Pet Peeves

[umichigan10]

Pet peeves. People who block ramps. Sorry but this wheelchair doesn't go down curbs people.

People who use the back of my wheelchair to prop their kid on for the parade. Unless you are my family or friend don't touch unless invited. And don't let your kid come and sit on my footrest unless I offer it.

People who get upset when a CM seats me in a certain place so I can use the reflective captioning and they need to get by. I'll gladly move my feet so you can pass.

But my biggest pet peeve is CMs who refuse to face me when speaking or try to yell at me from a distance even after I indicate I am hard of hearing. I need to see your full face to understand you and you need to be at a reasonable distance for me to speech read you.

I'd like to just say that I think you have a really cool screen name! A+ for creativity in my bool

 

[chloe4ever]

Did you call the authorities on her? What terrible parenting!

Unfortunately being selfish parent is not against the law. Unfortunately.....

I'm honestly not sure my mother ever played in the pool with me. She didn't have colour treated hair, she just didn't like swimming (or even being in a swimming pool). Never thought of her as a selfish b*tch and I suspect that that woman's daughter doesn't either (at least, not just because of the swimming thing). I think you can stop feeling "so bad for her kid".

I will not stop feeling bad for the kid because......I feel bad for the kid. It is selfish and b*tchy to only care about your hair when your kid WANTS you to swim with them. She kept asking the mom to swim with her and the mom would NOT get in the pool. That is beyond selfish. That is just cruel. So yes, the little girl did care. And she did notice. So no, I'm not going to stop feeling bad for the kid.

And I'm not going to speak for your mom or what motivated her.....but why have kids if you are not going to do things like swim with them when they ask you to...........

 

[chloe4ever]

I think the comment you quoted showed that there was more ugly in the posters heart than that mother who didn't take her kid to the pool. Now THAT is sad.

Yes, I have "ugly in my heart" because I feel sorry for a little girl that wanted her mom to swim with her and she refused and ignored her instead. Yes, how ugly my heart is because I felt bad for the kid. How ugly my heart is that I think it is "slightly" unreasonable for me to be beyond p*ssed that a mom thinks that her hair color is more important than swimming and playing with her little girl.

When I had to hear over and over and again, "Mommy, please come in the pool with me" from a 6 year old and the mom refused.

Yes, I'm the one with "ugly in my heart".

How "sad" and "ugly" your heart is towards the little girl and not caring how she felt.......

 

[POOHsie]

This! Obviously it does nothing to me personally, but why the heck do you want to wear heels around Disney?! So silly.......

It reminds me of a mom I talked to in a pool a few weeks ago (it took ALL my strength not to slap her honestly because I felt SO bad for her little girl) Her kid was swimming and as I passed her table she said, "It has been TWO years since she has been in a pool." and I said, "You have not swam with your kid in two years and she said, "Color treated hair does not get wet"

What a selfish b*tch..........I felt so bad for her kid.

You are rushing to judgment here. My mom also never went in the water with us kids, whether it was at the lake, at a pool, or our backyard above-ground pool. Dad did the water stuff. If he wasn't around, we went in alone. That was just how mom was. I didn't resent her for it. She was great in so many other ways.

You don't know this stranger-lady's real story. She could be afraid of the water from a childhood scare. Her husband or other child might have been on the way to the pool to join the child. Anything. What strangers tell you and what the real story is, are many times different. Frankly, if I had a stranger asking me a question that sounded like a veiled personal criticism, I would be tempted to say something shocking to shut them up and make them go away. Lesson learned.

The most I would conclude from your interlude was that it seemed sad. Period.

 

[chloe4ever]

*deleted other response on my part*

I feel no need to continue arguing with people who protect a mother who obviously was selfish. I was there. I saw the situation. I have seen her before. She never swims. Her kid always begs. She always ignores her kids cries. Continue to defend someone like that. I'm done.

Will never understand the mentality that some have that a mother can never be selfish *because a mother is never selfish--she is a mother!* Insert eye roll. There always must be a reason.


Back to talking about pet peeves.

 

[chloe4ever]

Other pet peeves at Disney:

--The constant pics some parents take. With the use of cell phone cameras-- every single moment has to be documented. Just enjoy the moment! No need to take 400 pics on a single ride and then ask me to take 200 of those pics.......

