Parents with more than one child....

[nliedel]

Gene takes one, I take the other and we pray the other two don't have something going on at the same time.

 

[rt2dz]

Split up, call in the grandparents if necessary, hire a sitter for kids that may need to stay at home if necessary & tape missed events so we can all watch it as a family together later.

 

[TinkInPink]

Christine I would really try to go to your DD's play she may never be in one again but band festivals are every year. Is there a final full rehearsal of the band program you could attend with permission from the music teacher. Also does the 5th gr. go on first or last? maybe his part will be over in the first 15 minutes and you go beat it to the high school. Other wise I would explain it to your son and the music teacher maybe the school is taping it and you could borrow it. I think it is important for your son to also understand why one may be harder to miss than the other. Good luck you will feel guilty (sorry) no matter what you decide.


Sorry I didn't know my DD had logged on,she is going to kill me! I posdted under her name.

 

[safetymom]

I had a book and whoever got the event put in the book first got me. After my husband died there weren't any conflicts and have the date book worked very well for us. The kids understood that the first person that asked had me go to the event. If there was a conflict they worked it out between them.

 

[YourMajesty]

No, this is the first year for the band festival. He is in 5th grade and that is the first year for advanced band (only advanced band attends). So, it's a *first* for him.

I would stick with your decision to go to the band festival. It sounds like it was on the calendar first. I was going to joke and say we always put our firtsborn's activities first (pun intended). I like the idea of Grandma and/or a friend video taping the play. We only have two and so far everything the second does seems much more boring than the when is brother did it.... so I have to make sure I don't slight him.

 

[welovedisneyx4]

We are just going to start getting into this now. DS5 has started t-ball this year and DH is coaching. DD10 will be playing softball. The practice schedule works out well, we will just have to see what the game schedule is like. I am hoping there wont be too many conflicts, we will just have to wait and see. We have DS's game schedule and DD will get her game schedule on April 1. (I hope!)

DD is being fairly supportive of DS playing t-ball (she wants to help coach and all) so I hope she will be able to handle us going to more of his games if there is conflicts, since this is his 1st time playing anything. Luckily, we have Grandparents around to help when needed. (They always come to most of DD's games anyway)

OT- We went this weekend and got DS his helmet and then had a lot of other running to do. Well, every time we got into the car, DS would put his helmet on and keep it on until we got to the next place. He was so proud of it!!!

 

[bsnyder]

Here I was all worried that my DD would react negatively when I told her that DH would be taking her to her dance performance on Saturday but she just shrugged and said "That's fine". She usually wants Mom at everything and gets bent out of shape if I can't go to something. She's the baby, the only girl, and very, very spoiled. But maybe she's growing up a bit!

My two other kids are older (both away from home in college) so we haven't had many conflicts in a long time. But my oldest, who is graduating in May, casually mentioned that he's been asked by his school to present his Senior Thesis at a state-wide event this Saturday at a university about an hour north of us. He's the type of kid that would never ask me to attend - it's really just a fluke that I asked what he was planning to do over the weekend. And of course I want to go!

 

[Christine]

I would stick with your decision to go to the band festival. It sounds like it was on the calendar first. I was going to joke and say we always put our firtsborn's activities first (pun intended). I like the idea of Grandma and/or a friend video taping the play. We only have two and so far everything the second does seems much more boring than the when is brother did it.... so I have to make sure I don't slight him.

Yeah, I think I'm going to have to go with the band festival. Mainly because my son is a nervous wreck about performing and is worried. My DD is a natural and confident performer and, while she'd like me to come, she doesn't *need* me.

The bad news is: the county schools allow no unauthorized "taping" of any production they have. Against county regs for other people to film or photograph people's children. So, I won't be able to see it.

On the other hand, we saw her in plenty of plays when she was in private drama. This is her first high school show and, because she is in the theater program, it probably won't be her last.

DS's band festival has no practice. It lasts all day but his school's segment is at 3:00 (same time as the play) and the schools are about an hour apart from each other.

 

[FreshTressa]

Usually I can get my parents to go to one too, if it is a problem.

I usually wind up going to the more important one..meaning the one that is more rare or took more practice.

We've never had a complaint.

 

[rt2dz]

Is there a dress rehearsal of the play that you can attend? Or any type of rehersal where your daughter states her lines?

 

[Tigger&Belle]

We've never had a complaint.

The complaints will happen later...when they are trying to make you feel guilty for something totally unrelated at a much later date! Trust me, I know of what I speak.

 

[poohandwendy]

The complaints will happen later...when they are trying to make you feel guilty for something totally unrelated at a much later date! Trust me, I know of what I speak.

LOL, so true.

My answer is always, "Someday you will have to work that out in therapy"

 

[DVC Sadie]

I once drove back and forth between 2 schools to hit both. DH couldn't go because of work, so I wnet to the middle school and then to the highschool. Then back to the middle school and back to the high school. Never again because I pretty much missed both with all the driving back and forth.

Sorry but its so funny for me sitting here imagining this. I give you kudos for trying so hard to be 2 places at once. What a great MOM!