Pregnant again in less than a year.

[mickeyboat]

My dad's brothers are Irish twins.

I am an Irish twin.

DD's are Irish twins.

I couldn't have avoided it if I had wanted to.

It took 2 1/2 years to conceive Hannah. Hannah was four months old when I found out I was pregnant with Emily. We were almost assured we would not be able to get PG again without help, but Emily had other ideas.

I heard a lot of "don't you know what causes that?" crap from people. I didn't really care, though, because I was really pretty happy.

It was HARD when they were little - I think it might have been easier if they had been real twins.

It's nice, now because they are in the same grade in school (their birthdays fall on either side of the cut off - Hannah 9/2/99, Emily 8/27/00, cut off 9/1), they do almost all the same activities - so there isn't as much running as many other families do. I wonder, though, how hard it will be when they both leave for college at the same time.

Congrats and good luck to you, OP!

Denae

 

[wendy46001]

I'm an Irish twin
older brother and i are 10months 14days apart...
my mother survived and is currently cursing DH and I with her luck...
(she wants grandbabies)

think the only negative comment that she still cant get out of her head is when people tried to tell her it was OK that she didn’t loose the baby weight right away...but she loved their face when she said nope this is number two

Congrats

 

[rie'smom]

My cousins first 2 were born:
DD 1 June 23,1984
DD 2 June 22,1985

 

[RUDisney]

I have a friend who had twins first, both boys. His wife really wanted a DD, so they tried again and got the girl they wanted, with two more boys within 2 years. He said that the first 2 years with the triplets were hard. They went out as a family about 5X during those first two years. After that, he said it got much easier. Now, they are in college and he loves telling people he has 5 kids and when people ask their ages he says 19 and 21.

You'll do great with your babies. Congratulations! Your kids will be such a blessing to you!

 

[ljhmom]

My oldest DS will be 8 saturday and his brother will turn 7 the next saturday, for me the first year was the hardest, now they are almost best friends, the hardest part now is that they are in different grades so they often get mad when one gets to do something the other doesn't.

 

[DisneyAddict_M]

My bf's sister is 18 months older than him and their brother is 18 months older than HER. I always thought his mother was a saint.

Congratulations!!!

 

[maelstrom]

Most people are probably giving you the reaction of "you poor thing" not because they're upset that you're having more kids, but because it's going to be difficult for you to have two newborns and a toddler to take care of. Congratulations on your twins and best of luck juggling all those kiddos!

 

[AllyandJack]

My kids will be "Irish Twins".

After trying for 3 years to have DD, I laughed when the doctor mentioned birth control. I did 2 inseminations and 4 rounds of IVF before my DD was born. Who would think I'd need birth control?

10w later, I was pregnant again. Kate will be 1 on June 19 and I'm due on May 25.

My neighbor had 3 under 2 for a while. She had her DS through IVF. Then got pregnant with twins through a frozen transfer. She had her twins in August and her DS turned 2 in November. She has a LOT of help. Her in-laws practically live over there.

I'm a little scared because my closest "help" is 1.5 hours away. I'm pretty much on my own here.

Congrats on your pregnancy! It's taken me a while to be happy, but now I'm starting to look forward to it. Just think.....you'll be finishing up all the "stages" quickly without a big lag. Oh, and something I thought of Disney-related....if they're close in age, there won't be many times you'll have to separate to go on rides. If you had a 10 year old and a 2 year old, you'd have to split up to go on the rides. But, with them being so close, you'll be able to everything together sooner.

 

[flipflop]

Congrats on your pregnancy!! I was thinking today while driving to work how news that can be the scariest can turn into the biggest blessing. I remember being scared out of my mind and very unhappy (miserable really) when DH and I found out we were having triplets--- now, they are the greatest blessing that I have ever been given. I got tons of IVF assumptions (we did not go through IVF or fertility treatments) and questions and learned to either ignore it or say "that's really none of your business."

I am of the "things happen for a reason" and "we don't know any differently" schools of thought. We get lots of questions and comments about how difficult our situation must be - and although it can be challenging - we don't know any differently. I am sure there will be times when you are at your wits end and have been pushed to your limits but I am also sure that there will be truly rewarding moments that you would never trade.

