Posting PM's on a board?

[Aidensmom]

Should you ever do that? Aren't PM's private (I always thought that was what the P stood for )

I really don't want to be privy to other people's personal disagreements. But on several boards, I have seen this done. Heck, I even have had someone do it to me.

 

[Papa Deuce]

This has NOTHING to do with your post.. but your son has no pink on?



Ok.... I'm just having some fun!

 

[Aidensmom]

This has NOTHING to do with your post.. but your son has no pink on?



Ok.... I'm just having some fun!

He does have a Cinderella pin. He just had me wearing his lanyard at the time.

 

[PixieDust32]

Should you ever do that? Aren't PM's private (I always thought that was what the P stood for )

I really don't want to be privy to other people's personal disagreements. But on several boards, I have seen this done. Heck, I even have had someone do it to me.

You're right, private is private, personal, but some people don't care. It was a huge deal about this issue at the Cooking and scrapbooking board a couple months ago. It was and some people posted about others and then the others did too,

 

[tiggersmom2]

Should you ever do that? Aren't PM's private (I always thought that was what the P stood for )

I really don't want to be privy to other people's personal disagreements. But on several boards, I have seen this done. Heck, I even have had someone do it to me.

Actually, I think it says a lot about someone who would post a pm. Whenever I see someone do that, I know to stay clear of them because that is a person with absolutely NO integrity.

 

[KarenAylwood]

Funny you should bring this up...

miekonow (with a post count of ZERO) just PM'd me this:

hi
i have inferno so if you have an offer instead of writing it all down let me go on your acount and see what i want.



Riiiight.

That's about the only kind of PM I'd post publicly

 

[Marseeya]

I used to be a member of a forum where it Just Wasn't Done, and you'd be shunned for doing anything like that.

Coming from that attitude, it always takes me aback when I see it here.

 

[JerseyJanice]

It's not something that should be done. Ever. (Well, the inferno one above is an exception.)

How's this for lousy behavior? One time, I had a PM exchange with someone here I considered a friend. Things got a bit heated between us, but rather than trying to work it out with me, the person posted my PMs on ANOTHER board--one I wouldn't be caught dead posting on and the person knew it.

Needless to say, I will never share another PM with that person nor do I consider her/him a friend anymore.

 

[sweet angel]

I agree, PM stands for PRIVATE message. I would be furious if someone posted a PRIVATE message that I had sent -- regardless of the reason.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Other than the inferno example (posters with no posts sending odd, strange, etc PMs) I think it's rotten to post PMs on a public forum and even worse to go to another forum and do so.

If I found out a "friend" did that to me you'd better believe that that person would no longer be considered a friend.

I don't even post snippets of PMs without the consent of the person PMing me unless it's a very general comment (ie, "yes, I've heard from ____ and they are doing ok" kind of thing) and only pass on PMs to someone else via PM with direct permission from the first individual.

I don't worry about the "moral police" catching me on this one--I have the moral police in my head that's a much tougher critic.

 

[Saffron]

My take on it ... PM's can be manipulated, edited, taken out of context etc. I'm sceptical when someone says, "look what so and so just sent me" unless it's a close friend of mine, both on AND off the boards. There are exceptions to the rule, like the one posted in this thread, but if someone I know on the boards/computer only is trying to get me involved in some PM "thing" by posting it on the boards, then sorry, I really don't know them well enough to know if they've "played" with the PM or not, so I'm really not interested. It makes for some drama if you're bored, that's about it.

I almost sent one to someone yesterday, but decided against it because I really don't know the person I was sending it to and I really didn't know what they would do with the PM. I was only going to laugh with the person and tell the person about my experience, but I thought "Nah, better not", and erased it because you just never know ...

I do remember some PM drama years back that had me roaring though. Two people that hated each other, both trying to pretend they would never be mean to anyone, posting ugly PM's they either both sent or both manipulated. I was bored, it was momentary excitement before the WM's saw it, that was it.

And ... I remember seeing a private message someone thought they were sending through PM, only to realize they were posting a new thread on the CB, not sending a PM. It only stayed up a few seconds, but I got to read it before she realized what she did and edited. It truly was meant to be private!

 

[Beth76]

Yeah, I think it's wrong.

 

[slo]

I would never do this - I can't believe other DISers do What's said in a PM is like going into the vault to me, and nothing leaves the vault

 

[Floydian]

PM = PRIVATE Message, thus I think it would be wrong to post them.

As for others posting them, if you can't trust someone to keep a PM private, how can you trust what they post about a PM?

 

[MsLeFever]

My mother always said "Never put anything in writing that you wouldn't care if everyone saw...."

While a PM should stay private I guess is always pays to be cautious.


PS> Woo Hoo this is my 2000th post!

 

[WonderfulDreamer2]

Probably shouldn't be posted by I also know of some people who use PM's as their personal way to be hateful to others while being all prayers and pixie dust here. Its disgusting to see the 2 faces of these people who hide behind PM's feeling that their true personality wont be seen by others. My feeling are, if you have something to say that you don't want others to know about, keep it to yourself. If you put it out there and are being vile to others, don't act all upset when your words come back to bite you in the butt. And the thread being started here is no better than the one you're "silently" referring to.
One day the truth will be seen and you'll feel bad for the aliances you chose. Until then, I'm sorry you've been drug in the middle of something that you don't want to be a part of.
Believe it or not, I miss YOU.

 

[DawnCt1]

I don't even think its appropriate to name the person that you receive a PM from. I might mention in general that I have received several PMs on a subject but I would never mention the "who" part of it.

 

[Saffron]

Uh oh.

 

[C.Ann]

Probably shouldn't be posted by I also know of some people who use PM's as their personal way to be hateful to others while being all prayers and pixie dust here. Its disgusting to see the 2 faces of these people who hide behind PM's feeling that their true personality wont be seen by others. My feeling are, if you have something to say that you don't want others to know about, keep it to yourself. If you put it out there and are being vile to others, don't act all upset when your words come back to bite you in the butt. And the thread being started here is no better than the one you're "silently" referring to.
One day the truth will be seen and you'll feel bad for the aliances you chose. Until then, I'm sorry you've been drug in the middle of something that you don't want to be a part of.
Believe it or not, I miss YOU.

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PM's are not "private" here - they are read by "the powers that be" - regardless of what you may think.. How else would they go into someones PM box and only delete "specific" ones that contain nothing regarding the "contents" in the title?? And then of course there are those who pass them on to "the Dark Side".. Why bother calling them "PM's"?

 

[ToriLammy]

It's not something that should be done. Ever. (Well, the inferno one above is an exception.)

There are more exceptions than just the inferno. I run the weekly NASCAR game on the CB and sometimes the players go on vacation (normally to Disney imagine that) and before they leave they will often PM me with their picks. Since picks must be "posted" to the board before qualifying I will often copy and post their PM so their picks count for the week. They all know I do it and no one has ever complained. The only editting I may do is if they say something about me (such as how wonderful I am) because well that's personal