Pixie Dusting Adults

[SMD]

This kinda makes me sad for grammimouse. She gave your child a gift and considered it a nice thing and now it's not . I guess this highlights how giving strangers gifts can backfire on you.

You know, if she hadn't bragged about bestowing her gifts, and hadn't mentioned her criteria for doing so, the recipient never would have put two and two together. What's worse, finding out you've embarrassed the recipient, or being the recipient who finds out your were profiled as something negative? I think grammimouse's post, and to some extent your response illustrate that handing out trinkets is more about the giver than the recipient. Also, I've seen it said before, but not yet in this thread; sometimes there is a reason that the parents haven't gotten their child a glow stick or a toy. Flashing a trinket in front of a family and asking for permission can very much undermine something that is going on with that family. They may politely decline, but it's still quite presumptuous and potentially disruptive to butt into their business like that.

 

[morethananyonex]

WOW. !!! My thread was totally misunderstood !! I guess I did not word my intentions properly. I honestly only wanted to give a smile to some little girls and get rid of the dolls. I certainly did not mean to cast any judgements upon anyone. I could have just donated them to a local charity , but, instead I thought that it would make someone's trip more memorable. That sure backfired , huh ? At least you no longer have the doll to give you such bad feelings. I only meant to be kind.

Since you're back, really curious how you determined which families spent all their money on a Disney trip and had none left for souvenirs. How do you tell?

 

[SMD]

WOW. !!! My thread was totally misunderstood !! I guess I did not word my intentions properly. I honestly only wanted to give a smile to some little girls and get rid of the dolls. I certainly did not mean to cast any judgements upon anyone. I could have just donated them to a local charity , but, instead I thought that it would make someone's trip more memorable. That sure backfired , huh ? At least you no longer have the doll to give you such bad feelings. I only meant to be kind.

If your point is that handing out dolls is about others and not yourself, I think a simple apology might have been a better response here.

 

[grammimouse]

Like I said ----my post was VERY misunderstood. I don't know what else to say.

 

[morethananyonex]

Like I said ----my post was VERY misunderstood. I don't know what else to say.

What part was misunderstood?

 

[coley444]

On the bus in April I was talking with newlyweds on their honeymoon. Asked where they were going for dinner during their trip and they said plenty of good restaurants but they couldn't get Be Our Guest. I went on the Disney DVC Resale site right then and there on my phone. I snagged them a reservation! They were so excited and I was excited to help them. Just keep your ears open- you never know when you'll get your chance!

 

[mom2rtk]

On the bus in April I was talking with newlyweds on their honeymoon. Asked where they were going for dinner during their trip and they said plenty of good restaurants but they couldn't get Be Our Guest. I went on the Disney DVC Resale site right then and there on my phone. I snagged them a reservation! They were so excited and I was excited to help them. Just keep your ears open- you never know when you'll get your chance!

That was really generous of you since you would have had to guarantee that with your own credit card.

 

[HookdonWDW]

On the bus in April I was talking with newlyweds on their honeymoon. Asked where they were going for dinner during their trip and they said plenty of good restaurants but they couldn't get Be Our Guest. I went on the Disney DVC Resale site right then and there on my phone. I snagged them a reservation! They were so excited and I was excited to help them. Just keep your ears open- you never know when you'll get your chance!

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[DRDISNEYMD]

If your point is that handing out dolls is about others and not yourself, I think a simple apology might have been a better response here.

~I totally agree with this! The gesture itself is kind but the once you learn the meaning behind it -- I see how it can be hurtful.

~Personally, I would not have allowed my DD to accept the doll at Disney or anywhere else. If she insisted, I would have accepted it and descreetly throw it away later or drop it off in lost or found.

~Anyway, the whole situation is just awkward. It's not a big deal or anything -- it's just weird. I will echo the sentiment of others who say that polite manners and common courtesy to everyone is the best pixie dust. And, giving the all of the CM's something extra in tips or compliments at guest services. I really liked the idea of paying or using credits for someone's meal behind you -- that's cool, too.

 

[itchin2go]

I won't quote anyone so as not to single in anyone, but can we lay off grammimouse? She was obviously well intentioned.

I realize the wording about who looked like they needed a free doll (paraphrasing, clearly) was confusing, and a bit provocative (albeit, unwittingly), but why pick on someone who was obviously so well-intentioned?

I feel like some smell blood in the water and are going in for the kill.

The takeaway from this thread is that what one person considers "pixie dust", another may consider less favorably. I think everyone agrees that kindness, manners and a helping hand, in general, are well-regarded by nearly everyone. Actual gifts are going to have mixed responses.

Why are we picking on people who just want to do nice things for others? Can't we go back to just picking on the pool-hoppers?

 

[DRDISNEYMD]

On the bus in April I was talking with newlyweds on their honeymoon. Asked where they were going for dinner during their trip and they said plenty of good restaurants but they couldn't get Be Our Guest. I went on the Disney DVC Resale site right then and there on my phone. I snagged them a reservation! They were so excited and I was excited to help them. Just keep your ears open- you never know when you'll get your chance!

