Problem with kids

[Laurajean1014]

My family is friends with another family who has a boy the same age as my son, 10.

The kid is extremely obnoxious and the parents do nothing about it. They let the kid roam everywhere and the kid ends up at my house. He asked tons of questions and then when you answer, he says "no you didn't, that's a lie" or he will tell you or your son that it's stupid.

My son tolerates him but I can see my son slowly getting aware from him.

Most recently, my son was playing hockey (just prior the obnoxious kid played). So, the obnoxious kid stood near the bench and trash talked the kids on my son's team, trying to distract them, etc.

The parents were on the other side of the rink and did nothing about it.

This past year, he has terrorized one kid to the point where he doesn't want to play sports. He's had 4 fist fights with kids on his team. Don't know what he's like in school - parents are pretty oblivious and don't discuss him at all.

What do you think is wrong with this kid? I know he's jealous, but does it root from anger, fustration or metal anguish?

 

[DawnCt1]

I think he behaves that way because he can. It is really inappropriate for a child of any age to talk that way to another child's parent. I think when he asks you a question and you tell him the answer and he essentially accuses you of lying, that it is time to say; "Homer, I think you are being disrespectful and its time to leave". If you do that a few times, he might get the message......or he might not but at least you won't have him hanging around.

 

[Disney Doll]

What's wrong with him? What's wrong withhim is that he is a brat. Why is he a brat? because his parents allow him to be. He, like many children these days, does not have parents who are "parentingg". He has adults that he lives with who provide for his every whim and don't discipline him.

I would agree that when the child becomes obnoxious, you should send him home. Calmly, rationally, but send him home.

Either he'll get the message as to what type of behavior is expected of him in your home, or he won't be coming to your home.

 

[pkrimier]

Personally IMO he needs "a good butt whipping" but I guess his parents do
not care ....it is obvious he is looking for some kind of attention and is certainly getting the wrong kind.
Some parents do not want to take the time and effort to show their kids
how to behave in society.....I guess he is going to have to learn the hard way.
You can't do anything about that but you can make him behave in your home If he chooses not to then do not let him in any more.
If I was around when he made disparaging remarks to my son or anyone else on the team I would tell him that no one likes a brat and he needs to change his attitude.

 

[chager]

Are you sure you don't live close to me?? That child you describe could be the child that is living with us currently. My nephew is currently living with us and this is sooo him. (He goes home May 21 if not earlier)
Why is he this way...don't know. He is seeing a counsellor and she is trying to figure it out too. The reason he came here is becuase he was out of control at home and his parents thought we could help. (The whole change of scenery thing) He is not aloud to roam but has been caught not doing so. He says he is going one place and ends up somewhere else..hmmm.
He has been extremely rude to just about everyone around here. If I could have told him to leave I would have a few times. (Just called a liar last week) I tend to agree it goes back to the parents and how they treat/raise the child. It sounds like he is trying to figure out where his boundaries are. We have rules here and all the kids know them. They also know if they are disrespectful they will have to leave if it continues after being warned. I explain I expect to be treated with respect and I will treat them with respect.
We actually have one young man that doesn't visit too often now becuase he doesn't like that rule.
Like someone else said you need to set the rules and stick to them.
Good luck!!!!

 

[Laurajean1014]

Much of the interaction that my family has with this kid is away from my house. (We are travel sports families). The Mom doesn't want to be bothered going to many of the games/tourneys and the Dad is too busy playing politics with the other dads. So, junior has free reign to terrorize the kids (his team-mates) and parents.

He goes up to people and begs for money! I tell him to go ask his Dad.

BTW, the Mom is a tight hiney! She is a very angry woman that is very negative, pessimistic and not your warm and friendly type. She also is an obsessive exercise and food fanatic. (Nothing wrong with being healthy, it's just that she is very angry about it.) She likes to tell people what they are not doing well - yet she has a kid who is a nightmare.

I try my hardest to stay away from them, but my DH is friendly with the Dad and just ignores the kid.

Do you have any people like this in your life? Or am I just the lucky one?