me.
She does not touch the host, she accepts it on her tongue, which is how she began doing it. We would always kneel after the taking but our church no longer had people kneel in front of the altar to recieve it, they just lined up single file. I don't attend Mass anymore but imagine its still done that way there.
I definitely agree that the OP's brother and bride to be just need to meet with the priest to make sure they are able to do what they have in mind. This thread definitely shows that the same rules do not apply in all Catholic churches.

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I apologize. I didn't mean to shout. My posts aren't posting right and I couldn't bold it. Yes, unfortunately, I did use an absolute. Didn't mean to. It was meant for the church I grew up in specifically. I will stand by every priest/church/diocese are different.

No problem. I agree, and we were very lucky to come across very lenient priests for our marriage. I don't know if my DMIL greased the palm or not, but it was very laid back. I know that some priests are very strict!

My favorite wedding priest was when my good friend was married in a small Irish Catholic chapel. The wedding was at 3:00 in the afternoon on a Saturday.The very cute (can I say that?) short, stocky Irish priest finished Mass and told the congregation that since it was after 5 in Ireland, that this Mass counted for Sunday.

 

[wdwfan16]

Once a month I would attend Mass at a different Church than my own because they performed it in Latin, this wasn't so long ago and they still do it once a month today and my Dad now takes my Grandmother instead of me.
She does not touch the host, she accepts it on her tongue, which is how she began doing it. We would always kneel after the taking but our church no longer had people kneel in front of the altar to recieve it, they just lined up single file. I don't attend Mass anymore but imagine its still done that way there.
I definitely agree that the OP's brother and bride to be just need to meet with the priest to make sure they are able to do what they have in mind. This thread definitely shows that the same rules do not apply in all Catholic churches.

From my experience that it has always been that way. One ethnic church did it different from another. They could literally be right next to each other and have differences.

I remember a church, when I was young, that you would kneel at a railing to get communion. I liked it that way. Maybe my being a child and it not being our Church is why I found it likable.. Of course then you had a railing between the Priest and congregation.

 

[mjkacmom]

I was taught that it is not necessary. I went to Catholic school for 12 years, and we didn't have to. Maybe it's regional? I have seen a lot of people do it.

LOL - I'm in NJ, and have lived here my entire life. However, I'm in north Jersey, the land of the Sopranos, many 2nd and 3rd generation Italians. People here still have "Lady of the Lawn" statues.

 

[wdwfan16]

LOL - I'm in NJ, and have lived here my entire life. However, I'm in north Jersey, the land of the Sopranos, many 2nd and 3rd generation Italians. People here still have "Lady of the Lawn" statues.

Where I grew up we called them "Bath tub Marys".

 

[luvmy3]

From my experience that it has always been that way. One ethnic church did it different from another. They could literally be right next to each other and have differences.

I remember a church, when I was young, that you would kneel at a railing to get communion. I liked it that way. Maybe my being a child and it not being our Church is why I found it likable.. Of course then you had a railing between the Priest and congregation.

When I made my First Communion that is how it was done in our Church. Ours was a very traditional Church with an ornate altar, and the railing wasn't really a railing but more of just part of the altar made of marble that extended from one side of the Church to the other. There was a very large space in between where the Altar itself was so that when the priest was performing Mass you weren't really seperated from him.
I used to go to Mass at a couple different churches, usually when I was sleeping over someone's house and remember the first time I went into a modern Church. There were two like that, that I went to frequently. Everything was so simple, no ornate altar with the huge brass organ pipes behind, no marble statues of the Blessed Mary, no little gold safe where the Eucharist was kept (I don't know the tecnical term), no stained glass, no pews just seats and no kneelers. It felt very foreign and I didn't really feel like I was at Mass.

 

[luvmy3]

Where I grew up we called them "Bath tub Marys".

We call it Mary on the half shell And yes, my Grandmother still has one in her garden.

 

[Donnainnj]

Our Church offers a weekly Latin Mass, and if you attend, communion must be taken on the tongue and you kneel at the alter to receive. (One time we ended up at an English Mass Sunday, then mistakenly went to Latin for a Holy Day, and then had to run off the Disney Magic in Key West for Mass the following Sunday in Spanish)
Donna