Please Be Kind

[mamax2]

I have to vent. I love coming on to this site, because I love Disney to the point where I was starting to question whether or not I was right in the head. I found this site where I could click around, reading about what's new since I was there last, reliving great trips with my family. Of course there are other subjects that come up that I find very informative, and fun to read up on. So here's my beef. People who insist on making snide sarcastic comments. For example, now I know this was a while ago, but there was a woman who wrote that her son was desperate to go on some of the wilder rides at Disney, but was about an inch off the height requirement, and wanted to know what she could do to help him reach them. She got toasted! I respect the fact that you don't want to play with the safety standards, because they are there for a reason, but some comments were very out of line. Another thread I read when I first joined up was about child harnesses. This was a subject I was very interested in, being the proud owner of a brand-new two year old, with very quick legs. I understand that not everyone likes the idea of putting their kids on a "leash". But seriously, questioning peoples abilty to parent their own children because they want them to be safe? So its not everyones idea of how to keep their children from wandering off, it works for some people. I'm not saying agree with it, but respect the fact that there are people who do things differently from you, and don't insult them for it.

So that's my rant. I just hate having to reread, and revise innocent comments I type out because I'm afraid of what someone is going to write back to me, because my opinion isn't worthy of them. I completely respect the fact that everyone is going to have different ideas about everything from A-Z, and I think this would be a pretty boring disscussion forum if they didn't, but if you are reading this, please, the next time you have a difference of opinion with someone, try not to rake them over the coals, no matter what you think about them in your head. Ok? Thank you. (you may notice this same post on the Canadian board, under Negative Posters. I meant to put it here, but messed up. Sorry!)

 

[kandb]

When I read some of the posts from some people I would consider "fanatics", I just get a good laugh from it. Some people on the boards just can't wait to ridicule people and if you ever say anything a little bit negative about "Disney" they freak out. I just get a good laugh and realize these people probably have no lives. Linda

 

[JediDan2773]

I don't really know how to say it other than I agree. Some people just overreact way too easily.

 

[famofsix]

You can always use the ignore button if there are certian someones that rub you wrong. Otherwise, try to take the helpful advice and don't take the other advice personally even if you feel you are being flamed. And if it gets to much, just unsubscribe from the thread that is bothering you and DON"T LOOK BACK!
There are lots of nice people here!
There may be a few villians along the way. Don't let the villians spook you away.
It's all how you look at it

Cheers

 

[mamax2]

You can always use the ignore button if there are certian someones that rub you wrong. Otherwise, try to take the helpful advice and don't take the other advice personally even if you feel you are being flamed. And if it gets to much, just unsubscribe from the thread that is bothering you and DON"T LOOK BACK!
There are lots of nice people here!
There may be a few villians along the way. Don't let the villians spook you away.
It's all how you look at it

Cheers

I didn't know there was an ignore button. That's pretty cool. But my problem isn't people who give advice, it's how they word it. I want to hear both sides of the story, just not by someone who is so closed minded that they can't see past their own opinion. And that's all it is - their opinion. And if it doesn't match up with what everyone else is thinks, then they are WRONG with a capital W. That's all I was trying to say. I'm not sure if it came out right.

 

[manda40475]

I'm sorry, but just because someone has a differing or "negative" opinion does not make them close minded. I know I get attacked quite a bit on message boards (not this one) because if I have a differing opinion...I don't hesitate to post it. Maybe I can word things a bit better, but I just tell it like I see it. It's also hard to read someone's tone online.

 

[mamax2]

I'm sorry, but just because someone has a differing or "negative" opinion does not make them close minded. I know I get attacked quite a bit on message boards (not this one) because if I have a differing opinion...I don't hesitate to post it. Maybe I can word things a bit better, but I just tell it like I see it. It's also hard to read someone's tone online.

No I'm sorry, but if someone is going to automatically shoot down the OPs opinion as wrong, or stupid because its different from theirs, then yes they are, there is no other way to put it. And I think you misunderstood the whole point of my post. I didn't mean people should not have another view of things, or if you do that you should not post it. My point was you don't have to insult people or be rude just because you don't agree with them.

