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Again...more great advice! Thanks everyone!
Several people have mentioned her trying something other than cheer...trust me I have tried to get her interested in something else. She says cheering is the only thing she is good at. I have given her every opportunity to try something else but she keeps going back to cheer. You don't think of a very shy girl being a cheerleader but she is good at it and while she is cheering she comes out of her shell.
She has joined a few other clubs at school this year.
Someone mentioned jealousy and that is part of it with at least her x best friend on the squad. They were always told they looked like sisters but people would tell the other girls my dd was prettier. My dd said she always felt bad when someone would say that. She has been very verbally abusive to my dd since she made the squad this year. My dd said at practice last night she tried to say something to another girl and this girl jumped in and told her to "shut up, no one cares what she has to say". So dd just walked away.
A few people have mentioned church groups as being a good place to make friends. Many of the girls that treat her poorly are the girls that are huge into their youth group at church....
As for her Dr laughing at her...She was there for a physical and I mentioned she was having trouble with making and keeping friends. He chuckled and said a pretty girl like her can't possibly have trouble making friends.
I am going to make her an appointment to see a therapist. I don't think because you go to one that your "crazy".
She definitely needs someone to and give her ideas how to handle when she is in situations and how to stand up for herself.
I have heard of the book "Queen Bees and Wanna Be's" and I am going to go look for it this week.
Thanks again everyone for the great advice. I know this too will pass, it is part of growing up. But OMG...it is so hard to watch your child go thru this.
Several people have mentioned her trying something other than cheer...trust me I have tried to get her interested in something else. She says cheering is the only thing she is good at. I have given her every opportunity to try something else but she keeps going back to cheer. You don't think of a very shy girl being a cheerleader but she is good at it and while she is cheering she comes out of her shell.

Someone mentioned jealousy and that is part of it with at least her x best friend on the squad. They were always told they looked like sisters but people would tell the other girls my dd was prettier. My dd said she always felt bad when someone would say that. She has been very verbally abusive to my dd since she made the squad this year. My dd said at practice last night she tried to say something to another girl and this girl jumped in and told her to "shut up, no one cares what she has to say". So dd just walked away.
A few people have mentioned church groups as being a good place to make friends. Many of the girls that treat her poorly are the girls that are huge into their youth group at church....

As for her Dr laughing at her...She was there for a physical and I mentioned she was having trouble with making and keeping friends. He chuckled and said a pretty girl like her can't possibly have trouble making friends.
I am going to make her an appointment to see a therapist. I don't think because you go to one that your "crazy".

I have heard of the book "Queen Bees and Wanna Be's" and I am going to go look for it this week.
Thanks again everyone for the great advice. I know this too will pass, it is part of growing up. But OMG...it is so hard to watch your child go thru this.