~Awww! This is so sweet -- they will never forget that. We met a really sweet couple in a hotel lobby in Vegas who gave us front row seats for a sold out show -- it was fabulous. I'll never forget it.

 

[coley444]

That was really generous of you since you would have had to guarantee that with your own credit card.

Well I actually just handed the husband my iPhone and he logged in and got his confirmation. I screen grabbed their confirmation in case it didn't show on his MDE and logged them right out. Worked great!

This was on the CSR bus to AK her name was Christine (for sure) and his was Alex (I think). Hi if you're out there! After seeing the posts above you never know if you'll uncover a WDW connection on the DIS!

 

[grammimouse]

I won't quote anyone so as not to single in anyone, but can we lay off grammimouse? She was obviously well intentioned.

I realize the wording about who looked like they needed a free doll (paraphrasing, clearly) was confusing, and a bit provocative (albeit, unwittingly), but why pick on someone who was obviously so well-intentioned?

I feel like some smell blood in the water and are going in for the kill.

The takeaway from this thread is that what one person considers "pixie dust", another may consider less favorably. I think everyone agrees that kindness, manners and a helping hand, in general, are well-regarded by nearly everyone. Actual gifts are going to have mixed responses.

Why are we picking on people who just want to do nice things for others? Can't we go back to just picking on the pool-hoppers?

Thank you , someone who understands.

 

[luvthemouse71]

If you want to pixie dust an adult, the best thing to do is treat them with courtesy. You can keep the stickers, glitter, trinkets, etc.

Be polite, don't come to a dead stop in the walkways, utilize strollers and ECVs carefully, bus your tables, don't change your baby's diaper where people are eating, the list goes on..

 

[itchin2go]

don't come to a dead stop in the walkways

THIS, above all else!

I swear, this is the single biggest cause of my inevitable bad mood on day 5!

 

[apicozzi]

I won't quote anyone so as not to single in anyone, but can we lay off grammimouse? She was obviously well intentioned.

I realize the wording about who looked like they needed a free doll (paraphrasing, clearly) was confusing, and a bit provocative (albeit, unwittingly), but why pick on someone who was obviously so well-intentioned?

I feel like some smell blood in the water and are going in for the kill.

The takeaway from this thread is that what one person considers "pixie dust", another may consider less favorably. I think everyone agrees that kindness, manners and a helping hand, in general, are well-regarded by nearly everyone. Actual gifts are going to have mixed responses.

Why are we picking on people who just want to do nice things for others? Can't we go back to just picking on the pool-hoppers?

 

[DRDISNEYMD]

Thank you , someone who understands.

~I apologize if you feel I was picking on you.

~All that matters, is you did something very nice for an adorable little girl. When I was a little girl -- a lady and her husband gave me a brand new Snoopy plush that I simply adored. I had the Snoopy Snow Cone machine and enjoyed "tea parties" with Snoopy all the time. I will never forget them

 

[grammimouse]

~I apologize if you feel I was picking on you.

~All that matters, is you did something very nice for an adorable little girl. When I was a little girl -- a lady and her husband gave me a brand new Snoopy plush that I simply adored. I had the Snoopy Snow Cone machine and enjoyed "tea parties" with Snoopy all the time. I will never forget them

Apology accepted , thank you.

 

[dawnball]

Of course there's the standard by a drink/ice cream for the person behind you but what are some other "random acts of pixie" that grown ups might enjoy. What would brighten your day?

Most of the things that have brightened my day aren't easy. They're simple, but not easy.

I was at Blizzard Beach one summer and overheated. A very kind person insisted on getting me a bottle of water, and finding help.

Good humored suggestions for how to hold/stand/navigate Sorcerers of the Magic Kingdom when I was new and clueless. (And probably holding them up.)

"Sorry, we're not sure exactly what we want - why don't you go ahead of us while we finish making up our minds?" Was so much better than standing behind a large group at the register as they tried to get everyone to settle on an order.

Politeness when people bump into each other - no matter who was at fault.

Groups that don't amble 3-4 (or 6) abreast.

Cracking jokes or being optimistic instead of complaining when we're stuck in a bad situation that no one can control (long lines, stuck monorail, parks at closing).

People who pulled their feet out of the way when my stroller would -barely- fit, without looking or sounding irritated.

Understanding when I'm at the end of my rope, or too wrapped up in my own concerns to do any of these things, and accidentally make people's days a little more difficult.

Those are things I remember, far more than the little scraps of paper thanking us for making some family's trip better, or glow sticks for my 3 year old or stickers.

 

[Zeebs]

~I apologize if you feel I was picking on you. ~All that matters, is you did something very nice for an adorable little girl. When I was a little girl -- a lady and her husband gave me a brand new Snoopy plush that I simply adored. I had the Snoopy Snow Cone machine and enjoyed "tea parties" with Snoopy all the time. I will never forget them

Yet even though you had this lovely experience you wouldn't allow your daughter to accept a doll and thought the giving of them was weird.

Kirsten