Originally posted by PamOKW
It's all a personal arrangement. You should have made some type of agreement when you originally made the rental. Usually they are "final sales" but people can sometimes work with you to fix a problem.
The DVC member has restrictions on their points as well. Especially if it's close to the travel date and the member rented you points that are expiring during this Use Year, they may not have very many options themselves to re-rent the points.
Changing the name of the reservation should be no problem at all. The member just needs to call it in.
Sorry to hear about your husband -- hope it all works out fine.