Pot Luck/Goodie Days At Work (vent)

[becka]

I really don't mind making things for the pot luck/goodie day events at my office. We all take turns bringing things in and it is only once every 3 months or so that it is my turn and the goodie days are on a schedule.

However, at DH's work they have them probably every month at just random times and DH never tells me until 1-2 days before that he needs to bring something and that means I have to shop and cook something special at the last minute. Why doesn't HE cook for these things especially since it is for HIS work and HE is the one that never mentions it until the last minute? Arggghhhh!

Can you tell that I have to make a casserole for HIS pot luck lunch tomorrow?

 

[caitycaity]

have him make it himself, LOL

 

[lilboo]

Why doesn't HE cook for these things especially since it is for HIS work and HE is the one that never mentions it until the last minute?

Yesss. Or buy something-three dozen Thai spring rolls w/peanut sauce? 3 doz McD's small size fries? Shrimp cocktail platter from the market?

 

[believe]

I usually am told at 7pm the night before that DH needs something for work. Luckily DH is a chocoholic and brownies go over well

 

[Cindy B]

Well, I guess he wouldn't participate! Since he would not make anything in time.


No, I don't think you should be going crazy.

 

[CamColt]

You have your plate full, he should make it. If he cant or doesnt want to let him go shopping for something premade....or better yet, let him stay home and do baby duty(feeding, laundry, bathing, dirty diaper changing, whatever) while you get a break and get to go to the store alone.
Good luck!

 

[ckr]

*** Why doesn't HE cook for these things especially since it is for HIS work and HE is the one that never mentions it until the last minute?"

Because you let him.

DH can't seem to get his dirty clothes into the hamper. They end up in a heap by his side of the bed. I struggled with this for the 1st few years of marriage. Finally, I said, "If it's not in the hamper, it don't get washed." (This is now a household rule even for DDs -- which saves me TONS of time and aggravation.)

Sure, he might be doing a load of undies right before bed one night and then hoping they dry during the time he is getting ready in the morning, or he might have to wear socks a second day (YUK!), but it's his responsibility and I no longer ENABLE him by picking up after him. Further, he will NEVER be upset at me for him not having clean clothing. (Not only is it his fault for not getting them in the hamper, he now also knows full well how to do it himself!) He no longer EXPECTS me to do this. Sometimes I do it anyways, but it's not expected and he even says thanks.

Just one example of the many tips found in my new book: "Good DH / Bad DH: 101 Tricks You Too Can Teach Your DH" LOL!!

 

[phins_jazy]

Ohhhhhh........I need that book!!

 

[ckr]

If only there were REALLY 101 things a DH was capable of learning!! Try 1 or 2 a year for 50 yrs of marriage -- well, maybe!! LOL!

 

[ahutton]

After many years of training my DH now e-mails me as soon as he finds out about something we have to cook for. I got very upset when we worked for the same company several years ago. I had just had shoulder surgery and both his department and mine were signed up for bringing main dishes for a building that held probably 100 people. I baked meatloaf for 4 hours and then delivered it. I was not happy, and he never has forgotten again. He just felt too bad!

 

[Kermit]

I couldn't let DH cook for those things. He could go by the grocery store and pick up a platter, but the fact of the matter is that most people are going to assume that his wife was involved in the preparation and choice of the food. He can only make Ramen noodles, and I don't want people to think that I was involved in anything he made.

However, I have trained him to understand that he has to let me know well ahead of time. We haven't had too much of a problem with stuff at work, but he used to think his friends could drop by with no notice when the house was messy and we'd just serve turkey sandwiches for dinner. That may work for some people, but it drives me nuts. Now he asks instead of telling, and he does it well in advance.

 

[faith]

How about picking up one of those precooked rotisserie chickens? Refrigerate the night before and tell him to microwave it at work. Hope they have a fridge to store it in until lunch though.

 

[becka]

LOL! I need that book!

It is not so much that I mind the cooking but the short notice drives me batty. If I can fit it into my plan a week or two in advance I just feel better about the whole thing.

By the way....the casserole is in the oven cooking right now.

 

[janette]

My DH makes no-bake cookies for all of his days he has to take something to work. They don't do it often but even if they did he would be in charge. If we have a pot luck at work I usually pick something up at the store.