people dropping by uninvited/unannounced

[sue1013]

Our family and friends are always welcome in our home. I guess since we've always had a lot of family live nearby it's normal to us.

 

[EllenFrasier]

Keep your door locked and then people could not walk in your house! Good thing it was a friend and not some whacko.
If someone came to my door and I didn't want to let them in, I would just not answer it. I mean after a few minutes, they should assume you are either not home or cannot come to the door.

 

[sunnyday123]

I absolutely hate it, find it rude, and won't answer the door most of the time.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

We have a open door policy at our house. People know not only can they come over anytime, they don't even have to knock, just come on in.

Obviously not everyone likes this type of setup but it works for us.

 

[7165red]

I really hate it, I don't do and would never think of doing it.

 

[Disney Doll]

People that drop in unannounced are either really young, retired, or don't work for a living. OR they live in certain parts of the country where it is still acceptable. Here in the Northeast it is never done, unless you fit in to the above categories.

I live in the Northeast and people drop by my house all the time. I don't mind it at all. I enjoy company.

 

[Disney Doll]

My dad drove all the way from New England to FL to visit his sister and a few other people and did not call them at all ahead of time. Just knocked on the door and showed up. I can tell you some people weren't happy by the surprise aspect. They had lives like dr's appts to juggle. And none were expecting company for meals.

I have NO IDEA what he was thinking.

My great-aunt and uncle did this years ago....drove from FL to CT and rang our doorbell. It was ahuge surprise, we were thrilled....it is one of the best memories I have of growing up.

 

[rie'smom]

Never had a problem with it myself. We just expect those folks to accept the house is a mess, and I may need a shave.

This is how we are. I will call before dropping in to visit though.

 

[lynne67901]

Saturday morning my husband, daughter (here from out of town), and I were up at 6:00 to work a garage sale at my other daughters house. When that was over, we all helped her get moved. Then we ran a few errands. We mutually agreed to grab some dinner, go home, shower, AND RELAX before turning in early. We had only been home a few minutes and the doorbell rang; it was about 8:30-9:00 P.M. There stood my brother with a bottle of wine.......what do you do/what can you do. I invited him in. By the way, my brother lives in the same small town I do and I see him fairly often. He finally left at 2:00 A.M. At one point my daughter excused herself to go shower, then my husband excused himself to go shower. At about 11:30 my daughter finally went to bed. My husband and I gutted it out and listened to my brother talk - he did 80% of the talking. My brother knew what our day had consisted of. He also knew that my daughter was home because of a personal crisis in her life and that she was extremely distraught; not really in the mood to drink wine and socialize. I love my brother but in my opinion, his actions were rude and thoughtless. No matter what is going on in my life, whether I am busy or have nothing to do (yeah right, when does that happen), I DO NOT APPRECIATE DROP IN COMPANY. I would never do that to anyone. This is 2011 for pete sake. People are busy and stressed. Someone who drops in unannounced is self centered, self absorbed, and has no consideration what so ever.

 

[tlbwriter]

To me, unless someone has made it clear that they welcome drop-in visitors, it's very rude, because it tells the unplanned host that their time and their plans are less important than yours. "Oh, I want to see Bob! Does Bob want to see me? Is Bob busy or unwell? Don't know, can't bother to ask!"

 

[rie'smom]

As a rule, I don't mind drop in visitors however, at 8:30, I've already been in my pjs for a couple of hours and I would not be happy to see anyone, except for my children.

 

[LexiC123]

I hate when zombies drop in unexpectedly!

 

[DisneyScraps]

My Mom and sister who live near me stop by but that is it. I can't imagine anyone else doing that. I would hate it.

I would never allow anyone to walk in my home without knocking. I am sometimes naked....this would not be good

 

[Nancyg56]

People that drop in unannounced are either really young, retired, or don't work for a living. OR they live in certain parts of the country where it is still acceptable. Here in the Northeast it is never done, unless you fit in to the above categories.

I must live in a strange little corner of the NE. We have friends and family drop in all of the time and I have not one unemployed person in my network.

I live in the Northeast and its done plenty! I have no problem with people popping in--nice that they feel so close that they are able to do that and I love it. I also work full time (and part time seasonally!) and as long as you come after 4 I will be opening the door and letting you in!

We are like this, I keep an open door policy, literally. My front door is usually open winter and summer. I usually have plenty of food and snacks and generally there is wine and cocktails if it is the weekend. Friends will run home and add their salad or dessert to dinner if I don't have that planned and we are good to go!

We have a open door policy at our house. People know not only can they come over anytime, they don't even have to knock, just come on in.

Obviously not everyone likes this type of setup but it works for us.

Us too. We love a busy home.

 

[MIGrandma]

The only people I don't mind dropping in unannounced is my Mom, our kids and grandkids. They can just walk in and whatever shape the house is in, take it or leave it.

But others? I appreciate a call first, even just to say "hey, we're on our way, just checking to see if you're home." That way I have a chance to pick up the clutter or swish some cleaner in the toilet bowl.

I do remember several years ago my best friend stopped in without calling first. That would have been fine, but it was 9:00 in the morning and she brought a friend of hers with her that I had never met. It was one of those lazy mornings, I was still in my pajamas sipping coffee. I loved seeing her, but was embarrassed to meet her friend. I would have appreciated a call first, especially since it took them an hour and a half to get here. If she just would have phoned before they left, I could have had a shower, gotten dressed and picked up the clutter in the house.

 

[lakelandgal70]

I hate when zombies drop in unexpectedly!

This is awesome! I would prefer zombies to some of my family

 

[7165red]

Yes, I agree on all counts.

 

[msjprincess]

So where are you from? Do those relatives work during the week? Do you? How can people "pop in" when most people work during the week?

Looks like I missed this back in February. I live on LI. I'm now a SAHM but I did work full time up until a couple of years ago. Yes those friends/family do work. they "pop in" after work or on weekends. My sister will sometimes pop in on her lunch break.

 

[sPaRkLeSpAz]

I live next door to my grandparents, and across the street from a few of my cousins. We are always in and out of each others house. When it is someone other then them, a phone call would be nice.