Pregnancy and BC MOMMIES HELP!!

[agotta]

How long after you stopped BC did you get pregnant? DH and I are debating over when to start trying (I am losing this battle). Any suggestions/info/advice?

 

[mickeyboat]

Boy - I think you will get a huge range of answers on this question. But I'll share. 3 1/2 years and infertility treatment. I blamed my problems on being on the pill for such a long time, but my Dr. said he didn't feel it was the culprit. On the other hand, I have known women who got PG the first month being off the pill.

Good luck in whatever you choose.

Denae

 

[Bob Slydell]

DW and I are probably not the norm, rather the exception, but it was 2 months for us for DS#1.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I stopped BC in December and got pregnant on my April ovulation. Good luck!

 

[numbercruncher]

Two months for us as well!

 

[jennyl772003]

Hm, well, I got pregnant after about a year, miscarried, and have not gotten pregnant again another year later.

 

[golfgal]

I went off BC about 5 months before we started trying for both pregnancies. I was like clockwork and probably didn't need the BC but I had some pretty painful cycles. We got pregnant on our first try with DS13 and our first try with the twins.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Let's see...we went of BC about 18 months before conceiving #1 (not putting in any effort to track ovulation), #2 worked on the first try, #3 was 6 years later (but to be fair, we weren't putting in a ton of effort, just not using BC), and #4 about 2 months of consciously trying.

You don't say which "side" of this you're on, only that you're losing--I would like to add that having a child is a monumental decision, and neither parent should feel pressured into deciding the time is right. In our case, I was the reluctant one. What helped (before our first) was switching from the pill to BC that you could decide at the time to use, if you understand my meaning. Going off the pill just freaked me, I felt I had a little more control of my destiny that way.

It can be really difficult to "plan" pregnancies--I have a friend who had all 5 exactly when she wanted them. I would never have chosen the spacing I have in my perfect world, but I wouldn't trade with any one!

 

[pixiemomma]

I became pregnant the second cycle after I went off the pill. I was also breastfeeding my older son at the time.

 

[DVCLiz]

I'm so programmed to think "Disney" on this board that my first thought reading your title was, "Oh, she'll have fun at the Beach Club (BC) even if she IS pregnant -she'll really like floating around Stormalong Bay!"

 

[suzannen]

My doctor advised me, if possible, to go off the pill 6 months before even beginning to try to get pregnant. He strongly believed in letting your body adjust naturally back to its normal cycles and hormone levels before sending it immediately into the massive hormone fluctuation of pregnancy. He recently retired after 30 years, but he found in his practice, those that waited a bit tended to have slightly less hormonal level problems throughout their pregnancy.

 

[agotta]

Let's see...we went of BC about 18 months before conceiving #1 (not putting in any effort to track ovulation), #2 worked on the first try, #3 was 6 years later (but to be fair, we weren't putting in a ton of effort, just not using BC), and #4 about 2 months of consciously trying.

You don't say which "side" of this you're on, only that you're losing--I would like to add that having a child is a monumental decision, and neither parent should feel pressured into deciding the time is right. In our case, I was the reluctant one. What helped (before our first) was switching from the pill to BC that you could decide at the time to use, if you understand my meaning. Going off the pill just freaked me, I felt I had a little more control of my destiny that way.

It can be really difficult to "plan" pregnancies--I have a friend who had all 5 exactly when she wanted them. I would never have chosen the spacing I have in my perfect world, but I wouldn't trade with any one!

I am the one who is ready. I have been for a while. Dh said when we got married he wanted some time with just me (we dated long distance). It has been 2 years and I am approaching the subject again. Dh wants to wait until we have a house. It's not that I don't agree, but we have agreed that our first "home" purchase will probably be a townhome (not necessarily all that different than an apartment in terms of size). He then brings up money. Well I told him if that's the problem, it will be 4 years before our big bills are paid off. I just don't picture waiting until I am in my 30's to have our first. I never have. Then he said he would like to have a baby in Jan 07 and I told him that is not as far off as he thinks. I think is overwhelmed by the whole situation. I don't want to force him into anything, and I know he wants kids...

Sorry, didn't mean to ramble there. I have just always known this is what I want and it feels like time is ticking away so slowly. Dh is perfectly comfortable where we are and not having kids for a few years.

 

[Davids-Coco]

A lot depends on you. If you are aware of when you ovulate (charting is most reliable) and are able to time your baby dancing right, then it will *probably* happen faster than just seeing what will happen.

Keep in mind that there is only a 30% chance any cycle to get pregnant... and I think that stays the same even if you are charting.

 

[AllyandJack]

Stopped in July of 2004. The egg retrieval for my IVF should be next week.

I also waited to stop BCP. Now I wish I had just stopped the pill instead of waiting for the exact right, perfect time - as if there is such a thing. There are obvious wrong times to try to have a baby, of course, but I was waiting for "the" time. I keep thinking if I didn't wait, maybe I would have a baby by now. It's great to want everything to be planned, but you can't plan for infertility and, honestly, knowing what I know now, I would have stopped the pill as soon as our lives were stable enough instead of perfect. I wasted an entire year of "I'll stop BCP in July of 2004....."

Good luck with whatever you decide. I agree that stopping the pill and using another method is a good idea. That way, if you don't have normal cycles, you'll have a heads up. You'll also give yourself a chance to regulate in the event it takes some time so when your DH is ready, you won't have to deal with messed up cycles.

Good luck!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

3 months for our first

 

[Annette_VA]

Stopped taking BCP 3 months before we started TTC

My OB likes her patients to be off of BCP for at least 3 months before trying. She told me that the reason is since you've been on the pill for so long & not ovulating, once you stop the pill, you're more likely to release more than 1 egg and have multiples.

 

[horseshowmom]

I went off BC and was pregnant by my second cycle and wound up losing the baby. I've always heard that you should wait for awhile (for the reasons suggested by suzannen's doctor). I was pregnant again by the time I had been off for about 6 months.

 

[BernardandMissBianca]

4 months with DS #1, 1 1/2 years with DS# 2, and was still on it with our current pregnancy. Go figure! DS #2 took so long because of stress, MIL was living with us.

 

[Brianne]

We meant to give it a couple months after going off the pill, but my body had other ideas---I concieved after the first month off. Luckily everything went ok & he's a healthy kid, but I was pretty worried for awhile since doctors don't seem to recommend getting pregnant that quickly after stopping the pill.

 

[AnaheimGirl]

Stopped taking BCP 3 months before we started TTC

My OB likes her patients to be off of BCP for at least 3 months before trying. She told me that the reason is since you've been on the pill for so long & not ovulating, once you stop the pill, you're more likely to release more than 1 egg and have multiples.

Same advice from my OBGyn. Then, after that 3 months, it took us another 6 months to get pregnant with my first dd. So, if you're shooting for Jan. '07, and you're like me, tell your dh you're already behind schedule!