Perceptions...[rant/questions]

Ms.Squeakers

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I think they're extremely odd.

My parents perceptions are always, "Gosh! You're so out of control! YOU UNGRATEFUL CHILD, YOU!"

My perception of my parents pretty much goes, "I may legally still be a child, but I'm not a five year old. I understand money, and I don't want to be wasteful. I have more common sense than MOST people of my age group."

Seriously.
For christmas I SQUEALED over every christmas present I got.
A pogo stick? Fantastic! I love that sucker to death!
A collectors Queen book? I was curled up in the fetal position hugging it all day.
A chromatic tuner? I ALWAYS WANTED ONE! I use it every day in band class :D
A computer monitor stand? Great idea! Beats the plastic box I'm currently using :D Right?

Wrong.

Before opening the box (JUST so that if it didn't fit, then we could return it) I measured my desk, and I read the measurements of the stand.
It would take up over half my desk. Which isn't something I want, because I do my homework on this desk, and with the measurements of the new stand it would take up too much room to fit a text book (which i use every night).

My Dad has one just like mine, and it's a beautiful stand! I really do like it, but it wouldn't fit.

So. My parents freak out on me. "YOU'RE SO UNGRATEFUL" "No! It's not that! I like the stand, but I don't want to waste your money on something I don't need and wouldn't be appreciated"

so, I get the silent treatment.

They think I'm a kid. Before my dad would believe me, he HAD to come in with his measuring tape to TRY and prove me wrong. Not once did I yell at them or raise my voice, and they burst out yelling "YOU'RE OUT OF CONTROL"

But.
My perspective is skewed. I don't recall raising my voice, and to be honest - they don't want to admit that their perspective is different either.

Just because you're an adult, and have more years of experience, doesn't mean that you're always right and that your perspective is always going to be the RIGHT one.


Do you agree with this?
Do you think that a lot of arguments and fights start over misunderstandings and perspective issues?
Have you personally ever had a situation like this?


I just am really frustrated and in disbelief that my parents don't understand where I am coming from.
Why is it, that their perspective bombs everyone elses?
Sometimes they're right, but why will they never admit to being wrong?
To this day, there have been a few arguments that I disagree with.
 
Well I agree if you can't use it or it won't work then that's not good...but tell them maybe the day after Christmas so the excitement of giving you the gift isn't lost. That's seemingly what most parents want...the "oh yay!" face.
 
Oh, no! I did! I waited until January 3rd to tell them. I was like, "sweet!" but once the holidays kinda broke down I decided to measure it and I'm like, "It's really cool, but I don't think it's going to work." "Blasphemy! Thats impossible!" XD
 
I can completely read the differences in your tone when you talk about your parent's reaction compared to yours. You believe they were screaming and acting erraticly, while you were the calm, cool, and collected one. I'm sure your parent's feel that you were the one getting overly upset though. In reality, it's probably pretty even.

You have to understand that your parent's aren't out to get you and ruin your life. They are probably just trying to make the best decisions they can, but they aren't perfect. Everyone gets upset over little things sometimes.

Just give them a break sometimes, and I'm sure they will give you one too.
 

My dad might react like that, but he would be more of an 'Okay, I won't buy you anything again, because you'll just take it back.'

I can see where you're coming from, but I think I'd just keep it, and put the textbook in my lap or use what surface there is.
 
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so, I get the silent treatment.

That is rough. I am a firm believer that things can be worked out through words. (Although sometimes I have trouble not giving the silent treatment to people. Then I feel bad and hypocritical)
 
That is rough. I am a firm believer that things can be worked out through words. (Although sometimes I have trouble not giving the silent treatment to people. Then I feel bad and hypocritical)

i agree. i think its pretty bad that your parents are giving you the silent treatment at all, let alone over something that doesn't work and isnt' your fault.
 
Oh dear :hug:

Why don't you just explain that you really, really love it, and you're grateful, you really are, but it just won't fit, and perhaps you can exchange it for a different one.
 
Thanks, I agree with all of you.

I'm pretty sure I was a little out of control, and I'm pretty sure they were as well.
I am only legally a child. I know that I still have so much to learn.

Perspectives..
I think they're interesting. One persons point of view vs. another persons. They can be two compeltely different stories with different climaxes and resolutions. It can also be totally reversed.

Maybe if we understood each others perspectives a little bit more, then the world could be a better place? :confused3

I'd like to believe that.
 


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