Pregnancy Loss

[Kitty 34]

I didn't know we couldn't ask for prayers.

But....here's a BIG for you. So sorry to hear about your loss.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Kitty, it turns out that I was wrong about that....I was just being careful because I didn't want to get in trouble.

 

[Lorix2]

Just want to send you a warm I have known your pain, I am very sorry that you have suffered such a loss.

 

[TwingleMum]

Beach Girl ~ There are no words of comfort I can say other than I hope someday you can feel some peace.

 

[mickeyboat]

I am sorry for your loss.

I know you don't want to burden your mom, but please make sure there is someone you can talk to. You also sound like you could use someone to take care of you right about now.

I have said a prayer for you and Brandon.

 

[KiKi Mouse]

Take whatever time it takes to grieve. You will never 'get over' it, and who would want to. Your baby is a part of you, somebody you love and will always be in your heart.
You will heal physically and the emotional healing will take longer.
I think a support group is a great idea as most people don't get it unless they have been through it.
You are not alone. Look at how many people on here have been through it...including me....twice. People just don't talk about it for some reason.

 

[joyjoy]

I'm so sorry you lost your baby. Please take care of yourself. You did nothing wrong.

 

[keenercam]

I am so sorry for your loss and that you went through such a scary experience.

 

[LittleBlue22]

Thanks...work told me they'd pay me for the week but they don't want me doing anything until Monday (and they don't even know the whole story.)

s to you BeachGirlFLA.

 

[TxRabbit]

BeachGirlFLA,

I am so sorry for your loss. I have been there. Three times, I have been there. I'm concerned about how you are trying to deal with this on your own. I know the pain and sorrow and guilt (undeserved but hard to fend off) you are feeling. You know your mother better than I do, and perhaps she would not be like me, but if I were your mother, and something of this emotional and physical magnitude happened to MY child, and I didn't know about it, didn't have the opportunity to help, to support, to comfort, to be a shoulder to cry on, to encourage, to understand when months or years later something triggers the pain of this loss (because it will), then THAT is what would break my heart.

If you don't have the relationship with your mother that reflects what I am saying, then please find someone, the support group you mentioned, a close friend, a trusted family member. This is a weight that is very hard to bear alone. One of the saving graces of such sad happenings is that they are often the things that forge strong relationships.

 

[Dan Murphy]

's BeachGirl. Prayers for you. The heavens have a new, bright little angel, Brandon Joshua, God bless.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

Thanks guys. I haven't been online for a couple of days because I had no Internet service but I'm going to let a family member know what happened. I've been trying to deal with this mostly on my own but it's too hard to not share with someone.

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

Thanks guys. I haven't been online for a couple of days because I had no Internet service but I'm going to let a family member know what happened. I've been trying to deal with this mostly on my own but it's too hard to not share with someone.

(((hugs))). I'm glad you are going to talk to someone. As nice and understanding as my DH was when I had my m/c, I needed my mom and sis to talk to.

 

[CJBaby]

I think that sharing your loss is important.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

(((hugs))). I'm glad you are going to talk to someone. As nice and understanding as my DH was when I had my m/c, I needed my mom and sis to talk to.

I'm still not telling mom but I have a cousin who I was very close to as a teenager. She's a year younger than me and we used to say that when we grew up and got married, we'd live next door to each other, etc. We've reconnected and she's someone that I trust to not tell anyone else.

 

[CJBaby]

I'm still not telling mom but I have a cousin who I was very close to as a teenager. She's a year younger than me and we used to say that when we grew up and got married, we'd live next door to each other, etc. We've reconnected and she's someone that I trust to not tell anyone else.

It's obviously your decision, but as a mother, it would KILL me to know that my daughter tried to protect me, and went through a loss without me. It hurts me to even consider it. Just something for you to think about.



ETA: Reading back, I see that I'm not the only one who feels this way. (Not a surprise.) I'm praying for you!

 

[ilovefh]

(((hugs))). I'm glad you are going to talk to someone. As nice and understanding as my DH was when I had my m/c, I needed my mom and sis to talk to.

I agree with you. I think I have the most supportive DH in the world! He stayed home with me both times I went through a loss, but in addition I really needed my mom! And the best part is he knows this! I won't say he wasn't upset both times, but he didn't go through the same pain I went through. Pain my mom could understand. She is even going to go with me for my next appointment about testing to see what is going wrong because he knows he is easy going and since it is such an emotional thing she will be a great advocate for me!

You know your mom better than we do so it might not be an option to tell her. But I know I would not have gotten through both losses as easily without my mom! And she would have been devastated to know I went through it without her!

 

[geffric]

It's obviously your decision, but as a mother, it would KILL me to know that my daughter tried to protect me, and went through a loss without me. It hurts me to even consider it. Just something for you to think about.



ETA: Reading back, I see that I'm not the only one who feels this way. (Not a surprise.) I'm praying for you!

ditto.. me too. prayers for you

 

[TxRabbit]

I'm still not telling mom but I have a cousin who I was very close to as a teenager. She's a year younger than me and we used to say that when we grew up and got married, we'd live next door to each other, etc. We've reconnected and she's someone that I trust to not tell anyone else.

I'm so glad to hear that you have someone to share this with. Big hugs your way.

 

[DarthKTrava]