Don't let the negative nellie's get you down. Some of life's greatest gifts are unexpected.

 

[moppety]

Wow, this boat is getting crowded! Congrats on the twins OP!

After multiple miscarriages, I finally joyfully succeeded with DS1. When he was 6 mos. old I got a funny feeling. Ran to the drugstore, and "oooops!". We had decided to have 2, but due to the previous problems, we weren't really anticipating anything so soon. My DH said that now that my body knew what to do, it was going to do it full tilt.

We decided to go for a 2nd C-section since my body didn't really have time enough to recover from the first, and I told her that while she was in there to do a tubal ligation.

It does have its challenges, but the boys really do play well together, and I can't complain too loudly. With the exception of DH, they are the most wonderful blessings I could ever have hoped for.

 

[AngieBelle]

Well, I don't have any children yet, but my sister and I are 16.5 months apart- I turned 26 in Oct, and she'll be 25 in March. Our parents did that on purpose. Originally they only wanted one, but when they decided to give me a sibling, they wanted us close together to get the diaper stage out of the way.

I love having a sister so close in age. We had our moments of not getting along, but for the most part, we were and still are best friends. Our baby-sitters had the easiest gig in the world because we would just play together in our bedrooms. What's funny is that when she started keeping a blog, I discovered we were even more alike than I had realized in personality and how we react to things. We are living on opposite sides of the country right now but talk all the time online and on the phone. She's begging me to move to CA as she did last summer.

People often think we are twins, but we don't really think we look alike at all!

Congrats, and I hope your babies grow up to be just as close as my sister and I are!

 

[Mickeyluver37]

No, but DH and I are seriously contemplating doing this on purpose! (Ask me again in a week or so after I've given birth if I'm really ready to go through this again.) Our first two are 2 years apart, and I just loved the relationship they had when they were younger, and still do most of the time now. We don't want this one to be an "only" in 8-10 years, so it would be easier to have another one right away instead of waiting 2-3 years, IMO.

 

[imadisneyholic]

Wow look at all these responses!! I've had such a difficult time finding anyone else in my situation, I really am shocked to find so many here. Must be a Diser thing.

Everyone here has given me so many positives to keep in mind and yet managed to keep my head straight about the difficulties coming my way. Makes me wonder why I was second guessing myself about posting this here in the first place.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

DD turns one tomorrow. I am pregnant with another one and due Sept. 8/08
I also have a 9 year old daughter from my first marriage.
I'm a bit freaked out thinking about having a toddler running around while I am trying to breastfeed the baby.
I have run into quite a few people who have been in the same situation and they all lived through it...LOL
Everybody says the same thing. It will be nice to get it all over with. I agree. In the long run it will make no difference if they are 19 months apart or over 2 years apart.
Some days though I want to fast forward to the part where I get to sleep again!
I am paranoid I have twins cookin' in there and I won't be settled until I have an ultrasound 10 weeks from now. yikes!
Lets focus on the positive and count our blessings and be thankful for what we have. I have friends that are having a lot of trouble conceiving.
I had to laugh about the comment about the fertility drugs. Like that would be on my agenda with a baby under a year old!
Good luck. You will be fine Keep us posted how you are doing.
Love,
Fertile Myrtle

 

[laurajetter]

(Long post)

Surprises or planned...

Just wondering if any other Disers out there also found themselves in this situation and if it's really as bad as everyone reacts to it.

My daughter, 15 months now, was only 10 months when we found out I was pregnant again. Not just with one but two! This was definitely a surprise for us.

So far everyone that I've come across seems to have the same response "You poor thing..." It's never anything positive.

Most even ask me if this was a planned/IVF pregnancy, due to the twins. Not sure why this should even matter. In my case it was neither. Twins run rampant on my mom's side of the family. I had planned on waiting 5 years before considering another child but obviously we weren't that concerned.
Also if this had been planned what would have been so bad about that?

