the programs are in place for a reason and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG with using them to help make your life better in the long run!
And, in turn, becoming a contributing member of society. Personally, I would prefer to see both of them stay in school rather than quit for a minimum wage job. A little help now will pay dividends when the mom and dad graduate and have higher paying jobs which will result in more taxes for the government.wow!!!!I think I'm glad your not my mom!!! Sometimes people need help! Maybe by using these services and continuing to go to school fulltime they will be able to give their child a better life! Sometimes people who quit can get sidetracked and are never able to go back. it can be a never ending cycle. the programs are in place for a reason and THERE IS NOTHING WRONG with using them to help make your life better in the long run!
The programs are in place to help people who need help through no fault of their own and would be hungry or homeless without them NOT to make your life better, not to take the easy and irresponsible way out, no to not own up to your own children who you created through you own desire. They didn't have to sleep together.
I don't read this as a rape situation so they chose to have this child because every time you CHOOSE to have sex you are risking creating a life that you are responsible for. That is why you are told not to have sex until you are ready to care for what could result. They are in college they are not stupid they made the child they should take care of it OR they should not have been sleeping together. Remember Nancy Reagan and just say no well it applies to sex also unless you are ready to live with the consequences.
wow, I love how quick people are to judge. People who work and still qualify for programs like medicaid, foodstamps, and wic are not sponging off others. And should not be ashamed for applying for them.With the economy like it is how can we be so cold?
I was an unwed mother and wouldnt have survived without the help the government provided me. i worked until i was placed on bedrest and returned to work as soon as I was cleared to do so. My husband and I have had to turn to DSS for help more than once. Not because we dont work hard, plan ahead and try our best, but because of circumstance.
We are in better shape these days thanks to careful planning, saving and working hard.. (thus the planned Disney trip!)
But like most americans, we arent too many paychecks from disaster. Dont be so fast as to say that "you never would" or to shame someone for needing a hand. No one PLANS to get themselves into this position. Have a little compassion!
They are young, healthy adults who are in all likelihood going to have a healthy baby. They chose to have sex. They are the ones who are responsible for providing for their own child. I see no reason whatsover that they would need to be dependant on anyone else whether it be extended family or taxpayers. This is not an extreme crisis situation that no one could have anticipated. Having a baby and caring for it is what people do.
I do think it's wonderful that the OP has offered to help with childcare - that is what family is for and it's wonderful that she can do that. But the buck stops with the child's parents.
No one PLANS to get themselves into this position. Have a little compassion!
I was already pregnant and you can't take that back.
What a ridiculous statement. No one who gets pregnant HAS to finish the pregnancy, nor does the woman have to raise that child. Just because neither may be choices that you chose, it doesn't mean that the "only" choice is welfare.
What a ridiculous statement. No one who gets pregnant HAS to finish the pregnancy, nor does the woman have to raise that child. Just because neither may be choices that you chose, it doesn't mean that the "only" choice is welfare.
That is a very good point. Maybe the best thing for the child and parents in this case would be adoption. Then they get to finish school and some family that really wants a child gets it.
That is a very good point. Maybe the best thing for the child and parents in this case would be adoption. Then they get to finish school and some family that really wants a child gets it.
I must have missed where the OP said they didn't want the child.
Well I WANT a lot of things but if I can't afford them and haven't planned for them I need to look at all my options responsibly not just assume everyone else wants to pay for my lack of planning.
Harshly worded, but not wrong.I disagree. There is something wrong with using them because you don't feel like sacrificing. They got pregnant so they chose to mess up the go to school full time and be students. They need to figure out if either one of them can continue to be students and I doubt both can go full time. 1 needs to get a full time job and possibly 1 can go full time and finish quickly or maybe both need to work and go part time. sorry but there are consequences to every action. And making others pay for yours when you could be is not one of them I believe in.