Please help calm me down! Update page 2

[Microcell]

I enrolled DD in summer school because I was convinced she would have fun by some neighbors who decided later not to have their child go for the same reason I am now upset: She is going to be in first grade next year and she has never gone all day before. I thought it would be a good way to get a leg up on next year. Now I feel like I have just shipped her off! Could this day be any longer? She goes 8:30 to 330 through June 25th. My DH is mad at me for sending her because he works retail and will not see her for days in a row. Should I just pull her if she does not absolutely love it? Do I have to honor the comitment? It is public school so I wonder if I will mess up their numbers for funding if I do. Of course I am not sure I care because she will not go again. I intend to let her be a kid next summer!

 

[cynsaun]

If she is not happy I would pull her. Don't feel badly, you were just doing what you thought was going to help her! If you truly want to pull her out, I would go for it! Good luck!

 

[DawnCt1]

If you think she will enjoy it, send her guilt free. If you and she would rather she stay home, notify the school that you have had a change of plans. How often to you get to be a kid after all?

 

[CBRorBust]

I really do not see the big deal with allowing her to stay in the program. It's only for a few weeks. I think she will enjoy herself, let her stick with it. As far as your husband seeing her, there are always the weekends.

Good Luck.

 

[Barb D]

The hardest thing about being a parent is making decisions that you don't KNOW FOR SURE are the right ones. Don't be hard on yourself. It could go either way (a great experience or a not so great one), and it's not irreversible. (This is what I tell myself about putting my kids in public school for the first time next year.) If she loves it, keep her in. If it doesn't work out, pull her out. Who cares if it messes up their funding? It's your child you are responsible for.

 

[Microcell]

Originally posted by CBRorBust
I really do not see the big deal with allowing her to stay in the program. It's only for a few weeks. I think she will enjoy herself, let her stick with it. As far as your husband seeing her, there are always the weekends.

Good Luck.

I see your point, but there is not the weekends when you work retail. That is his big argument. He has to work closing shifts more than he should because I work mornings and his days off for a doctor's office and they let me work whatever I can. Sooo he feels like he is sacrificing so much during the school year that he at least wants to see her during the summer.

 

[C.Ann]

There's a good possibility she may absolutely LOVE it - because she has other kids to play with all day and I'm sure they'll have some neat activities planned - kind of like summer camp..

Wait till the end of the day and see how she feels.. If she absolutely HATES it - and it's not academically necessary - then go ahead and pull her out.. Let HER feelings be the deciding factor..

 

[FroggyinArk]

agrees with the others,, let her decide if she likes it,, its only 24 more days total, and if hubbys working just oine shift,, that does leave him 16 hours aday on weekends and if its helping dd get a haed start on school,, i say if she likes it go for it,, if you pull her out, and she liked it,, it could make her not want to go in fall,, and then you havewnt got the choice,,

 

[Pop Daddy]

stick with the plan

 

[Celluloidgal]

I REQUESTED that two of my kids attend Summer School (although now they are being very PC about it and call it "Summer Camp")

This is my eldest 2nd year doing this. He loved it. The class is limited to 16 kids. A lot of one on one attention. Good for adjusting. The teachers are generally more relaxed. They think of it as a privilege.

It's only a month. Before you know it, it'll be July and she'll be saying, "Mom, I'm bored!"

I don't know about your program. But because of the limited class size, they ask for a commitment when you sign up to attend all days. Others are turned down, that would have loved to attend, so (putting on fire proof suit) I think you should stick to your commitment or find someone to take her place at the last moment. At our school, they might not let you attend "Summer Camp" if they knew you didn't follow through the previous year. I know of at least one child that was asked not to attend the following year because of this.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Deep breath....Call the school, tell them you are having second thoughts and see what the policy is. It might help you if you know "the deal".

 

[Microcell]

I am planning to call the school because they encourage parents to come for lunch during the school year so we want to come during summer if they will let us. I will get her reaction to it and proceed from there. I am a firm believer in sticking to a commitment, but it is not academically necessary for her to go, and if she is not having fun I see no point in her doing it! She has lots of friends in the neighborhood to play with, so I am wondering what the heck I was thinking. On the bright side if she does stay I think she will benefit from learning lunch procedures and will know what she will be in for. She tends to be tentative about new things, so it should at least make next fall easier for her. I thank you all for your opinions and I will not be lighting any matches toward any of you. It is nice to see what others think.

