Please Be Kind

[the Fidge]

HEres how I try to view life and maybe it will help someone else, or maybe not!!!

Anyway if you and I are standing looking at a painting I see a duck and you see cat does that mean I am wrong or you are wrong??

Nope just means we view things differently! HEres the best part of that for me, if you are going crazy about something I regard as meaningless am I right?? Yup, right for me! You I don't know so have no clue.

I try to conserve all my energy in a positive direction, hopefully what I put out in the world may make it a little nicer for some grumpy miserable perrson. If it doesnt thats ok too because I feel better for being pleasant. What someone else does with kindness is on them!

SO for those that sit in harsh judgements of toerhs I wish them well in life and hope they are never on the recieving end of someone equally as critical it would really hurt!

SO spread a little sunshine laughter and joy its a good place to be, I try to teach my DS who finds some really harsh children in school very alarming and I sadly have to expain its what they are taught. No child is naturally mean it is learned!

SO wonderfully behaved kind son can go to Disney with a song in his heart and a smile on his face! I did mention he has the filthiest room in the us right??

 

[thebecka]

I prefer to take opinions posted with a grain of salt. Some are here to inform and learn while others get a kick out of ticking off others or instigating an on line brawl. I agree with the advice of just ignoring the really obnoctious posts There are too many great threads to read. I hope you enjoy the boards and don't let a few bad eggs spoil your experience.

 

[Fitswimmer]

I'd like to take the other side of this issue. I've noticed that people are VERY touchy on this board and get offended quite easily. I've been reading this board for five months, practically every day and I really haven't seen an abundance of rudeness. Have I seen some rudeness? Of course, just like I see some rudeness everywhere else in life. I've seen people react to being "flamed" but when I go back and look at the posts, there's not even a hint of smoke!
When someone asks how to break the rules, they do get negative responses, but that's because most of us know that the rules are there so that everyone has a better experience. From what I understand, the parenting threads can get a bit testy, but since I'm not one I just avoid those. However, I have jumped right into the fray on the Community Board and had a fine time. Yes, there are strong opinions there and things can get testy, but that's how we all learn about each other and ourselves. If I have to defend my opinion, I have to really think about why I hold it so I can explain it coherently to others. Someone else might show me a way of looking at things in a way I hadn't thought of before and I may see the issue differently.
I've had experiences where I've taken a post the wrong way, and responded testily. After clarification, I discovered that the other poster didn't mean what I assumed they meant, I apologized for my testy response and all was well.

 

[ariel75]

No I'm sorry, but if you automatically shoot down the OPs opinion as wrong, or stupid because its different from yours, then yes you are, there is no other way to put it. And you obviously ignored the whole point of my post. I didn't mean people should not have another view of things, or if you do that you should not post it. My point was you don't have to insult people or be rude just because you don't agree with them.

oops looks like this post has started what you were trying to aviod

 

[dpuck1998]

oops looks like this post has started what you were trying to aviod

Or maybe not? what do you mean by that...how do you know what he/she was avoiding...what is wrong with you....how dare you project what he/she was trying to say. of course..j/k

 

[the Fidge]

Fitswimmer ....too funny many a time I must practice some restraint of tongue and pen and more often then not I learn down the road it is just my perception is off! I think they mean something else ! So glad I walk away and read again the next day and have a good laugh at my own expense its more cost effective too!!!

Too often I amy come on here when I am very tired or just had one of those days and do not permit myself to type anything!!!!

So my best thing to do ...is ...just let em whirl!!!!!

 

[mickeymousemom]

This board is full of rude people who seem to get a thrill out of making smart-hiney comments to people. I can totally respect a difference of opinion if it is put in a respectable way, but there are too many people here who like to judge and ridicule others.
As far as other DIsney Boards, there are plenty of them. I only go to this one and one other, and I assure you...ALL of the rudeness gets clipped in two seconds flat on the other board. It's not as big as this one and that's why. The mods just don't tolerate any rudeness, and it's much easier for them to catch it.
I think the OP is great for asking that everyone be nice, but sadly enough it just won't happen. These boards are so HUGE that just about every personality type is represented many times over here. And we must also remember that it's much easier to say mean things here than it is in real life. So even those posters who might not say something to your face can hide behind their monitor and be judgmental.
I think that the best any of us can do when we encounter this stuff is to "Ignore" the one we think is being rude. Also remember that these people don't know you personally, so their comments mean nothing, really. I've learned not to get into personal debates and to stay away from threads gone bad. I love these boards and many of the people on here are good for putting a smile on my face. That's what I remember when I see people at their worst here...

