People's thoughts on my wedding LOL

[Lynn5700]

So I'm sure you guys remember me venting about my Aunt a couple of month's ago about how I am selfish for having the wedding at disney . Well My Mom went to her house last Saturday and my Aunt's MIL was there and said to my Mom," Well I heard that your daughter is denying us a wedding!!!!" OMG is she serious,the only reason why I was going to invite my Aunt's inlaws was because my cousin was going to be the ringbearer so I thought it would be nice to invite them so that they could see him in the wedding.

People crack me up.

 

[mermaidbride1108]

Don't let them bother you...This is your wedding not hers so have it the way you want it

You are getting married, so you arent denying her a wedding, she already had hers!

Just remember to come back and say this back to me when I start about my aunt cause she is already complaining

 

[Lynn5700]

I was amazed! I never talk to my Aunt's MIL. The only time I see her is at my aunts house for my cousin's bday party. I am not related to this woman at all.

If I was there I would have went off on her. She even asked my Mom if she was dissapointed,my mom said " It's not my wedding to be dissapointed about".

 

[mystiichell]

Hey Lynn:

For what it's worth I have been reading your posts for some time now & I think you are AMAZING. I am having family "issues" as well but I have decided to just ignore those who cannot/will not be happy for me & my DH. It's our day - WE ARE EXCITED - so who cares about everyone else. It's not that we are trying to be ugly or mean but, we have decided that we will not be guilted into changing OUR plans for OUR wedding. We invited everyone in both families & gave them a years notice & we have only had about 10 people commit so far (& it was actually an issue with some of our parents!!!! AHHHHHHHHH).

I feel better now.....

Sending pixie dust your way

 

[Lynn5700]

Aww you are so sweet. Thank God both sets of our parents don't have a problem with it,I would be devastated,God bless you.

I am just so amazed at how people think that your wedding is all about them.

I thought what she said to my mom was hysterical so I had to share with you all.People just don't get the point of a wedding now a days.

 

[dmslush]

I am continually shocked at how people feel that the wedding is for them, instead of the bride and groom. Think of how she said it, you are denying "THEM" a wedding. What are you denying them, a chance to dress up and a nice meal in exchange for (probably) some tacky housewares that you would never use?

One of my coworkers is getting married soon. She said that she wanted to get married in Disney but it was $10,000 for 10 people I didn't even go into it at that point because her wedding was so close. But, all I have heard from her is that how she 'can't afford' a wedding in disney. But, then she has invited over 600 people to her at home wedding, and given an open invitation to her 3000 member church. I just don't get how that is enjoyable????

 

[luna99]

Now I totally understand what you ladies are talking about because my mom told me last night that when my aunt saw a picture of my dress she said it wasn't fancy enough and she started putting her two cents in about how I should wear my hair up (which I'm NOT doing) and how she didn't know why I was getting married at disney and that I should have let her and my mom throw me a wedding in texas and it would have been so great... blah blah blah.


My mom told me that at that exact moment, she realized WHY I wanted to have a small wedding at disney.... because if I tried to have a big wedding in texas it would have turned into a fiasco with my aunt (and probably other family members) butting in and giving their opinions and wow.. it would have been so much stress!!

I knew doing it at disney was going to result in a lot of my family members not being able to go.. and while I will miss some of them and it would have been cool to have more family there... it wouldn't have been worth all the hassle and stress!

I just want my mom, dad, and sister and my fiance and his immediate family there and that's all we REALLY need. anyone else is "icing on the cake" so to speak! haha.

keep strong everyone!!! These are OUR weddings and we can do them any way we please!!! so nanny nanny boo boo to everyone else! haha!

 

[ryantab02]

It's funny because I had something happen like this to me the other day. I'm not having a Disney wedding but we are going to Disney for our honeymoon.

Anyway, me and my DF do not want a huge reception. Probably about 3 1/2 hours. My DF's aunt told me that it was a mistake to have a DJ and that I needed to cancel it. And then she said my photographer was really bad when I've already had several picture by him! I swear. Some people just can't keep their mouth shut.