 

[BibbidyBobbidyBoo]

Wow, they have public summer school there for children who haven't even gone to 1st grade yet? My son was in Kindergarten this past year and boy he'd LOVE it if they had summer school here.... unfortunately we don't- or atleast I've never heard of such a thing here... but he'd have a blast if they did! This kid couldn't get enough of school... regular class, gifted and talented, extra projects with no extra grades/etc. for doing so- he just loved everything about school! Too bad we don't have summer school here...

She may surprise you and have a blast- but I agree with you that if she isn't, there isn't any point in forcing her to go to summer school. It's not like she's older and showing a need for summer school academically or something.

 

[Microcell]

Originally posted by BibbidyBobbidyBoo
Wow, they have public summer school there for children who haven't even gone to 1st grade yet? My son was in Kindergarten this past year and boy he'd LOVE it if they had summer school here.... unfortunately we don't- or atleast I've never heard of such a thing here... but he'd have a blast if they did! This kid couldn't get enough of school... regular class, gifted and talented, extra projects with no extra grades/etc. for doing so- he just loved everything about school! Too bad we don't have summer school here...



They only have it because Govener Holden couldn't get his mitts on it as it was seperate funds from the regular education funding. It was some sort of "special" thing- the parents here got really upset because just about everything got cut last school year (like field trips) and then there is this, which alot of people figured was to help out working parents- so it got a little ugly with those who don't rely on daycare. It does feel like free daycare or something- another problem DH has with it as we have just about gone broke trying to keep her out of daycare. A lot of Stay at homes have enrolled thier kids too, so I don't feel bad about that. She does enjoy school too, which is why I enrolled her to begin with.

 

[m&m's mom]

My personal opinion is family is more important. Time spent w/ her Dad can never be replaced.
If this is optional and you are not even sure if she will benefit I would choose family time.
Lifes too short.

 

[Dancind]

Well, first I'd wonder what they are covering. If your child is average or above in intelligence, she doesn't need to learn things twice (actually, they teach everything in triplicate as it is). She might have behavior problems in 1st grade, simply because she is bored. Seems like a good thing if she does need to adjust to a more structured environment though. Mine went to a fairly unstructured pre-school/kindergarten, and then got a 1st grade teacher that acted like she was running a boot camp. It wasn't pretty. Diana

 

[MICKEY88]

Originally posted by m&m's mom
My personal opinion is family is more important. Time spent w/ her Dad can never be replaced.
If this is optional and you are not even sure if she will benefit I would choose family time.
Lifes too short.

I agree 100%..
and I also wonder why Dad wasn't part of the decision making process in the firast place..

 

[Microcell]

Because he has never shown a particular interest in the detail stuff like cheerleading class, girl scouts, ice skating, getting her enrolled in regular school in the first place. He does not initiate anything and when an opportunity comes up I usually say "there is this thing she wants to do..." (which I said with this) and his reaction is always the same- okay sure, whatever and a couple of months later after I have done the leg work I tell him where to be and what to do. So it has gotten to be less discussion and more me telling him about the thing and not doing it if he voices an objection. The first time I mentioned it he voiced no reservations about it until I told him it would be happening. We talked about why he feels so bad and some of it has to do with his own feelings about school.

Anyway- she loved it! She seemed to have alot of fun and knew a couple of kids. We can have lunch with her, which should make her dad happier. He and I will talk more about it tonight and if he still has a problem with it I will pull her.

 

[Celluloidgal]

Glad she liked it.

Be at peace with whatever you (& hubby) decide to do.

Good luck

 

[Wish I lived in Fl]

If she is a tentative child, this program might make it a lot easier for her in September.

If she has never been in Daycare, she might really enjoy 'being a big kid" by going to summer school, meeting new kids, school routines.

My DD (3) speaks longingly of when she will grow up, be a Mommy and get to ride the schoolbus!

She also makes up Homework for herself to be like her big brother.