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[bobbiwoz]

Have you ever lived alone?

No, I haven’t since I got married right after college, actually the day before graduation. We were supposed to get married the week after, but DH was in the Marine Reserves and the month before our date, June 8, they decided the June meeting would be required, and the exception Tom had gotten would not be honored. We were able to change the reception and Nuptial Mass, but not the honeymoon.

So, we got married June 1, I graduated June 2, and we began our honeymoon on June 9.

 

[PollyannaMom]

QOTD: Have you ever lived alone?

I've had single dorm rooms in college - during a summer semester abroad (between sophomore and junior year) and then again in my senior year. Both times, I enjoyed the balance of having my own space but still having others nearby when I wanted to be social.

I've never rented an apartment or bought a house on my own, though.

DH's work does require some travel, which is starting back up again. So I have some experience with short-term stretches alone in the house. Because I'm an introvert, and because it's reassuringly temporary, I tend to embrace it when it comes around.

 

[lynxstch]

Good morning--welcome to yet another week. Hard frost overnite, temp is 30, but will be sunny and near 70--which equals mowing day! Will be glad to see the lawn looking neat again, but that means it will have to be done 2x a week from now through the end of May, then down to once a week. Hopefully my riding one will be in soon.

No other plans than yardwork, that will be enough! Watched Idol last nite, I have 5 of my top 10 picked out, we'll see if it changes tonite. I really love that Tristan guy ,,and wow, does he have some stage presence!

Have a nice day

 

[Judique]

The sun came up right on time at 7:02am!
This is not the best pic I took but it was the first with the sun peeking over the horizon. Getting ready to head to the Port as I may take the slow and scenic way.

 

[footballmouse]

Good Monday morning all!

Yesterday was so nice out but as usual, I was working all day. This morning is supposed to be nice, I could get out there and cut the grass or walk but I'm just tired. Predicting rain for the afternoon.

Still haven't made Easter plans, waiting to see if the kids want to go to brunch or not.

Since I worked all weekend, a co-worker grabbed an extra palm for me at church yesterday. She is becoming Catholic and will make her First Communion this coming weekend, I'll go get her a card and put it in her locker. Her middle son is also making his First Communion with his class on Mother's Day weekend but they are letting him also do it with her next weekend. I thought that was cute.

QOTD: I've never lived alone. After my divorce, I did buy a house on my own but I still had Ds2 & Ds3 with me. Now that Ds3 is the only one left at home and he's always with the new gf, I feel like I live alone. It is kind of lonely but I have to get used to it. I have my dogs and cats.

Have a great day!

 

[Breezy_Carol]

Good morning.

Seems my to do list before Easter keeps getting longer so I shouldn't be here at the computer.

I've never rented an apartment or bought a house on my own, though.

After college, I moved home to save money. When I was 25, I got my first apartment solo. At 27 I moved to a different apartment complex. At 29, I bought a house solo but did have a roommate to help with expenses. Then at 31, I got married, so quite a few years on my own.

Still haven't made Easter plans, waiting to see if the kids want to go to brunch or not.

DD leaves for OBX Sunday and DS will be at his in-laws. We are all getting together here on Saturday. DH and I made a reservation at a restaurant we like for dinner on Easter. Then at church, we were talking to friends. They have three daughters and just discovered they would all be out of town Easter so the couple is going with us to dinner. Should be fun. Have to make new traditions in new stages of life.

 

[bobbiwoz]

We’ll spend Easter with my DSis and her DFriend, Garry. We’ll be home in Cape May NJ.

I have ordered a Hummingbird Coffee cake from DLM, a store in Dayton Ohio where we lived for 23 years. I look forward to that wonderful taste!

 

[easyas123]

Good morning one & all. Hope you all had a good weekend. We got so much done, it feels good to walk outside and see the landscaping "done" for the most part! Husband was able to plow a fair bit yesterday, so that is good.

QOTD: Have you ever lived alone

Sorta....odd answer, I know! I lived for a few months on my own in college after a roommate left. I lived at home for months at a time when my brothers & parents where doing some extensive overseas traveling, but I never had a house all to myself on a permanent basis. I went from my parents house as a newly married wife. With that being said, I've no issue being alone. I travel for work on occasion and if I go alone I don't hesitate to go out for dinner for drinks by myself. When the kids were little and I needed a break, there was nothing better than going to a movie all by myself, I'd go about 30 minutes early just to read!!!

I have been a "hunting widow" where I've been four or five days at a stretch by myself while DH was hunting. I think that I could manage it.

Yeah, I get those breaks as well.

Still haven't made Easter plans, waiting to see if the kids want to go to brunch or not.

We don't have Easter plans, either. My husband is Christian, I am not. We did the whole easter baskets for the kids when they were little though. I understand it's pretty much the major holiday in the religion, and if he wanted to do something, I would. We do sometimes listen to a Mass on line, depending - so we may listen in on that. No clue what our adult kids are doing. They will probably go to girlfriends parents for dinner I'm guessing. Or call me up and ask me what I'm making for dinner - in which case I guess I would be doing something! As it is I think Sunday may be the day we go pick up our plants for the garden.

I've got a meeting in 10 minutes - I'd better get off to it.

 

[Snowysmom]

I have never sold a house on my own or bought property on my own so this whole process has been daunting and thankfully I had my sons and friends to help me along as well as a good real estate agent.