 

[Goofy4]

I'm here because I got yelled at on another board (wrongly so). Then I came here and almost immediately made a completely inaccurate statement (thought I new more than I did) and got yelled at (mostly justified), but I decided to hang around. Just wanted to say “it” happens on other Disney boards too.

 

[momof3littlelilos]

There is a bit of snarkiness from a few people. I've also noticed it on the budget boards...although not everyone catches it...but thank you for pointing out the "ignore" function...it's sort of cool, except when othe people quote your ignored person...then I feel like I'm missing something and my inner masochist can't help but peek.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

What other Disney Boards are do you go on? The only one I knew about was this one.

www.intercot.com It's a good one too!

 

[AlleyKat]

www.intercot.com It's a good one too!

THANKS for the addy...it looks like a fun, informative place!

 

[Fafolguy]

Eh, welcome to the internet, folks.
If you want to see REAL snark and rudeness, run over to coaster enthusiast message board or to a TV board. Generally speaking, the people around here are as happy and friendly as most are when they actually go to Disney
But, it is a good thing to remember that this website operates in a certain way. If you don't like it, or find it unacceptable, email the mods and if it doesn't change, Google shows about 5000 sites with "Disney Message Boards." Just like your TV, you choose what you see, and sometimes you must take the bad with the good.

 

[ariel75]

Or maybe not? what do you mean by that...how do you know what he/she was avoiding...what is wrong with you....how dare you project what he/she was trying to say. of course..j/k

 

[mamax2]

oops looks like this post has started what you were trying to aviod

LOL, ok, so I can see how it would be easy to be misunderstood. But in my defence I was trying to be informative to anyone else who might read that, and taken her point of view that I was asking people not to say something if they disagree with someone else. And I think I made my point over the next few message. But in the interest of keeping the peace, I will change my response.

 

[snowy76]

Uh-uh. I wasn't being rude. I was being informative to anyone else who might read that, and take her point of view that I was asking people not to say something if they disagree with someone else. And I think I made my point over the next few messages. She was getting all offended at something I didn't even say! But in the interest of keeping the peace, I will change my response.

I didn't read that as ariel75 trying to make a judgment on you. I think she was just pointing out that this thread has, itself, turned into a debate.

 

[mamax2]

True. And debates are fine. As long as it doesn't result in childish name calling. Like "You have the nerve to disagree with me? Are you an idiot?" (OK so I'm exaggerating a bit, but you get the point.) But you'll also notice, I corrected my comment. I was trying to type with my two year old on my lap, and she cut me off before I could put the finishing touches on my comment. Why did we ever teach her to use a mouse??!!??

 

[snowy76]

I was trying to type with my two year old on my lap, and she cut me off before I could put the finishing touches on my comment. Why did we ever teach her to use a mouse??!!??

I think she's trying to tell you she wants her own screen name!

 

[cybrkitn]

I was trying to type with my two year old on my lap, and she cut me off before I could put the finishing touches on my comment. Why did we ever teach her to use a mouse??!!??

I know that feeling . Done that when my DS4 was that age. I sometimes have him on my lap at times at this age, but that's because he gets the computer when I'm done. Only problem is, he is too smart. Amazingly, he can type his name in even though he can't read or write yet (but he is learning in pre-school) .

 

[mamax2]

Oy vey. Kids Do you sometimes feel like they clone themselves during the day, and that there is actually two dozen or so of them running around?

 

[ariel75]

This board is full of rude people who seem to get a thrill out of making smart-hiney comments to people. I can totally respect a difference of opinion if it is put in a respectable way, but there are too many people here who like to judge and ridicule others.
As far as other DIsney Boards, there are plenty of them. I only go to this one and one other, and I assure you...ALL of the rudeness gets clipped in two seconds flat on the other board. It's not as big as this one and that's why. The mods just don't tolerate any rudeness, and it's much easier for them to catch it.
I think the OP is great for asking that everyone be nice, but sadly enough it just won't happen. These boards are so HUGE that just about every personality type is represented many times over here. And we must also remember that it's much easier to say mean things here than it is in real life. So even those posters who might not say something to your face can hide behind their monitor and be judgmental.
I think that the best any of us can do when we encounter this stuff is to "Ignore" the one we think is being rude. Also remember that these people don't know you personally, so their comments mean nothing, really. I've learned not to get into personal debates and to stay away from threads gone bad. I love these boards and many of the people on here are good for putting a smile on my face. That's what I remember when I see people at their worst here...

good advice