P & PD needed please

[PrincessNancy96]

Another vote for hospice... they were amazing with Granny.. it allowed Pap to keep her at home through it all..

 

[MusicalDisneyDreams]

Thanks for all the P&PD, everyone. Well, grandpa isn't in pain anymore. He died today; I don't know when, but Grandma called about an hour ago.

 

[mommy2mrb]

Thanks for all the P&PD, everyone. Well, grandpa isn't in pain anymore. He died today; I don't know when, but Grandma called about an hour ago.

Oh sweetie, I am so sorry pray he went peacefully...
will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers, let your momma know if she needs to talk I'm here.

 

[rlovew]

We will keep your family in our prayers as you deal with this- especially your mother/grandmother.

Rebecca

 

[JJ&JHsmom]

Our sympathy for your loss. We will keep your family in our prayers. to you all.

Cassey

 

[PrincessNancy96]

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this.... Please let us know if you need anything....
Continued prayers and pixie dust to all of you!!

Please give your mom a hug for me!!!

 

[wdwmickey]

Thanks for the hugs everyone

If you could send special thoughts for Rachel that would be awesome, this is the first death in the family that she can remember. She could really use some positive thoughts she's having a really hard time with losing her "poppa"

 

[mommy2mrb]

Of course Cheryl.....you all are special to Megan and I, when I told Megan she said she is sad and sending BIG HUGS
snuggle your sweet girls and Robert tonight

 

[ddavis860]

So sorry for your loss

 

[ckmom97]

Cheryl and Rachel, I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers and hugs to you guys and your entire family. Rachel, I lost my grandfather to cancer 5 yrs ago this month. I still miss him, but I'm so blessed to have many wonderful memories of him. Keep those precious moments close to your heart and know that with time you will be able to remember him with a smile. God bless you!

 

[morgansmom2000]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

 

[joyah]

I'm so sorry to hear this. We will keep you all in our thoughts and prayers. It's not easy losing a grandparent. i lost my first one at 7 and my last one at 38 they were my favorite ones. All I can say is to think of the good things that you like to do toegether and talk about those memeories. Cheryl hang in there I know you're trying to hold the family together so please vent away to us or scream and cry. We're hear for you.

 

[wdwmickey]

Thanks everyone

Here's my vent for today--Robert, his mom, and Sarah are refusing to talk and say the "everything is fine, it's no big deal" and Rachel is so sad Robert doesn't know how to talk to her

We had a family & friends gathering tonight and Robert and his mom mostly stayed in the kitchen. Ugh...I wonder how long this is going to continue???

 

[joyah]

Cheryl I'd love to say that you can talk Robert out of this but I'd imagine it's going to be a while. What abt Sarah? can you reach out to her to help her sister? It will even out just going to take a bit. Did Robert try to work anything out with his dad? Is there anyone that he might talk to outside of the family? it might come out easier to them first.
Hang in there sweetie we're thinking of you!

 

[lovingthemouse]

Cheryl, death can produce some strange reactions in people. I saw this first-hand when Roger died. It does take time for some to express grief, they may carry it silently for a while - but keep showing the love, which is what they really need.

 

[mommy2mrb]

I agree with Caroline...everyone deals with death differently, just stay close and let things happen, you can't force them to talk, it will come when they are ready. let things settle for a bit and then maybe contact Hospice down the road, they also have a ton of great books you might find helpful..

 

[JJ&JHsmom]

Cheryl, be patient with them. Everyone deals with death differently, they will eventually need to talk. Just be there for them as much as you can. Hopefully DH will see that Rachel's needs are different from his own and reach out to her. We are continuing to pray for all of you.

Cassey

 

[wdwmickey]

Thanks ladies

It has always driven me crazy that Robert's family doesn't talk about anything! Oh well it is what it is

So the "wake" was last night; the burial of the ashes is Thursday and the memorial service is Friday. Apparently "life is back to normal" until Thursday---grandma will be teaching piano and doing everything she usually does and she is "perfectly fine" that Sarah and I will be missing the memorial service because we will be visiting a college in Nebraska that has offered Sarah a full tition scholarship (for all 4 years). The visit and Sarah's audition has been scheduled for over a month.

So clearly at least for now grandma really is fine and we'll just be around for her when she needs us

 

[mommy2mrb]

Thanks ladies

It has always driven me crazy that Robert's family doesn't talk about anything! Oh well it is what it is

So the "wake" was last night; the burial of the ashes is Thursday and the memorial service is Friday. Apparently "life is back to normal" until Thursday---grandma will be teaching piano and doing everything she usually does and she is "perfectly fine" that Sarah and I will be missing the memorial service because we will be visiting a college in Nebraska that has offered Sarah a full tition scholarship (for all 4 years). The visit and Sarah's audition has been scheduled for over a month.

So clearly at least for now grandma really is fine and we'll just be around for her when she needs us

too sad they can't push the memorial back a week so you and Sarah can attend, we made sure to have Jim's on a Saturday so more people could attend. since we had the burial private, the memorial could be scheduled when we wanted.


on a much happier note, wow that is a wonderful opportunity for Sarah, and great for Mom & Dad too for the tution scholarship...will be sending

 

[Arizona Rita]

I know this is going to sound strange but here goes...
A long time ago on "Oprah" she talked about the friends and relatives that are always around right after the "incident" (in this case, death) has occurred. Where are these people in a month from now? She made a point about being there later. I decide then that I could be the later person.
Maybe in this case, you can be the later person.
Let everyone do their thing, go to the college, enjoy the time ther, spend time with Sarah and maybe she will open up. I dont know, but I would think her grandfather would want you both to go.

I am sorry for your loss and send lots of prayers and thoughts your way.
(I am also all for hospice.)
Hugs,
Rita