 

[dpuck1998]

 

[manda40475]

I think we're discussing two different types of posts, but then again maybe not. I agree that if someone thinks only their opinion is right and faults someone else for theirs, then yes...that is being close minded. It seemed to me you were saying that anyone with a differing opinion that expressed said opinion in a thread was being close minded. As I said earlier, it's very easy to misunderstand posts in an online forum.

 

[carrie s]

I agree with you. Its ok to have a different opinion and give your opinion,but some people do insult people they dont agree with, and thats not ok.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I venture though many Disney message boards and the Dis Boards are the meanest! No one ever gets 'yelled at' at the intercot boards.
But still that doesn't stop me from going on the Disboards every day!

 

[mamax2]

I completely respect the fact that everyone is going to have different ideas about everything from A-Z, and I think this would be a pretty boring disscussion forum if they didn't, but if you are reading this, please, the next time you have a difference of opinion with someone, try not to rake them over the coals, no matter what you think about them in your head. Ok? Thank you. (you may notice this same post on the Canadian board, under Negative Posters. I meant to put it here, but messed up. Sorry!)

MANDA40475:

I've isolated what I was trying to tell you here, from my original post. As you can see, I didn't say disagreeing with someone is wrong, or rude, or that you shouldn't do it. I'm saying, don't be rude while you are doing it. If, for example, I put up a post saying I am going to do something that you feel is completely wrong, by ALL MEANS say something. I may not have thought of it in that light. But don't get all snipey, calling me a bad parent, or an ignoramus. Just say "Hey, I don't know if you've thought of it this way, but I personally wouldn't do that, and this is why."

 

[dpuck1998]

Ok, I'll stop just watching the post

I agree on both accounts. Many people do become rude and those are the ones I just hit ignore so I don't have to see them anymore. Also, it is hard to tell in a sentance what someone really means sometimes. I try not to be rude ever, but sometimes even if we don't mean it people interject their feelings into your post. Then they get mean and I get mean and yada yada yada everyone is upset. A little humor and laugh off rude people is what I try to do. Also, I do agree that for some reason there is a lot of meanies here...but that might be because its sooo big. And a few people can spoil a lot of posts.

 

[AJKMOM]

Guess I need to find the elusive "Ignore" button. Help, anyone?

I agree that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. What I hate is when some think they are the only right ones.

One that gets me is the Handholder" baby leash", if you don't like it, that's your opinion. Until you have lost your child in "The Land" pavilion and frantically search for 10 minutes, don't criticize others.

 

[dpuck1998]

well, there was a button...i think....but I can't find it...

anyway, goto user CP and toward the bottom left is a buddy/ignore list. Click and put in the user name to ignore.

Then no more message from them

 

[mamax2]

I venture though many Disney message boards and the Dis Boards are the meanest! No one ever gets 'yelled at' at the intercot boards.
But still that doesn't stop me from going on the Disboards every day!

What other Disney Boards are do you go on? The only one I knew about was this one.

 

[DisneyFairy19]

You can def. ignore what they have to say... Sorry to hear about that

 

[dana1003]

 

[Mickey1122]

I find that people can get mega-flamed by posting that they or someone they know does something that is against the rules. It's perfectly alright to tell the person that it is against the rules. (exs. would be pool hopping, mugs, parking and using monorail) What I don't like is to see Disers calling the rule offender horrible and anti-Disney. It is worse to be rude and condescending.

 

[mtrak17]

I venture though many Disney message boards and the Dis Boards are the meanest! No one ever gets 'yelled at' at the intercot boards.
But still that doesn't stop me from going on the Disboards every day!

THIS IS COMPLETELY OFF TOPIC - SORRY - I just wanted to say that the one time I posted on Intercot, I advised someone to check a different Disney website which had the answer to their question (Intercot did not!!) and the moderators deleted the name of the other website from my post (I felt like I had committed a major crime)!! DIS may have some biting comments sometimes, but at least we're offered the freedom to post where to get the best information!!

OK - SORRY - CONTINUE....