Pregnant? Surpise or confirm gender

[mickeyboat]

Surprise! It's a girl!

One year later. Surprise! It's a girl!

We did not want to know. It didn't matter to us. But I was sure DD#2 was a boy!

Denae

 

[tiggerlover]

It took us 10 years to conceive so we wanted to know the sex as soon as possible. We found out at 5 months and I am so glad that we did.

 

[mtemm]

we were surprised...but at 18 weeks with our first, at 16 weeks with our twins. Whenever you find out it truly is a surprise after all!

I hadn't planned on finding out with our first, but my triple screen came back low and my dr. recommended an amnio. My excuse had been that u/s isn't always correct for gender, but as my sister pointed out an amnio is. So I decided to go ahead and find out the next day. I'm so happy I did!!!!! Not only was it something wonderful to know (didn't matter which sex, but it was so wonderful to know) to help offset the worry that something was wrong, but when we left the amnio and started making calls to tell everyone we found out a plane had hit the world trade center. yep, 9/11.

I didn't hesitate at all to find out with the twins ahead of time. We went for our amnio at one day shy of 16 weeks and found out then that we were having twins..ack! trust me, I needed to know then and there if I would be having all boys or if I would get a girl in the mix. And I did!

 

[robinb]

We knew at 10 weeks gestation after my CVS. I loved knowing . However, we kept my daughter's name secret until she was born!

 

[Beth76]

I HAD to find out with both of mine. 2 boys. Of course, I guess this one still could turn out to be a girl, but we got a pretty good picture, pretty certain it's a boy. And, no, we won't be trying for a girl either. Fortunately, no one has asked us that yet.

 

[Bob Slydell]

We found out with our one and only that he was going to be a boy. If we have another child, we'll try to find out the sex again.

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

I found out all three times.

DS was the hardest one, we were all convinced it was going to be a girl. I was SURE it was a girl, second ultrasound at 30 weeks and lots and lots of wigging they gave up and couldn't tell, his legs were crossed. I got up to get ready to go and he started doing flips, the tech came back in and said lets take another look and there he was! I almost cried - I argued with her, telling her she was wrong. Ok, she wasn't and I wouldn't trade him for anything at all!

We had the same problem with DD, she didn't want to show us. Finally the head doc came in and did a bunch of wiggling and pushing and we got a clear shot. DH and DS were in there and both hoping for a boy. DS told the doc that if it was a girl he didn't want to talk about it. The doc told DS then it looked like he was going to be quite for awhile! I was doing a happy dance on the table. Of course a week before she was born I had a panic attack, I'd had 5 years of raising a boy, what was I going to do with a girl?!?!? I'm still not sure what to do with her half the time!

This time I went in at 15 weeks and thought it was too early to tell but they got a very clear shot of everything, there's no doubt she's a girl! I was with DD only this time. I called DH on my way out of the radiology office, he was in a meeting. He's freaking out "you're BSing me, it's a boy! I know you're lying to me!" I was rolling - the boy lost his mind! I finally had to show him the ultrasound pictures with the clear three lines. He's still scared!

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I always wanted to know. I hate surprises. First one they couldnt tell, Boy #2, and then I heard it again, Boy #3. Thats it for me!!

 

[theSurlyMermaid]

Although I'm not pregnant, DH and I have had arguments about this...he wants to know and I don't. I don't want to give anyone an excuse to load me up with pink or blue stuff I don't want. We are going for a gender neutral under the sea theme for a baby room.

Now DH has come around. Haha, I knew he would, since there was no way I was going to let him walk around knowing.

 

[Stepharoonie!]

I found out the day that I was able to squeeze in that ultrasound. I wanted to know!!

 

[keerymom]

I really did not want to know with my first baby, while DH really did. At the ultrasound, I don't think his nose could have been closer to the screeen, trying to study it. I finally just said, "fine, let's find out". We were having a girl. While I was pregnant with my son, I stood my ground and said I really wanted to be surprised. We actually both now agree that the not knowing added to the excitement! Besides, just having a healthy baby is what's most important.

 

[geffric]

I found out with both of my DS's .. hate surprises and i just wanted to know. Dh didn't care either way.. As for the question.. was I going to try for a girl? i always answer NO way.. I am the perfect boy camping, soccer playing, bug loving MOM..

 

[Jenn Lynn]

We did not have an ultrasound or any test that would tell us the sex of the baby so DD was a surprise-sort of.

