Poll: Do you and your spouse sleep in the same bed?

[mumom95]

Do you and your spouse sleep in the same bed? My DH and I were just discussing yesterday how many couples we know that sleep apart due to different reasons.

 

[palmtreegirl]

Yes, I don't know any couples in real life that sleep in separate beds/bedrooms.

 

[shortbun]

Unless one of us is pretty sick, we sleep together...even through the horrible snoring. I'm a saint, lol!

 

[FireDancer]

Yes, I don't know any couples in real life that sleep in separate beds/bedrooms.

Are you telling me that Lucille Ball isn't (or wasn't) real!?!?!

Next thing you know someone will say Ricky Martin is gay.

 

[palmtreegirl]

Are you telling me that Lucille Ball isn't (or wasn't) real!?!?!

Next thing you know someone will say Ricky Martin is gay.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Yes, and it's very difficult for me to fall asleep if he is out of town or even awake in the house somewhere.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I don't know any couples who sleep apart either. I voted yes becuase we always sleep together when he is home--DH travels about 80% of the time for business--but we get the weekends

 

[HunnyPots]

Yes, we do, but I know several couples that do not. My parents slept in separate rooms, due to my dad's snoring/breathing issues. We have friends that sleep apart because of the wife's snoring and the husband's need to keep the room like a refrigerator. Some just need their space.

 

[Ohiodislover]

I would say we sleep apart, maybe 30-40 nights year, d/t work, work travel, kids got there first, etc. On nights when he snores badly and knows he is keeping me awake he goes to the spare, voluntarily.

We always comment how much better we sleep apartI worked nights for almost 7 years. It is hard to get back to sleeping w/ someone after that. I still need to go to bed and get to sleep before he comes to bed.

 

[PrincessSuzanne]

Yes, and I don't sleep well if he isn't there. His new job has him on calls sometimes after midnight and I am awake if he has to go out, I have been able to go back to sleep, but am up and down worrying about him.

Now, if it is Saturday or a day I am off, I can sleep in much better if he isn't there

Suzanne

 

[HeyIt'sMe]

Yes, most nights anyway. DH can be a very restless sleeper - some nights he'll snore or twitch or thrash & moan and he wakes me up. Once I'm up I just move to the guest room because I know I won't be able to fall back asleep in our bed. Apparently, I snore too which wakes up DH but he manages to fall back asleep in our bed.

 

[Piglet843]

For the most part - we do.
Occassionally - I'll spend a few hours on the couch in the foyer - right outside the bedroom - when the snoring becomes too much...
(snoring comes from both DH and the 95 lb laborador).
I'm a really light sleeper - I have trouble enough falling asleep and staying asleep - so its usually just when I'm desperate for some shut eye.

 

[Toad_Passenger]

DW and I always sleep in the same bed (even before she was my DW ). If she is away for an overnight trip, I will usually sleep on the couch, though. It's just not the same without her there.

 

[puffkin]

We do sleep together but on the weekends I beg him to sleep on the couch sometimes because of the snoring. He actually likes the couch, but I can't sleep on it.

Both my parents and inlaws sleep in seperate bedrooms due to snoring issues. They have both been married 30+ years so I guess it works for them

 

[ckay87]

I'm one of those people who needs space for sleeping. When someone....anyone....is touching me while I sleep, I wake up every time they move. Want to know what that feels like, over long term? Kinda like the days of having a newborn baby who never sleeps through the night. So while we do share the same bed, I will change my location during the night pretty frequently (good ole couch).

So while this earns me the "worse wife ever" award, it is not something I can change. And falling asleep while driving isn't something I'll risk (I have come close.) So I'm pretty much done feeling guilty about it.

 

[Anna114]

Ironically 1 month ago I would have said we slept separate and have for a couple of years due to the snoring. We have both lost a lot of weight and the snoring is no longer an issue (we missed each other terribly)

 

[HOGFAN]

no way, he snores and has restless legs and is unwilling to do anything about either.

 

[MomRN]

No... He doesn't like our mattress and prefers the couch. When I was pregnant I couldn't stand someone in my space. I co-slept with my son, and he's never made it out of the bed yet (3). Also I work nights 3 days a week now, so we haven't slept in the same bed for 3+ years.

I know it's weird, but it works.

 

[zachnsamsmommy]

No.

I guess I am in the minority, lol. I would like to sleep in the same bed, but my back just won't let me. I started having back problems when I was pg with my second child, and started sleeping in the guest room at that time. Well, after he was born, the back problems didn't get any better. And the matress in our room is new, so I'm not ready to get a new mattress set. So until then, separate rooms it is...

Oh, and I'm only 37...

 

[Becky2005]

I'm one of the weird couples that DH & I sleep apart. We didn't when we only had an apartment but once we got our house, we did. Mostly for snoring/hogging covers (HIM!), don't sleep well together issues. He never has been one that sleeps well with others in the room, much less in the same bed.

I always like to point out it's NORMAL for us because we had a situation with extended families that involved law enforcement and one of the sticking points they got hung up on was that they thought there was some fighting going on since they didn't sleep in the same bedroom. I would hate for some one to just assume there were issues just because we each have our own bedroom. Not even close to being true. I got the better end of the deal -- I have a Queen sized bed and the master bedroom while DH has a twin in the basement. LOL!!! I have really gotten spoiled with it. It does make traveling on vacation more difficult because then we have to share a bed and well...we both like our space.

It works for us.