Overreaction or Innocent?

[DaParkers]

I read this on another board this morning and thought I should post it here and get a reaction.


Guy calls in to morning radio show and said he read a text on his wifes phone and wants some advice.

co worker text: Good morning, im bringing breakfast. what did u want to drink.

wife: sweet tea or lemonade

according to the caller this text was on monday around 630am, and he always packs her breakfast.

his question was, does he have enough to build a case and should he confront her about it.

I don't know anything else about it. I didn't hear it. My feelings are mixed. I don't work in an office environment, but my wife does and my mother did for many years. I know that many people bring food to the office and there is no romantic relationship going on. With that said, I know this because I was told this. My wife usually says that she doesn't need anything for breakfast or lunch because someone is bringing something in. His wife didn't tell him that. She let him pack her breakfast knowing that someone else was bringing her something. Why hide that? But, on the other hand, why did he read her texts? Is he controlling? Did she stage it to teach him a lesson?

 

[mickeyboat]

I would have thought the wife didn't know that someone was bringing in breakfast, and maybe what her DH had packed could have been eaten for lunch, snack or for breakfast the next day. He would be ridiculous to confront her about it with no other information than this.

As far as reading texts, my cell phone is an open book to DH. There is nothing on it I wouldn't want DH to see. I don't think DH has ever looked at it, though.

 

[Carly_Roach]

I read this on another board this morning and thought I should post it here and get a reaction.


Guy calls in to morning radio show and said he read a text on his wifes phone and wants some advice.

co worker text: Good morning, im bringing breakfast. what did u want to drink.

wife: sweet tea or lemonade

according to the caller this text was on monday around 630am, and he always packs her breakfast.

his question was, does he have enough to build a case and should he confront her about it.

I don't know anything else about it. I didn't hear it. My feelings are mixed. I don't work in an office environment, but my wife does and my mother did for many years. I know that many people bring food to the office and there is no romantic relationship going on. With that said, I know this because I was told this. My wife usually says that she doesn't need anything for breakfast or lunch because someone is bringing something in. His wife didn't tell him that. She let him pack her breakfast knowing that someone else was bringing her something. Why hide that? But, on the other hand, why did he read her texts? Is he controlling? Did she stage it to teach him a lesson?

I think if I got a text like that, my DH would be telling me to ask him to bring stuff for DH, too.

There's really no way anyone can make a guess based on that little information. When we had breakfast meetings at an old place of employment, sometimes people DID call others at 6:30 or 7:00 to find out if they wanted something particular. As far as him packing his wife's breakfast "knowing" someone else was bringing her something, the text asked what she wanted and she said a drink. Was the DH packing her orange juice or was it just food he was packing her?

There's really not much to go on with this. I wouldn't consider it abnormal for a co-worker to send this kind of text unless there were other indicators that she was having a fling or an affair.

 

[happygirl]

I don't think there enough info to tell one way or another

 

[FlightlessDuck]

I think the guy on the radio is a little paranoid.

"Hey baby, I can't wait to see you today. I heard that bathroom is still supposed to be out of order " would indicate someone is having an affair at the office.

"I'm bringing breakfast" DOESN'T indicate anything of the kind.

 

[disykat]

I don't think there's enough there for any suspicion. Is he mad because she didn't say "I don't want anything, my husband is packing me breakfast?"

That said, I do think the texting familiarity would be bothersome to me. IMO it was a pretty casual text, she texted pretty comfortably back - no polite "no need to bother..." or "how nice, anything is fine..." It was just a little more familiar than I'd like to see if it were my husband.

 

[SC Minnie]

Maybe the wife wasn't eating what was being brought in by the coworker but liked to have a beverage. Totally innocent and the husband is over reacting.

 

[sparks19]

I'd definitely say overreaction and if he brings it up to her he's going to end up with an unpleasant surprise.

it sounds like this is a normal behaviour... like so and so picks up breakfast on this day and so and so does it another day.

if there was more to it the texter wouldn't have to ask what she drinks for breakfast

 

[Mickeyistheman]

Actually I think the answer is quite clear.

Co worker said I am bringing in breakfast...WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DRINK?

She replied. SWEET TEA OR LEMONADE.