I am going to debate the woman who said she wanted to live on her own before marriage so she could live alone later in life if she lost her spouse. Living alone while young and having your life ahead of you is much different from living alone because you lost your husband. Even if I had lived alone in my 20s, living alone because I lost my DH of 45 years is a much different scenario. There is grief, getting used to being alone with that special someone beside you every day, and just a profound sense of loss. I am not sure if living alone earlier in life really would have prepared me for this. I am not trying to be snarky, just trying to present a different point of view. I don't want to offend anyone.

 

[lynxstch]

@Snowysmom--you won't offend any of your quacker family with anything you say. We are free to feel and say what we want,,that's what this thread is for. We all know what you have been through, and are all wishing you well in your move and new living situation. Just sending you hugs, as I know this will be a tough week for you

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Good Morning,

Snowysmom, we thank you for trusting in us to share and allowing us, your Quacker family to pray for and be of support to you! One of the things that I hold most dear about all of you is that we are genuine and real. We care unconditionally as we are called to do Big hug

Beautiful picture, Judique! I am so glad you are having a good trip.

PollyannaMom, maybe as a kid I would have loved staying at a hotel for a week. Today? Even the thought of one night is too long lol. I truly appreciate being home

Carol, I love how you put that about making new traditions in new stages of life. A lovely way to keep embracing life with fun and joy and of good spirit while making new memories with those we love

Dad is soon headed off on early Monday morning shopping at Dollar Tree and Target. Barbara Ann will give Terri her birthday basket tonight at Monday night Bible study I hope to hear from 99 about Sue this week ahead. I'll let all of you know.

Happy Monday to all!

 

[lynxstch]

65 and mostly sunny. Lawn is mowed and looks so neat (especially compared to the rest of the neighbors who haven't done theirs, lol). It was nice to be able to mow and not get short of breath or too tired..so I guess I am pretty much back to normal. Off to cool down, make some lunch and then relax. Have a nice afternoon

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Hugs, Lynn and praise God. Truly I am so thankful to hear that, my friend.

 

[easyas123]

65 and mostly sunny. Lawn is mowed and looks so neat (especially compared to the rest of the neighbors who haven't done theirs, lol). It was nice to be able to mow and not get short of breath or too tired..so I guess I am pretty much back to normal. Off to cool down, make some lunch and then relax. Have a nice afternoon

Our lawn isn't mowed yet, and you are right - compared to the houses in the neighborhood as I drive out, it looks terrible! We do need to get to it. Our mowing takes a few hours when we are each on a tractor, so I'm thinking it might not happen till this weekend.

I forgot to mention earlier - I tried the coconut cream cheese pound cake recipe. Some observations -

• I could only find imitation coconut extract, I know that is a no-no, but it was that or nothing and I wanted to try it. I'm going to keep looking for the real stuff.
• I forgot to add the sugar! I took a little taste after I got it in the loaf pan and ready to go in the oven. It tasted like wet flour! So I dumped it all back into the bowl and added the sugar and mixed it in, then back in the loaf pan. I know it was supposed to go in when I creamed together the butter & cream cheese - but at that point it was to do that or scrap the whole thing. I figured "what the hell, can't taste any worse" so I just did that.
• Recipe called for 325 degrees, bake for hour & 10 minutes. Well I kept checking it and finally pulled it out a hour & a half later. It was slightly underdone, but I had things to do!
• Recipe called for topping it with toasted coconut, which I did. But it made no sense, it doesn't stick to the top of the done cake. It did however go all over the countertop.
• Taste: tasted ok all things considered. Very dense, as a pound cake should be - although between you & me that also could have been from the fact that it could have baked a bit longer!
• I ended up buttering & "frying" up a slice in the frying pan, that was good as well.

I'll make it again, and hopefully by the time I do I'll have gotten my hands on some real coconut extract. And will remember to add the sugar. And be more patient with the cooking time (checked my oven, temp was right on)

 

[kanerf]

My rental house is rented again and all is well in Bobberland.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Hug, Easyas and you sure tried!

Dad just told me he decided to go to the post office and library in a few minutes so he can (hooray) completely stay home on Thursday (just edited the day, same idea . I will let all of dear you know the next time I have a book that I think one of you might enjoy.

Hope all of you are having a good afternoon.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

I have been moving firewood while DH replaced the climbing rungs on the swing set. He attached a wagon/trailer to the tractor and I drove to where the wood had been dumped, loaded the trailer, drove to where we are stacking it, and stacked it. Did three loads this morning and three loads this afternoon. Still not done and this is the third day we've been working on it. It is exhausting.

Our lawn isn't mowed yet,

Ours isn't either.

I don't want to offend anyone.

@Snowysmom, no offense taken. And I hope I didn't offend you. I know everyone's experiences are different and I was not comparing those times of life. I was just curious if having lived alone previously made a difference and I think it is too specific to each person to be able to compare. I guess my mind was thinking like a scientific study. Thank you for speaking your thoughts.

 

[Snowysmom]

No offense taken here. Everyone has been very supportive and helpful as I navigate this new journey. I think that even if I had lived alone when younger, losing DH would make living alone different now. I was used to having him with me every day for 45 years and having companionship and love. Now it is just me and living alone is new for having had this experience.

 

[flyingdumbo127]

Just extra love and sweet dreams to all of you.

 

[theluckyrabbit]

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