PSA: Dont kick someone out just to have them move back in

[hereyago]

Seriously, especially women. If you have kids and you move a guy in and then awhile later kick him out, don't move him back in just to want him out again. It is one thing if you want that drama, but your kids don't and really don't need to learn those behaviors.

 

[themilesfamily]

Ugh, do you know someone who does that, too? I have a relative who has put her kids through all kinds of hell with her rotating boyfriends.

They move in, they move out, they move back in again. It's constant fighting, making up, fighting again.

Those kids are so traumatized.

 

[hereyago]

My friend/neighbor met this guy a little more than a year ago, 2months into dating, is pregnant. Then she moves him in-he was 32 and lived with his parents due to financial problems, yea he has 3 kids to support and didn't like to budget.

She moved him in with her and her dd11, he was very abusive to her and to her dd,so she ended up having to have a certified letter to get him evicted-oh and this was her house and everything she had she had before him. He would help with one bill every other month.


Then he moves out, a month later, back again. Ok you have a baby by him, but he doesn't have to spend the night. Now I get a call about is he moving out because she is someplace else right now? WTH? Why would you not be there to make sure he doesn't take your stuff? I was like, his car isn't there and I don't think he can load all of stuff in there. THen he was calling her on the other line.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

It's not just her, he's consenting to the madness in moving back in with her.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

Oh yeah... I almost forgot the "rule".

Seriously, especially women. If you have kids and you move a guy in and then awhile later kick him out, don't move him back in just to want him out again. It is one thing if you want that drama, but your kids don't and really don't need to learn those behaviors.

My friend/neighbor met this guy a little more than a year ago, 2months into dating, is pregnant. Then she moves him in-he was 32 and lived with his parents due to financial problems, yea he has 3 kids to support and didn't like to budget.

She moved him in with her and her dd11, he was very abusive to her and to her dd,so she ended up having to have a certified letter to get him evicted-oh and this was her house and everything she had she had before him. He would help with one bill every other month.


Then he moves out, a month later, back again. Ok you have a baby by him, but he doesn't have to spend the night. Now I get a call about is he moving out because she is someplace else right now? WTH? Why would you not be there to make sure he doesn't take your stuff? I was like, his car isn't there and I don't think he can load all of stuff in there. THen he was calling her on the other line.

 

[hereyago]

It's not just her, he's consenting to the madness in moving back in with her.

he wants a free place to live where he can go out all night even when 2 of his kids are there for the weekend,not contribute to the family. let alone being abusive when he can't control himself.

Me as a woman, there is no way in blank would allow any of that to happen, especially around my dd. It is one thing if you want craziness go for it, but when kids around, that is so different.

My now exdh left me and DD2 at the time, I could have taken him back but there was no way I was going to let her grow up seeing certain behaviors were acceptable.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

he wants a free place to live where he can go out all night even when 2 of his kids are there for the weekend,not contribute to the family. let alone being abusive when he can't control himself.

Me as a woman, there is no way in blank would allow any of that to happen, especially around my dd. It is one thing if you want craziness go for it, but when kids around, that is so different.

My now exdh left me and DD2 at the time, I could have taken him back but there was no way I was going to let her grow up seeing certain behaviors were acceptable.

Sadly, there are many situations like this. She is probably always going let him get away with a lot... or like she is, forgiving him for stuff she shouldn't be forgiving him for. He will always use her because he can, she lets him. And when she doesn't, he uses his parents.

I don't know how people get this way but it makes me sad.