Oddly enough before my first child I was told I would not be capable of having children. Here I find myself with three in less than two years. Don't get me wrong I'm thrilled! It's just very overwhelming.

I'm sure I can handle it and I would like to hear how it really is from parents who have been there.

Wish I had time to read all the responses but I'm a little pressed for time so I'll just add my two cents. I don't have personal experience, but myy close friend purposely had her first two as close together as possible. She wants a large family and wanted her first child to have playmate close in age. She even registered for a double stroller for her first baby shower!

I think she has gotten some comments about it being a pain or questioning the closeness of age which tends to annoy her. She just tells it like it is and just retorts back to them with a tone in her voice that makes it seem like they are weird for asking. Trying to think of an example...

For instance, if someone says "Gosh, it must be so hard having two kids in diapers," she'll just look at them and say "Uh, nooo, it's not" and just kind of look at them in a way that makes them feel silly for asking.

I'm sure it must get annoying! It's no one elses business to question something as personal as decisions you have made regarding your children. If it were me I know I'd get defensive and want to explain myself but the point is you shouldn't have to.

And no, it's not as bad as some make it out to be! Sure there will be times that are challenging, but having them spaced out creates other challenges (not close enough in age to really play well, baby toys outdated and need to be replaced, having to go through the whole diapering/potty training thing all over again, etc.). Just try to focus on the positives of having them close that you otherwise wouldn't have if they were spaced.

Try not to let anyone get you down... come up with a few good comebacks to use when rude people comment and just let it roll off your back and be confident; no use letting someone else's ignorance ruin your day!

Laura

 

[disneyfanx3]

Congratulations!

I am glad to read you joined the Mothers of Multiples - They will be a great source of information for you They helped me a lot with my twins. It is also nice to have a lot of family support that always helps - You will be able to handle it - I felt my twins were easier to handle than my singleton is.

 

[MAKmom]

Most people are probably giving you the reaction of "you poor thing" not because they're upset that you're having more kids, but because it's going to be difficult for you to have two newborns and a toddler to take care of. Congratulations on your twins and best of luck juggling all those kiddos!

I agree it is more of a sympathy hug for all the sleep you will not be getting. My youngest DD are 22 months apart & it was very hard. It does end & they grown up.

 

[Straycat]

My two are 10 and a half months apart. Their birthdays were January 16th and December 1st of 2006.

One just turned 2 and the other turned 1 in December.

Some days can be tough but it is wonderful to have the two so close in age.

Congrats!!!

 

[Iott Family]

We always say with our four when people ask if we are going to have anymore that no, our cup runneth over! Just tell those negative nosy people that God is filling up your cup so it can runneth over!

My four are paced in two's. The oldest two birth dates are Feb.1, 1996 and Aug. 7, 1997 and my second two, the "babies" are Feb. 18, 2004 and
March 6, 2006. We tried to have #4 a bit closer to #3's birth date but she took a lot of trying. LOL!

I wouldnt do it any other way! Our girls are our bookends with the boys squeezed in the middle.

Just dont be afraid to ask for help and use your hospital stay as a time of RnR and make it a point to have a few hours of every day just for you! It helps with your sanity

Best of everything!
Cari in Indy

 

[N.Bailey]

My children are 13 months apart and my brother and I are 10 months apart. I received the same type responses you did and I was really fearful about what was to come. Yes, it's hard, I"m not going to lie to you. In the early years, it's VERY physical. BUT, you'll have instant playmates, the kids will be VERY close to each other all thru life (more than likely) and you pretty much go thru everything 1 time. My son was held back so my two are even in the same grade. This really made helping with homework a breeze. The only thing I've noticed that they do separate is, drive. A year ago we had to teach our son, now we're teaching our daughter. BUT, my son enjoyed helping her study for her learner's permit and took her outside and gave her the 411 on the vehicle operation (lights, turn signals, break lights, etc) and is constantly offering up tips that probably wouldn't seem important to those of us who have been driving for so long.

Like I said, it's physical early on, but once you get thru those years, it's smooth sailing from there.

Congratulations on the new babies.