Parents whose offspring are adults..

[bumbershoot]

There are always some families who don't need/want that sort of "are you there" communication, but I think that it's pretty normal. I know my mom always wanted ot know where I was, and I wanted to know where she was, too!

One of the worst part about her having been dead for coming up on 10 years is that I don't have a parent who cares where I am...my dad disappears from my life for months, sometimes years at a time, and he's never needed me to check in...so it was only my mom, and now she might know what I'm up to (she was religious in two opposite ways, I'm not religious at all so who knows?) but I certainly don't know where SHE is! Rotten, I tell you.

 

[monarchsfan16]

I'm 23, and accidentally booked my trip to Disney in January with a Sunday arrival. Mom recently admitted she's already making a mental note of what closets can be cleaned around the house to disperse that nervous energy, since, unlike my previous 3 trips without the parents, she won't be teaching that day

The funny thing is, she doesn't seem to worry excessively while I'm touring Disney solo. Flying however...

 

[NMAmy]

My son who graduated college this past May moved to Japan in June for graduate school he will be there for 3 years.
DH and I are missing him so much and with the holidays coming up we are just not that festive. We've been invited everywhere, we even thought of going away for a few days to one of our favorite destinations but we just don't have the spirit this year. I hope it gets better

We knew this time in our lives would arrive we tried to prepare ourselves while he was in undergraduate school but this has hit us like a ton of bricks, nothings the same. I will put on a happy face for DH and try to make it special for the 2 of us.

So enjoy your time with your kids everyone, I wish you all lots of fun with your babies, even though they are all grown up!

I have had a taste of that myself, Lynn. Her dad and I have been divorced for 11 years so I have had a lot of holidays without dd around. I know it's hard. I hope you and your DH can enjoy some time together.

One of the worst part about her having been dead for coming up on 10 years is that I don't have a parent who cares where I am.

And a for you, too, bumber. After my grandfather died, my mother told me, "I know it's silly but I'm 64 years old and I feel like an orphan." My dad passed away 5 years ago and I am grateful that my mother nags me to call her when I arrive somewhere.

 

[NMAmy]

Thanks to all for the assurances that this is pretty normal. I'm happy to report that dd arrived safely and will be home soon!

 

[Lynn CC]

I have had a taste of that myself, Lynn. Her dad and I have been divorced for 11 years so I have had a lot of holidays without dd around. I know it's hard. I hope you and your DH can enjoy some time together.







Thank You, I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving!

 

[princessbee]

I'm twenty and I fly a lot between home and college. Once I forgot to call my mom when I landed in Nashville for a layover and she got pretty mad at me because she was so scared (mostly because it was snowing in Philadelphia, where I was flying from, and she thought that maybe my flight had been delayed because of it). I think it's definitely normal and I don't blame her for being worried... to be honest, I sometimes worry when I'm at home alone or something and my parents are gone for much longer than they said they would be.

 

[Mandychelle79]

And married with my own kids.

When we are going anywhere that more than a few hours away, we call to let someone know that we made it safe and sound. But my mom will call us or my grandparents to let someone know that she made it. I think its just common courtesy.

Heck when I was 21 and living at home I woke my mom up when I got in ( per her request) or called her if I wasnt coming home.

 

[supercarrie]

I'm 23, married, and living in the UK (from CA originally). Every time I fly back to the UK after a visit home, my mom requests a phone call, even if when I land it is the middle of the night for her in CA (as it almost always is). I travel occasionally for work (across Europe) and she also likes to know I've arrived safely.

On a slightly sillier note, my dad still likes me to call him on my cell for a chat when I walk home from the tube station! He says he likes knowing I am home safely. As if him on the phone in CA 5,000 miles away would be able to do something if I got mugged! I am his little girl and always will be, I guess!

My husband, on the other hand, has never requested a phone call when I've traveled on my own, and I doubt he ever will. But I appreciate a quick text from him when he travels internationally...i.e. right now he is in India, so I got a couple texts from him today letting me know each of his flights landed safely.

 

[Becky2005]

I don't have any adults yet but definitely expected to call my mom at least once while on vacation/traveling if it's more than just a day trip somewhere. A bit of this started due to a family emergency here at home when an aunt was traveling -- no one knew how to get in touch with her exactly (this was before cell phones). Before that, I really didn't need to call much but after that incident, we pretty much not only call each other, we give intended travel routes, etc..

My mom even calls me or my brother when my parents travel to. I think last time she probably thought it was a conspiracy! It seemed like everytime she called, she got the answering machine and normally I'm home all the time.

 

[Disney Doll]

I'm 47 and my mother gets nervous when I travel.