She didn't ask for breakfast. Maybe the co worker knows that the husband packs her breakfast and was just being nice and bringing in a drink for her.

I don't see any reason for any alarm.

 

[RitaE]

If that text message and similar items are the only thing he has ever seen, then he's highly suspicious and paranoid.

"Hey, want some Starbucks?" from a co-worker is pretty common.

I usually suspect that there's more going on from stories like this.

 

[myheartlivesatwdw]

Good Lord...Asking what you want to drink is now a passionate affair?
I've been around the block then....

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Overreaction.

 

[JenSop]

All it says to me is that the husband is a controlling paranoid freak. How ridiculous! My husband and I not only have co-workers of the opposite sex, but we also have friends of the opposite sex as well. (Gasp!) Friends that we hang out with, maybe have lunch with, maybe work on a project with. They're called co-workers and friends. Give me a break.

 

[Jessica527]

Not a big deal. Here in the office we will switch who picks up breakfast all the time. Now if it was breakfast, lunch, and dinner after work....that would be a difference.

 

[Stacerita]

Total overreaction

 

[FergieTCat]

All it says to me is that the husband is a controlling paranoid freak. How ridiculous! My husband and I not only have co-workers of the opposite sex, but we also have friends of the opposite sex as well. (Gasp!) Friends that we hang out with, maybe have lunch with, maybe work on a project with. They're called co-workers and friends. Give me a break.

My sentiments exactly.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

Actually I think the answer is quite clear.

Co worker said I am bringing in breakfast...WHAT DO YOU WANT TO DRINK?

She replied. SWEET TEA OR LEMONADE.

She didn't ask for breakfast. Maybe the co worker knows that the husband packs her breakfast and was just being nice and bringing in a drink for her.

I don't see any reason for any alarm.

thanks for saving me the typing.

 

[NMAmy]

That said, I do think the texting familiarity would be bothersome to me. IMO it was a pretty casual text, she texted pretty comfortably back - no polite "no need to bother..." or "how nice, anything is fine..." It was just a little more familiar than I'd like to see if it were my husband.

I hate texting so tend to leave out any unneeded words when saying something like "sweet tea or lemonade"
will do. It wasn't "sweet tea or lemonade, snookums."

The guy is totally overreacting. I don't think she was hiding anything from her husband--she probably forgot that someone was bringing in breakfast.

Sheesh, I'm glad DH and I aren't into these little games. People from work both text me and bring me food on a regular basis--neither of which I feel the need to share with DH nor he with me.

My guess is that the man is suspicious of other behavior and therefore is jumping to conclusions regarding something really innocent.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I read this on another board this morning and thought I should post it here and get a reaction.


Guy calls in to morning radio show and said he read a text on his wifes phone and wants some advice.

co worker text: Good morning, im bringing breakfast. what did u want to drink.

wife: sweet tea or lemonade

according to the caller this text was on monday around 630am, and he always packs her breakfast.

his question was, does he have enough to build a case and should he confront her about it.

I don't know anything else about it. I didn't hear it. My feelings are mixed. I don't work in an office environment, but my wife does and my mother did for many years. I know that many people bring food to the office and there is no romantic relationship going on. With that said, I know this because I was told this. My wife usually says that she doesn't need anything for breakfast or lunch because someone is bringing something in. His wife didn't tell him that. She let him pack her breakfast knowing that someone else was bringing her something. Why hide that? But, on the other hand, why did he read her texts? Is he controlling? Did she stage it to teach him a lesson?

I don't get it. Maybe the wife didn't know if she would like what the co-worker was bringing in?

If my husband's co-worker sent him that text I'd have no problem with it and wouldn't wonder about it in the least. I may ask him if he ever brings in breakfast so as not to appear like a mooch.

 

[mdsoccermom]

I don't think there's enough there for any suspicion. Is he mad because she didn't say "I don't want anything, my husband is packing me breakfast?"

That said, I do think the texting familiarity would be bothersome to me. IMO it was a pretty casual text, she texted pretty comfortably back - no polite "no need to bother..." or "how nice, anything is fine..." It was just a little more familiar than I'd like to see if it were my husband.

Whoa, back it up. The words "sweet tea or lemonade" are too familiar? Seriously?

What the heck kind of world is this where one's drink preference is considered crossing a boundary?