Parent Thread

[DorkyDisneyMom]

I dont usually do bribes. I had the glow sticks and had forgotten that I was going to add them to their costumes anyway when I saw them I reminded him that glow sticks are to go with Halloween costumes.

I remember I tried the whole bribe thing when DS10 was potty training. He was a car nut and I bought a whole bag full of matchbox cars thinking he would love it and give him incentive. He handed them back to me and matter of factly said "no thank you".

I knew from then on bribes dont work

I did that for DS3. Only the cars were left over from a cousin who out grew them. Yeah, they haven't worked one bit.

And DS5 with the fancy initials, gets "reinforcers". That is what they call them, not bribes. He has no internal motivation so we had to move to more concrete motivation. He is soooo much better now. This year he is doing so much better and is able to understand the consequences of his actions, or inactions better. Like if he messes around and doesn't do his project he gets less time to play. Last year we had to get try to get him to make a mark on the page, or get dressed in the morning. He is so much better now, but when desperate, I will use a reinforcer.

 

[LUVMYTINK]

Actually, when I have two of them together it is pretty good. It's when I have all three that they go nuts! !

So I'm not the only one that happens to. I can take the 2 little ones to the grocery store and they behave pretty well, but if big brother comes along

The older tow have started to gang up on DS3 and leave him out of stuff. He was so sad last night. I think it is ironic because the first two hated each other until about 3 months ago. Crazy

Mine's reverse but that might be because the 2 little ones are closer in age & they like to gang up on the oldest.
I only have a sister so I always have to aske my DH when either DS is doing something with or at DD if that is normal brother sister stuff. He says yes, but then reminds me that when growing up (around the age of our children) he hated his sister & didn't want anything to do with her Of course now he is big brother the protector even though they are both in their 30's.

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

Mom of a teenager here. I stayed home for a year and decided it wasn't for me, so for the last 13 I've been a full time mom with a full time job on the side.

DS is a great kid. What I want to know is how to deal with him having his first girlfriend. They are going to a dance next week and I hear there may be kissing involved. My baby!

Ok I was thinking in the car going to pick up DS and I think you should chapperone. I think that would stop the kissing, at least for that night.

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

So I'm not the only one that happens to. I can take the 2 little ones to the grocery store and they behave pretty well, but if big brother comes along

Mine's reverse but that might be because the 2 little ones are closer in age & they like to gang up on the oldest.
I only have a sister so I always have to aske my DH when either DS is doing something with or at DD if that is normal brother sister stuff. He says yes, but then reminds me that when growing up (around the age of our children) he hated his sister & didn't want anything to do with her Of course now he is big brother the protector even though they are both in their 30's.

All mine are pretty evenly spaced. The first two are two years and a week apart and the next two are two years and 5 months a part.

I can take any combination of two but, add the third one and it is like all Heck breaks loose.

 

[babytrees]

I love the idea of a thread for ALL moms!

No one is right or wrong in deciding whether to stay home and be a full-time mother, or work outside the home. You have to decide what is right for you and your family. Some of us, however, don't get the choice of whether to work or stay home, so we need to be sensitive to everyone's situation whenever we post!

SAHM's will always feel guilty for staying at home and not contributing to the income of the family. Working mom's will always feel guilty for not being able to give quantity time to their child(ren). (We have even adopted the phrase, 'but we have "quality time" with our kids', to make us feel less guilty).

Enough already!!! Let's just embrace our motherhood and be supportive of each other, PERIOD!

Tuffcookie, getting off her soapbox!

 

[PlutosFriend]

My ds 8, is having 3 friends sleep over tonight. Am I crazy or what? Actually, they are all good kids. They seems to get along much better than 4 girls together.........

 

[Tuffcookie]

PlutosFriend wrote: My ds 8, is having 3 friends sleep over tonight. Am I crazy or what?

Naaa, you sound like a very nice mom!

TC

 

[Mkrop]

My ds 8, is having 3 friends sleep over tonight. Am I crazy or what? Actually, they are all good kids. They seems to get along much better than 4 girls together.........

Let us know if you survive

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

My ds 8, is having 3 friends sleep over tonight. Am I crazy or what? Actually, they are all good kids. They seems to get along much better than 4 girls together.........

Amen to that! Why is that girls in a group are so much harder?

So did you rent movies? What time do you think they will go to sleep???

 

[PlutosFriend]

PlutosFriend wrote: My ds 8, is having 3 friends sleep over tonight. Am I crazy or what?

Naaa, you sound like a very nice mom!

TC

They are being really good still! My dd went to sleep over at a friends house, so that helps out

 

[PlutosFriend]

Let us know if you survive

So far so good! They are doing some sort of Pokemon stuff with the Nintendo DS and the WII.

