Paying over and beyond Child Support

[Jodi1980]

Does your Ex- pay for more than what they already pay for child support, e.g., school clothes, cell phone, etc.?

 

[Snoozan's twin]

The "extras" are usually split 50/50 or if something (i.e. outside classes/sports) is my idea, then I foot the bill. Now as the kids are teen-agers, we split things 33/33/34 if it's something they really want. I found it best if the ex (and step mom) took the kids school shopping instead of giving the $$ to me.

 

[LadyAurora]

We used to pay for extras...DH divorced his ex in 1995 and she never took him back to court for more support. So we paid for school supplies, athletic activities, school fees, etc.
Not anymore. She decided to fight us over visitation times, and got his child support raised. Now she gets 28% of his income and that's all.
Edited to add, we also pay for the medical/dental/etc. insurances.

 

[mommytotwo]

My ex pays for child support, medical, dental, and vision insurance and bills. Sometimes for school supplies, and this when he was with us for half of the school year, everything during that time.

 

[aunt lissa]

My ex pays his child support and that is it. He doesn't pay for any extra's and actually won't give me the insurance info.

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

<font color=navy>My ex used to only pay partial child support. But a few years ago I started sending him the bills for school supplies & uniforms, and he would pay for half. He now pays 2/3 child support, half of our son's high school tuition & fees (Catholic school), and he buys the kids shoes and sometimes clothes. He also paid for half the braces, and will pay half of major medical bills. I pay the rest ... medical insurance (insurance paid for half braces, and he and I split the other half), my daughter's school (she also goes to Catholic school), my daughter's vision therapy ($50/week ... he said he wasn't going to pay because I didn't get a second opinion... input from his parents, I'm sure. But her grades have drastically improved and so has her self esteem, so the sacrifice is worth it to me), my daughter's music lessons, any medical copayments, school excursions, church excursions and retreats, spending money for movies, bus fare, lunch, etc. etc.

I'm just glad he helps out, and the kids do know he loves them.

 

[EdiePA]

My ex only pays support -- and that's for only one of our sons. DS#1 was over 18 when he left, so he wasn't part of the support agreement. Once in awhile, he will take them for school supplies or the like, but that's not very often.

I never asked for spousal support -- #1 because I was working and #2 because I thought the divorce would be final in six months. Two years and four months later, the divorce still isn't final (it's up to him to file) and I realize how stupid having my pride was.

My sons work while going to college and buy most of their own clothes, etc. I'm just so tired of pinching pennies, eating peanut butter and jelly on the really tight weeks, and doing without (like my glasses got run over and I can't afford to replace them).

It's just so hard.

Edie

 

[Desnik]

My parents are divorced and I have a sister(12yo)that my dad pays child support for. He gives my mom maitenence also so with both she gets, ready for this, $60,000 a year till my sister is 21yo!! Could you imagine that?!! The woman has never had to work and even while they are seperated my dad still spoiles her. Sure he could afford it but, I wish she would've tried to make an attempt to get a job I guess that could be a whole other thread!!LOL

I really admire the single parents who support their kids on their own. My couisin is divorced and her ex gives very little for support. She is a working, struggling single mom and I can't even imagine how hard it is for her.

 

[mudnuri]

Boy do I have one for you guys!

My DBIL is currently seperated from WSIL (thats wacko SIL)...this spring it will be 2 years since he moved out of the house.

The kids, 15, 12, and 8 spend 7 days with him, 7 days with her...

She lives in the "family" house...Now, get ready for what he pays...

$500.00 per WEEK child support
100% of clothing, bday presents, xmas presents etc..
Mortgage, her car payment, gas (charge) heating oil for the house, 7 cords of fire wood for the house....and ALL the credit cards....

Last year, he paid "her" (including all the bills) over 112K....

She has to pay the lights/phone and food...but she's getting 2K from him a month...you'd think it would cover it..

IM not sure what exactly is going on with them, but eh thats a totally different thread...after all, they leave Monday for a family trip to Key West for the week...I asked him if he wanted us to pick him up on his return at the airport since he'd probably be ready to hurt someone! LOL

My dad paid my mom $30.00 per week for my brother and I...from the time I was 3 till I was 18.....but he did pay for school clothes, and he would always buy our big gifts for xmas...and he covered us on his insurance etc.

Brandy

 

[Mad4Mickey]

So it is true there are Dad's that pay support. Wish my Ex was one of them . Thank God I married a wonderful man who is willing and able to take care of them with me .We do not need his money , but it sure would be nice for him to send at least a Birthday card to one of them . He lives 15 min from us maybe he could call LOL.

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Mishell