I'd also recommend the Dolphin or the Swan over POFQ, and for many of the same reasons given by others. POFG has the edge in being more laid-back, and with a more restful setting, but the rooms at the Swan and Dolphin are much better, and there is a huge step upwards in the services available as well as the variety of watering holes - there's more than enough places for your husband to get his adult beverage.
POFQ also has the edge in being slightly cheaper. It is a Disney hotel, which the Dolphin and the Swan are not, but you still can get most of the Disney-hotel benefits at the Dolphin and the Swan, including (for example) early entry, or the use of the WDW transportation.
The location of the Dolphin and the Swan is much, much better, since you can simply walk over to Disney Studios or Epcot. From POFQ, you have to use a car or the buses.
It is rather a matter of taste which of the two is better, the Dolphin or the Swan. My personal preference is the Dolphin. Then again, they are located right next to each other, and so if you prefer one bar over here and one restaurant over there, all it takes is a few more steps.
Also, I thought that the educator's discount is available at the Swan and the Dolphin, even during the spring break? If so, POFQ wouldn't really be that much cheaper.
My only caveat about the two is that you said that your husband is not big on loud crowds and too many people. As Robinb said, the Easter season is a bad time anywhere. Even at low density times, the Dolphin and the Swan might be hosting a convention or two, which could easily pack at least some of the bars.