Prayers and advice needed! My SIL's father committed suicide tonight

[mickeymousemom]

Just offer yourself to them. They will surely appreciate it. My thoughts are with you.

 

[scoutsmom99]

sending out prayers and good thoughts

 

[MsDisney23]

 

[Freyja]

I´m so sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to your and your family.

 

[mickeyboat]

That really stinks. I am sorry for your family's loss.

Denae

 

[goofy4tink]

Oh dear God....I am so sorry to hear this. There really isn't too much you can say to make it any better. Just be there, ready to listen, with a shoulder to lean on. That's what I needed most when my mom passed away. At least that was from natural causes. Suicide seems so senseless to those left behing...there just isn't any way to make sense of it.
So, you and the family will be in my thoughts and prayers. So very terrible.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

So sorry about this Denise. Just being there will speak volumes. I know my mother really appreciated the women (SILs and aunts) that came to the house and coordinated everything when my father passed away.

They kept the food organized, made coffee and generally served as hostesses for my mother. They washed serving dishes and had their husbands run to the store when we were running low on paper products. My mother had 2 kitchens full of food and these ladies were lifesavers. It was huge undertaking and my mother, sister and I couldn't have done it without their gracious help.

I hope your husband can go with you.

Lori

 

[Rajah]

From experience -- there's not much you can say other than that you're sorry, and that you're there for them. Just being there for them will be a *huge* thing, trust me.

 

[MickeysMommy]

 

[nliedel]

If I had a dollar for every meaningless platitude said to me at my sons funeral. The thing I remember was what a friend of mine said. She was very quiet and it was not like her but at the end she came up to me and said, "Ben (my son) was not the promise fulfilled, he was the promise spoken (he was a preemie, only lived a few hours). She really thought before she said that and it meant so much it's on his marker.

She wasn't trying to be poetic but was. She just said the right thing at the right time. She didn't try to tell me it was anyone's will or plan, and in the death of children and suicide that sort of thing is, imo, wrong and out of place. I know you think no one would say that about a suicide. Well you're wrong. My friends daughter commited suicide and told her that if God had wanted her to live someone would have found her sooner. Since my friend found her... You can imagine the heartache that caused.

Say something simple or nothing at all. Those are the people that stand out and comforted me when it was really dark.

 

[Nancyg56]

I am so very sorry. I don't think you will need to say anything, your heart will guide you.