One of my Midwives (who I hadn't seen in a couple of months) took one look at me around 8 months and said you're having a girl. DH said I was having a girl from about 1 week on.

 

[CamColt]

I was surprised...when I had my ultrasound, LOL!
I am a total planaholic and there is no way I couldnt have found out. I hate surprises in general, and with something THAT big, I wasnted to know asap. I figure there is enough going on in the delivery room and I definitely didnt want any surprises then.

 

[princesspumpkin]

I didn't find out with DD, much to the annoyance of all my family and friends. I was never a fan of buying certain color clothes and decorations depending on the sex. I feel that this only leads our children to "behave" in gender specific ways throughout childhood. Also, I constantly look at shows like "A BAby Story" and for some reason, when they don't know the sex, they seem sooo much more excited at the delivery (which is always nice to see). When they know the sex, it seems more like they're welcoming cousin Ron from Texas ,who they have been expecting to visit for some time now ("Hi Ron, welcome buddy, how are ya?) As opposed to "OMG, a girl/boy! Honey, can you believe it? You thought it was a girl/boy! I can't believe it's a boy/girl!" There just seems to be more excitement when the sex is unknown.

 

[joats]

We don't have kids yet, but I'm sure the moment I can find out whether it's a girl or a boy I'll find out. What can I say? I'm a major planner, I hate the color yellow and the surprise for me is the miracle of being pregnant.

However, I have a friend who confided in me that she has not found out w/both pregnancies because her husband really wants a boy and she couldn't go thru the next months with him if they found out it was a girl. The first was a girl and he was disappointed...baby #2 due shortly.
Pretty sad if you ask me.

 

[dturner]

Have 1 DS (8). At 4-1/2 months had an sonogram because we both wanted to know, said we were having a girl. I'm not into the frilly girl things so I bought stuff that could be either or, decorated in primary colors and white bears.

2 weeks before my due date the doctor was worried the baby was getting too big, wanted to induce labor 1 week early so they did another sonogram and the Tech asked if we knew the sex, both said yes, it's a girl, then the Tech said I'm not sure I should tell you this but it's not a girl, it's a boy. DH and I were so surprised and happy (I wanted a boy all along).

Thank goodness I didn't buy strictly for a girl.

 

[dcgrumpy]

We found out with DS and DD, we're debating whether or not to find out with this pregnancy.

When I had my first sono with my first pregnancy 2 technincian said it was a girl, they pointed out how you could tell it was a girl and not a boy, etc......DH kept insisting it was a boy anyway. At the next sonogram the tech asked if we wanted to know, we said sure and she said 'it's a boy' .

I had an amnio with DD so there was no doubt.

 

[JVL1018]

Absolutely positively 100% wanted to find out beforehand..and did. I had excitement, joy and surprise, I just had it 4 months before the birth. LOL
I truly felt like I was walking on air when I left the ultrasounds finding out the sex of the kids-I wanted to run up to everyone I saw and announce what we were having(I didn't!! LOL).
Added bonus: I got to shop and shop and shop for gender specific stuff. There was not a neutral thing in either of my kids closets. LOL
I am especially glad I found out what we were having when I was pregnant with my daughter because my MIL died suddenly 10 days before Julia was born. It gave my husband and I peace to know that she knew what we were having, she knew her name..and since she knew it was a girl, after she died, we found clothes that she had bought the baby for the future. My daughter had outfits form her Grandma that she wore at 2 years old. It was sweet to see her wearing things that her Grandma had picked out, even though my MIL never got to see her.

 

[alecam]

What a bunch of awesome stories!!
It almost looks even, but seems the majority wanted to find out ahead of time.

dturner- WOW, what a surprise(pleasant)that must have been for you, but not alot of time to come up with a name.

joats-your story reminds me of a girlfriend at work. She wanted a girl so badly,and because we work in an x-ray dept, we had access to ultrasounds whwnever we wanted them. She had her first one at 15-16 weeks, and the tech told her it was a girl. Well, my friend was sooooo excited. 2 or 3 weeks later, she had another ultrasound, and the tech found *it*. Well, I found my friend crying,and she showed me the picture with the big arrow pointing at it with the p-word!!
She was so disappointed, she couldn't even speak! The rest of the pregnancy seemed like such a downer for her. So sad that it would disappoint her that she had a healthy baby boy!!

Keep em coming guys, I find these stories very interesting!