 

[PlutosFriend]

Amen to that! Why is that girls in a group are so much harder?

So did you rent movies? What time do you think they will go to sleep???

I don't know what the deal with girls is, and I am one
This was so last minute, no time to rent movies. I am sure we have something here they may want to watch. I am guessing they won't be asleep before midnight....

 

[DorkyDisneyMom]

So far so good! They are doing some sort of Pokemon stuff with the Nintendo DS and the WII.

Pokemon....I am saying a prayer right now my son won't like that. I have NO idea how it works or even what is really about.

Trains, fire engines, Curious George, Disneyland. Any of those things I am good for but Pokemon is a mystery.

 

[PrincessaC]

Hi! SAHM of 2 boys but will be joining the work force soon I hope. I recently got my nursing degree and I'm ready to work!!!

My boys are 7 and 10 yrs old and they live for POKEMON!!!


Would you believe it's 10:30 pm and they are in bed reading books.

My youngest hates school...hates homework...hates to read.

We went to Wal-Mart this afternoon and my 10yr old found a book he really wanted. He read a few pages to my 7 yr old and my 7 yr old loved it!!!! So now he's reading it!!!

Okay.. I'm going back to read everyone's post..

 

[minniecarousel]

My two DSs are grown. I stayed home to raise them (we more than "got by" with just DH's salary). Sometimes I regret not working when they were school-age because I can't work in the field in which I was trained now - technology has run right by me! Then, I remember that they (& I ) enjoyed being home when they got home - I was a Cub Scout Den Leader, team parent, on the PTA, etc. So, mostly, I'm happy with the decision we made.

 

[jwsqrdplus2]

Great thread!

I'm Jessica, AF Reservist part time, SAHM mom full time. I have 2 DDs: DD1 is 9 and in 3rd grade, and DD2 is 6 and in Kindergarten. Both my girls were born shortly after the cutoff date, so they will always be one of the older ones in their class.

As for the bickering: Denae, your solution was great! I have the mom/military glare down perfectly. I don't even need to say anything, and both girls suddenly fall into line. Mine get along for the most part, but when they don't... .

DD1 has definitely reached the talking back stage. I'm OK with the inquisitiveness, but the back talking riles me. I have a feeling that a long teenage life is ahead of me.

DD2 is not so much of a back talker, but she can lie without breaking a sweat. And convincingly too! We bust her frequently, but she doesn't stop. Any thoughts on that one?? And she is the button pusher. She knows exactly how to get to her sister and never fails to exploit that!

Both DDs dance competitively (3rd year fro DD1; 1st year for DD2), so I am also a dance mom, but I refuse to become a "stage mom." We have a few of those at our studio, and it is painful to watch. Right now dance is their "currency." Taking away dance classes is the fastest way to get through to them if they are misbehaving.

 

[mickeylove2]

This was a great idea! My name's Sandy and I have 2 beautiful girls 4 & 6, I work full time for the government and also go to college full time. My DH works full time and goes to college part time as well! We work opposite shifts so one of us is ALWAYS home with our girls. Anyway, I guess I really don't have anything to gripe about...yet! We'll see how this weekend goes.

Oh and I would love to have a dad's perspective on things!! I can't wait to get to know everyone.

 

[LUVMYTINK]

Pokemon....I am saying a prayer right now my son won't like that. I have NO idea how it works or even what is really about.

Trains, fire engines, Curious George, Disneyland. Any of those things I am good for but Pokemon is a mystery.

I said that prayer while pregnant with our first son 10 YEARS AGO. Actually it was for it to be gone by the time he would be interested. He likes the cartoon and has the DS games. Luckily he found Yu Gi Oh before Pokemon so we limited the cards to just that, of course now he doesn't play with those anymore

 

[#1hockeymom]

I'm a wife/mom/sp ed teacher currently spending her three day weekend with sixteen 14 year old boys at a hockey tournament in Sault Ste Marie. The snow drifts are taller than I am and stupid me wore clogs into the car when I left the house. I believe buying boots is in order tomorrow morning.

Between their games tomorrow I'll be doing grading and starting and hopefully finishing my report cards. The house I left with the 22 year old who has her own place now but is home watching the dog and since she is under the weather somehow I feel better with her at home (and so does she).

I can't do it all, that's why my house is a mess. Please don't send OSHA to my house!

 

[Tuffcookie]

#1hockeymom wrote: I can't do it all, that's why my house is a mess. Please don't send OSHA to my house!

At least your Christmas tree is down, I'll bet!

TC, who is taking hers down tomorrow