--And then that also goes along with the constant texting and tweeting. "Yes, it is SO important that all your FB and Twitter friends know that you are now in line waiting for fries in the Magic Kingdom".

--Speaking of texting--when families are sitting at a table and they are ALL texting--eyes glued to their phones. Does your 10 year old really need a smart phone at Disney?

 

[crashbb]

*deleted other response on my part*

I feel no need to continue arguing with people who protect a mother who obviously was selfish. I was there. I saw the situation. I have seen her before. She never swims. Her kid always begs. She always ignores her kids cries. Continue to defend someone like that. I'm done.

Will never understand the mentality that some have that a mother can never be selfish *because a mother is never selfish--she is a mother!* Insert eye roll. There always must be a reason.


Back to talking about pet peeves.

Never said that a mother couldn't be selfish. What I (and others) said is that the example in your first post gave no indication that the woman was selfish or a bad mother.

My pet peeves include people who stop to look at a map (or time guide, etc.) right in the middle of the walkway, without making sure someone (i.e. me) isn't walking right behind them. If they then get mad about betting bump into, it is even worse.

I do find it interesting that there are so many pet peeves about people who enjoy WDW in ways that are different to you, but don't actually affect others at all (e.g. people who text at the table). If it doesn't effect me, why would it be a pet peeve?

 

[Laila Bryce]

Never said that a mother couldn't be selfish. What I (and others) said is that the example in your first post gave no indication that the woman was selfish or a bad mother.

My pet peeves include people who stop to look at a map (or time guide, etc.) right in the middle of the walkway, without making sure someone (i.e. me) isn't walking right behind them. If they then get mad about betting bump into, it is even worse.

I do find it interesting that there are so many pet peeves about people who enjoy WDW in ways that are different to you, but don't actually affect others at all (e.g. people who text at the table). If it doesn't effect me, why would it be a pet peeve?

My aunt cannot swim, she never once stepped foot in a pool or other body of water with her son (who is a healthy, well adjusted adult with kids of his own now). She would NEVER have admitted she could not swim, it was always an excuse about hair, etc when asked. As I was growing up I mever knew the truth about why she wouldn't swim with us, it was not until I was an adult. Her pride refused to alliw her to admit she could not swim-does this make her less of a mother?

 

[Srbright]

I feel no need to continue arguing with people who protect a mother who obviously was selfish. I was there. I saw the situation. I have seen her before. She never swims. Her kid always begs.

Whoa, who invented the rule the parents must do everything their children ever asked lest they be termed "selfish"? The phrase "spoiled brat" comes to mind.

If the only thing that kid has to complain about is that her mother doesn't swim with her then you hardly have grounds to call her selfish.

Think about it this way. The child is well off enough to have access to a pool that her mother takes the time to make sure she goes to. Hardly the definition of selfish.

My children have a ferret that they beg and beg their grandmother to play with but she refuses because she is afraid of it. They have had it for almost 2 years now and she has never touched it. Does that make her selfish (even when they beg)? Absolutely not. Likely you do not have the entire story.

Stacy

 

[Mkrop]

Unfortunately being selfish parent is not against the law. Unfortunately.....



I will not stop feeling bad for the kid because......I feel bad for the kid. It is selfish and b*tchy to only care about your hair when your kid WANTS you to swim with them. She kept asking the mom to swim with her and the mom would NOT get in the pool. That is beyond selfish. That is just cruel. So yes, the little girl did care. And she did notice. So no, I'm not going to stop feeling bad for the kid.

And I'm not going to speak for your mom or what motivated her.....but why have kids if you are not going to do things like swim with them when they ask you to...........

I am glad my parents didnt think that way or I wouldnt be here. My mom cant swim, she is deathly afaid of water, she will only get in the pool if her feet can touch and someone else is there. But despite not driving (she learned to drive at 46 when my dad died suddenly) we would walk very far to our local swim club so I could get lesssons and I could swim everyday of the summer. I too at 6 did not understand this and begged for my mom to come in with me, esp as an only child at the time, if my friends were not there that day, she would sit on the edge. It wasnt until later that I understood her absolute terror of the water. I could not fathom that at 6.

Or both my parents fear of roller coasters and heights, I would beg and plead to go to amusement parks, I did not understand my parents at all, even when I was 17 I was begging my dad to come on Space Mountain with me, and I didnt appreciate and comprehend his heart issues or his fear. Luckily I had uncles there that took me on the ride.

