Potty Training

[meloneyb21]

I'm a little stumped. DD is THERE, she'll do #1 in a hot minute but she just simply refuses to do #2 on the potty. How can I get her to understand that EVERYTHING goes in the potty ?

 

[sara74]

If I only held the key to that one I'd be queen of the potty!

I am right there with you. DD trained at 27 months in a flash. Now DS is almost 3 and will #1 on command but has yet to #2. Short of strapping a potty around his waist, I don't think there is anything I can do to make it happen! Let me know if you find the answer!

 

[ksumn1]

I feel for you. My DD (4 on Wednesday) was the exact same way. SHe would #1 at age of 3, but did not go to the potty for #2 until about 4 months ago. I don't know if this is an issue, but what ummmmm consistency is the #2. My DD had very hard solid #2's and often had bad stomach cramps as well as a burning feeling doing #2. She said "Running makes my tummy feel better so it will come out. When I sit on the potty it takes too long and hurts my tummy." Her pediatrician said make sure she gets lots of fluids during the day and other than that they'll start when they're ready.

Have you tried rewards for #2. Like M&M's or stickers? Once DD went the 1st few times and saw she got rewards, she changed her tune.

That's all I got Good luck!!

 

[blanq]

I'm a little stumped. DD is THERE, she'll do #1 in a hot minute but she just simply refuses to do #2 on the potty. How can I get her to understand that EVERYTHING goes in the potty ?

I am just responding to sympathize with you. My DS was not potty trained until he was close to four! Like your daughter, he had no problem with #1 on the potty, but he refused to go #2. He was in total control of both, he just chose to hide behind the bathroom door and do his #2 business in his diaper. I regret how I handled the situation, as feel I put too much pressure on him, which is exactly what experts will tell you not to do. One day, out of the blue, DS told me, "I'm done with my diaper", and that was the end of it. He never, not even at night, ever had an accident after his decision. So, my suggestion is just to give your DD some space when it comes to this issue. She'll go when she is ready, and that point is probably not too long off. She likely knows that everything goes in the potty (I am sure you have told her that), but for whatever reason, isn't ready to do it quite yet.

 

[TheDizMom]

I think most of us have had this problem. My DS was almost 4 before we finally conquered the pooping in the toilet thing. My DD fought it until she managed to do it at my mom's house. My mom made such a big deal out of it and gave her a box of puzzles she happened to have bought for one of the 8 grandchildren. When she got congratulated and given such a big gift for succeeding, it was smooth sailing from there on.

This is what I told a few friends of mine, and read in a parenting magazine when I was trying to train my DS. Kids see their poop as a part of their body and so to them they are flushing a body part down the toilet and it's a bit nerve racking. Once they understand that it's ok and what they should do it becomes easy. Unfortunately it takes a bit for them to understand that therefore it's harder to train them to poop in the toilet then pee. I know that sounds weird, but once I used that mentality with him and finally managed to make him understand that it was supposed to go into the toilet he started doing it on a regular basis. It wasn't easy to make him finally get it, so when I knew he had to poop but wouldn't go in the toilet I would give him a pull-up. It made it so he would at least go and not hold it in, and he wore undies the rest of the time. I think it's also one of the last things they have complete control over. The other problem is that they get afraid to do it in the toilet, so it builds up and gets hard and then it hurts to get it out. They begin to connect the 2 together and it becomes a mental block. Make sure she is getting enough fiber so it's easier to get out and you won't be as likely to have that as part of your issue.

Good luck. Try not to stress over it. She will get it! As my MIL always said no kid ever went to kindergarten in a diaper.

 

[meloneyb21]

Thanks for the advice .

 

[twinmom2]

oh yes, the M&M's worked here. 1 M&M for #1 and hand a fill for #2. Once they got that, they were trying to poop just to get the chocolate .
Oh ya, to help them understand that the poop goes in the toilet, we brought the dipaer the the toilet and emptied it in there and they fushed it.
Good Luck, it will happen

 

[DisneyPhD]

My youngest DD didn't have too much of an issue with it. The 1st time she did she was taken back by the back splash and noise. After that DH talked to her about waiting for the flop. I know it sounds funny, and even gross, but she always talks about the flop and the tinkle in the toliet. Oh the joys of potty training. The other major key in potty training for us was getting rid of the pull ups and diapers.

Anyway that is my insight.

Hang in there, she won't be doing this forever, it will get better.

 

[nessz79]

I would definitely get rid of any pull-ups or diapers as the Previous Poster mentioned. You may have to clean up a couple or even few really yucky messes, but sometimes it's the only way they "get it".

 

[Oceana]

I was told it was about control, kids have so little control over the world. We pick their clothes what toys they get when they go to bed what they eat.

I rewarded with M&Ms and more choices for the world. You poop in the potty you get to pick all your own clothes... and yes he would choose some wild outfits and I just have to be ok with it

get rid of the pull ups and inlist your childs help in the clean up... it will take longer to clean

perhaps start saying goodbye to poop... when you do it when daddy does it when you plop it in from underpants. This will help make it clean in the toilet is where poop goes for everyone. If your kid never sees that you put your poop in the toilet... he feels singled out

julie