Punishments

[tiggerlover]

I am curious how you punish/discipline your children when the need arises. Also what age is your child?

 

[Bumbles]

spankings.....and my child is 33.

What? DHs don't count as children?

 

[Toby'sFriend]

The 12 year old son usually gets screamed at until the blood vessels in my forehead start to pop. Then the Playstation, Gameboy, and television are taken away for a week and he's told to go clean the garage or something equally awful.

The 9 year old son usually gets time out in his room. He's hardly ever bad however, or at least he's sneaky enough to hide it really well.

 

[Spinning]

DS: soon to be 5 time out works well with him and right now the fear of Mommy calling Santa! LOL! Gotta love this time of year.

DD/7 Taking away her boom box or scooter works for most! Luckily the past 6 months have been fairly smooth sailing so usually a few words and she is fine.

 

[LindaR]

DD is now almost 14. I hardly ever had to spank her when she was little. I would just tell her that I was disappointed/angry with her and walk away and ignore her for a few minutes. That would tear her up.

Ranting and raving do not work, just raises your blood pressure!


Nowadays, she gets one warning and then a privilege (not a right) is taken away, like a rare television program or telephone usage. I am the adult in my house. I set the rules. If she CHOOSES to break a rule, she has chosen to be punished.

I'm a very strict parent. I have an awesome daughter who RARELY needs punishment.

I apologize when I screw up, she apologizes when she screws up. That fixes most things.

 

[Serena]

With my youngest girl. I rarely have to punish her at all. If I raise my voice, she gets upset. She hates to do anything wrong.

My oldest is another matter. I've done everything at one time or another. I try to have the punishment fit the crime and I try to take things into consideration also.
For example when she disappeared on Halloween. She wasn't at his house because his mom wasn't there and she refused. She made a few mistakes and she was grounded for 2 weeks and had to write out a report on what happened and what should have happened and why.

 

[SuiteDisney]

DS is 16 and DD is 11. They're both bigger than me, so it really does no good to spank them. My son would just laugh at me. Taking away video games or tv works well on my daughter. The only way to reach my son is through his pocketbook. If he doesn't do something properly or forgets to do it, he has to pay a buck. That usually helps him to remember next time. I don't withhold money from his next allowance, he has to pay me a dollar out of the money he already has. He seems to remember better if he actually has to part with it rather than just not getting it.

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

My son is 8. The thing that works best is to take away his gameboy. To him, there is nothing worse than that.

 

[Tony-NJ]

 

[CamColt]

Right now, telling DS 5, he has to go to bed early seems to work. I just have to say "7:30!" and he knows. If we are having a real bad day Ill get to "Want to try for 7:00?" and again, he will usually stop.

I agree screaming doesnt get through to them, but it sure gets the stress out(as I just finished a big rant on DS ).

 

[worm761]

DS is 6. his punishment depends on the crime. if he is giving me trouble about school work (we homeschool) then he will stand in the corner. if it continues all day then he will lose the playstation and any computer rights he may have earned. if that doesnt work tv rights go too. for the most part he is a really good kid and doesnt give me much trouble. he just really doesnt like certain subjects and he is more bull-headed than i could have ever imagined.

 

[shortbun]

All I have to do is say "let's talk about consequences."
That usually stops the behavior.
All along, DH and I have worked hard to find natural
consequences for DS. Honestly, it's not always easy.
Lately, I've found that when I'm near the end of my
rope, I ask DS (in a polite voice) to head for his room to
find something to do for a while. I've explained at non
friction times that this is when Mom is really irritated
and wants to avoid screaming. A real infraction such as
a defiant act meets with a loss of TV because I believe
that TV kids exhibit horrible behavior towards each other
and their parents. Ds knows that I feel this way and
that's how I explain the "natural" consequence.
Usually, when DS is manic-wildly excitable-I rub his head
and feet while I sing to him. Last Sunday, DH and I both
were rubbing him, then he had a long warm bath after
that when the manic came back-we turned on the TV.
That did it and although we rarely watch TV when we're
all home, it was clear DS needed some down time. We're
trying to show him that he can be comforted in many
different ways. It's important for kids to learn all types
of behavior modification techniques. We talk a lot about
different types of "power" because most unnaceptable
behavior comes from a need for power. How can you feel
powerful when you don't get what you want? Power
comes from negotiation, feeling peaceful, showing
intelligence, physical excersize, journaling, singing
beautifully, drawing or painting, doing your best.
Anyway, aren't you
sorry you asked?