So maybe the lady was using her hair as an excuse vs scaring her child of something she doesnt want her to be fearful of like she is...which is water! I know I hide my fear of things so it wont hinder my child, if he is not afraid than I want him to go for it, with safety in mind of course!

Or she is selfish witch who doesnt want to mess with her do, but meeting her in a WDW pool, I dont think you can know her whole story.

 

[Groovee]

....but why have kids if you are not going to do things like swim with them when they ask you to...........

I had children before I became disabled. I had children when I was fit and healthy. My condition is "invisible" and I often see people glaring at me when I have to say no to one of my children. If they have to judgemental without knowing the true facts about me then that is their call. I don't ever regret having my children but I wasn't to know what was in store for me.

 

[ttintagel]

When I was a kid, I didn't care if my parents swam with me. I was a kid. I wanted to play with other kids, not with grownups. And if I had wanted to play with grownups, I think my parents would have been right to redirect me to play with other kids instead. A parent isn't there to be a child's playmate.

 

[thestevied]

1). Poorly behaved kids.
2). Parents that do NOTHING about their poorly behaved kids.

 

[goofyernmost]

Unfortunately being selfish parent is not against the law. Unfortunately.....



I will not stop feeling bad for the kid because......I feel bad for the kid. It is selfish and b*tchy to only care about your hair when your kid WANTS you to swim with them. She kept asking the mom to swim with her and the mom would NOT get in the pool. That is beyond selfish. That is just cruel. So yes, the little girl did care. And she did notice. So no, I'm not going to stop feeling bad for the kid.

And I'm not going to speak for your mom or what motivated her.....but why have kids if you are not going to do things like swim with them when they ask you to...........

I don't remember having children for the purpose of having a playmate. I also didn't do everything my children asked me to do. I have a few rights too! If the worse thing that this lady ever did was not go into a pool because of what it would do to her hair, then that kids pretty lucky.

You are free to feel bad for the kid because she was expressing a desire, that seemed doable, and was overruled by hair concerns, but, that does not a bad, selfish parent make. Someone else mentioned that she was there with her child, at the pool. Selfish would have been, no I'm not going to the pool and neither are you because the chlorine in the water will upset my hair coloring. Or perhaps she just hates being in pools, but the kid loves it. The chances are it was the child that begged and whined until the lady took her, why was that selfish? She could have easily said no to the entire happening. So I recognize your concern, but I also feel it is unfounded. The kids at a pool at Disney...poor dear!

 

[mickeyluv'r]

Stepping in other people's spit or melted gooey chewing gum. Yuck!

 

[mom2rtk]

The kids at a pool at Disney...poor dear!

 

[Bettie]

Count me in the group of people who doesn't see the big deal about the mom not going swimming. My husband doesn't swim; in fact he is deathly afraid of the water (thanks to some childhood drama I won't go into), and he never gets in the pool with our kids. Usually I go to the pool with them, but now that they are a little older sometimes he goes down with them. He never gets in. Sometimes they beg him to come in and he always demurs. They know he cant swim but they don't really know that he is AFRAID of the water. He has never really explained that to them because he doesn't want to transfer that fear to them. They never understand why he won't come in -- after all, he could easily stand up where they are swimming -- but he always just tells them "not today" or "no thanks" or the like. He does occasionally psych himself up to go in, but we'd have to be almost the only people in the pool for that to happen. Just not going to happen at a crowded DW resort pool. Anyway, I'm sure some people think he is crazy or selfish or whatever, but it doesn't seem to have adversely affected my kids in any way, so everyone else can mind their own business.

 

[Bob NC]

I know this is the DIS and all, but, really, when did personal pet peeves become debatable?

 

[CTDisneyfan816]

I'm sure someone has already posted this, but for me it's when I'm waiting in line for quickservice. It's a long line and it's taking FOREVER to get to the counter, soon, you're just two people away from the counter when the person in front of you calls over their 5 kids, spouse, in-laws, and who knows else and now you're RIGHT back where you started. I, personally, will write down everyone's order if I'm ordering for my group and order their meals by myself. This peeve is elevated when it's mid-summer as well.

Along these lines, when there is a line and the people wait until it's their turn to look at the menu board.

 

[thestevied]

Along these lines, when there is a line and the people wait until it's their turn to look at the menu board.

100% agree