We love Cape May Cafe and it is one of our daughters absolute favorites. It is not in the least fancy, but very family oriented and fun. DD loves the Sandcastle sculptures and the merry go round horses. The buffet is wonderful, and the children's buffet is very good-- yes they do have the peel and eat shrimp. Also, you will find some of the best desserts there. I wouldn't hesitate to take my child there. The servers are all very kid friendly, and the kids can draw on the paper table cloths, and crayons are provided so they can do so!
As for Chef Mickey's, the buffet isn't "all that". For the money, I would go to a less expensive character meal, say Garden Grille for lunch or 'Ohana for breakfast to see Mickey, but eat my dinner at Cape May Cafe!!!