I was really upset at first, but then I remembered....it's our darn wedding! Who cares what she thinks?!

Trust me...you're not alone! Have a wonderful wedding!

 

[Lynn5700]

What is it with Aunts? They are so opinionated.

 

[Belle1981]

I think its because they have nothing better to do with their time! Not to mention I am sure they are just jealous that they could not do the same for their children or themselves! Don't let them get to you!

 

[PrincessBride07]

What is it with Aunts? They are so opinionated.

Count me in that club. Mine was the main reason we said immediate family only. My aunt (who loves to look up our family history) was pulling out a list of names that I had to invite because I was related to them. I hadn't heard any of these names in my life, or at least don't remember because I haven't met them. The others I haven't talked to or seen in years. To me inviting them is like fishing for gifts (which I most likely wouldn't like anyways ).

I would have laughed at the "denying us a wedding" comment, even to her face.

I think most people are not trying to do harm with all their suggestions on what to do. They feel that they are just trying to help you make the best day for you as possible, because they (most of them that is) have been down that road before. They look at what they wished they would have done, and are trying to keep us brides/grooms from the same mistake. Needless to say, take it with a grain of salt.

 

[mermaidbride1108]

My two cents again -If I had it at Philly, I would have to pay outrageous prices because of the area. I knew I would have to invite so and so ... and so and so... and obvious if I don't even know who they are and they are being called so and so... then they really don't 'need' to be there on my wedding day.

I know alot of people wont be able to come, and some will really be missed... but I'll completely understand

I just dont see why cant they understand it's about the bride & groom - not a free meal in exchange for a china dish?

 

[Thumper's Tara]

What is it with Aunts? They are so opinionated.

I don't know, but I am so there with you!

Keep your chin up! Just remember that you are marrying the man of your dreams in the most magic place on earth...this day is about you and your DF and ignore the rest of them!! The people who really love you will be there.

My two cents again -If I had it at Philly, I would have to pay outrageous prices because of the area. I knew I would have to invite so and so ... and so and so... and obvious if I don't even know who they are and they are being called so and so... then they really don't 'need' to be there on my wedding day.

I know alot of people wont be able to come, and some will really be missed... but I'll completely understand

I just dont see why cant they understand it's about the bride & groom - not a free meal in exchange for a china dish?

AMEN!

 

[ALittleDisneyFan]

Hi ladies,

My husband and I were married in 10-2005 in Disney. I had quite the ordeal with family members... my husbands aunt was the WORSE! She kept her nonsense up until a month or two before the wedding (along with SIL). We had given them a year and a half notice to plan to go to Disney for the wedding... and they chose not to save money, and chose not to go. The ONLY people who showed up on his side were his parents. (We had an intimate... but still, my family showed up). Almost 2 yrs later.. we don't hear from his aunt, and no one says anything about the wedding. BUT, we don't regret it for a second!

My biggest advice would be to choose your battles, and to laugh as much as you can about their ridiculous comments.

 

[PipesofLirael]

Everyone in my family and all our family friends know I want a Disney wedding. I'm pretty sure that even before I was dating my DF, everyone expected me to have a Disney wedding. I'm just Disney obsessed!! lol. On of my mom's co-workers went up to her a few weeks ago, having heard about our engagement, to talk to my mom about it. She said she wanted to comfort my mom b/c she must be so grieved at how I'm trying to push her out of my wedding by having it in Disney World!!

I just love how my mom responded, though. She said that if her daughter managed to find the one American in Miami willing to ask a Cuban father for his daughter's hand AND sits through all our family gatherings regardless of the fact that he can't speak Spanish, she isn't going to mess with a miracle. Then she tells the woman that, maybe if her daughter had married a man of "character", she would realize that the man matters more than the wedding!

I would've just LOVED to see the reaction on that woman's face.

 

[audisight]

WOW! I'm so glad to see I'm not alone! My aunts are begging my mom to "force" me into having my wedding here in Texas. For a moment I almost changed my mind. Reading these posts has made me feel so much better . I wish everyone with crazy aunts the best of luck