Our trip is canceled :(

[dreiwhit]

FWIW, my kids are happy wherever we go for vacation.

I just wanted to say that i'm sorry for your disappointment.

However, I can certainly understand cost being a factor in not going to Disney. We're going back later this year, and after that it is going to be a long while before we go back. I've shared on this board before that a Disney vacation costs 150% more than a normal vacation we take, and we just can't afford to go each year.

I don't know your husband, and I don't want to criticize him. All I will say is that my wife and I talk over major decisions, including where to go on vacations and we come to a consensus.

 

[paintingoncelluloid]

Maybe some compromise is in order. One year he picks the next year you pick. No way in heck would I let him decide for the whole family all by himself.

If my partner and I had decided to take a trip, and budgeted money for a trip, and talked with our (currently hypothetical) children about a trip, and then he decided -- all on his own -- that we were not going, I would find that to be terribly disrespectful. That is what is making people react so strongly here. If your husband came to you with concerns about your budget, and wanted to work as a unit to reallocate your spending, that would be an entirely different story.

Frankly, if my partner did what your husband did, I think that I would go on the trip, with my kids, without him. It's my money, too, and it is what we decided together. If he wants to stay home, fine -- as an adult, his own behavior is the only behavior he is allowed to control. Let him spend whatever money was saved from his airfare/meals/park tickets on whatever he likes.

 

[miamimi]

I seem to remember that on your first visit to WDW, you posted that you were thinking of cutting the trip short because your kids were suffering from sensory overload.
Maybe by the time all of new construction projects are completed, your kids will enjoy the parks more. Just a thought. I'm sorry for your disappointment.

 

[Barbara76]

Haha,


While this will probably add fuel to the "anti-husband" fire, I'm actually the bookkeeper of the family. To him, I don't think he sees it as a matter of affording it (we can afford the trip), but rather, he doesn't WANT to spend all our spare money on a trip to Disney, when we could take the kids elsewhere for half the cost and then spend that money on something else instead (house renos etc...).

Which is reasonable, but still should not be a unilateral deciding factor. I think that deciding to cancel a vacation should be a decision you guys make together. We had to cancel out 2014 trip, my husband felt badly, but it is what made financial sense that year. Still, it was a decision we made together. If he had said "I have no intention of,,," I would have been hurt to be left out of the grown up decision making.

 

[MDIME]

Thanks! I'll look into those. We are looking into Bar Harbor Maine as well so maybe we can do both next summer.

I live in Bar Harbor, my DH is a lobsterman. My profile pic is an outline of MDI. The whole island is GORGEOUS, you're going to LOVE it!

 

[mshanson3121]

I seem to remember that on your first visit to WDW, you posted that you were thinking of cutting the trip short because your kids were suffering from sensory overload.
Maybe by the time all of new construction projects are completed, your kids will enjoy the parks more. Just a thought. I'm sorry for your disappointment.

It was a variety of factors, mostly my leg as I was in quite a bit of pain. But yes, they were definitely starting to get overloaded, too. That was partially our fault as we a) drove 3 days to get there then jumped right into the parks without a day off and b) then did 4 days in a row. Definitely bad planning. I wouldn't do that again if you paid me, lol. They did much better in the parks this year. Now, whether that's because they were a year older, or just because the parks we went to were more sensory-friendly, I'm not sure. I imagine it was a bit of both.

 

[iheartglaciers]

I live in Bar Harbor, my DH is a lobsterman. My profile pic is an outline of MDI. The whole island is GORGEOUS, you're going to LOVE it!

Love Bar Harbor and Acadia! I'm going to be headed there again next month... any recommendations for places to get lobster? Last time I was there we had lobster benedict at Two Cats and lobster at C-Ray.

 

[iheartglaciers]

Well decision aside, I feel for you that you won't get to go next year :-( It's frustrating to not be able to go somewhere that means so much to you.

But I totally understand the dilemma of how often to go to Disney v. other vacations. I love Disney, but I also love to travel internationally and to national parks. Since I don't have kids yet I've been fortunate to go to Disney a lot recently and still go on other vacations, but I often think about how I'll handle it when I have kids. I went twice as a kid (once as a young kid and once as a young teen), so my family didn't even go every few years.

 

[mshanson3121]

As for all the "husband" comments

I laughed quite a bit at them Yes, it was a rather crappy way of going into the whole "I don't want to go back to Disney" discussion. Yes, there were better ways he could have gone about it, phrased it etc... That said, a) the "declaration" came during a conversation that happened almost immediately after he got home from a bad day of work and b) I'm also going to make a safe assumption that every single person on this board has said something to someone, that could have been said in a better way.

Anyways, I am sure that if I really wanted to push the Disney trip, he would go. In fact, I would bet money on it. However, this man could care less about theme parks, does not like hot weather or crowds, and really has no interest in Disney World - and yet, he drove 56 hours to/from Disney once already, out of love for the children and I. For that matter, he takes us to a theme park, somewhere, every year for the children's sake because he knows they enjoy them. So, rest assured, he's really not an insensitive evil monster So, poorly phrased or not (and it was), disappointed or not (and of course I am), I choose to give his objection/opinion the same consideration that he gave mine two years ago when I told him I wanted to go to Disney and he didn't want to.

And I suppose there's always the hope he might change his mind.... lol

 

[Barbara76]

As for all the "husband" comments

I laughed quite a bit at them Yes, it was a rather crappy way of going into the whole "I don't want to go back to Disney" discussion. Yes, there were better ways he could have gone about it, phrased it etc... That said, a) the "declaration" came during a conversation that happened almost immediately after he got home from a bad day of work and b) I'm also going to make a safe assumption that every single person on this board has said something to someone, that could have been said in a better way.

Anyways, I am sure that if I really wanted to push the Disney trip, he would go. In fact, I would bet money on it. However, this man could care less about theme parks, does not like hot weather or crowds, and really has no interest in Disney World - and yet, he drove 56 hours to/from Disney once already, out of love for the children and I. For that matter, he takes us to a theme park, somewhere, every year for the children's sake because he knows they enjoy them. So, rest assured, he's really not an insensitive evil monster So, poorly phrased or not (and it was), disappointed or not (and of course I am), I choose to give his objection/opinion the same consideration that he gave mine two years ago when I told him I wanted to go to Disney and he didn't want to.

And I suppose there's always the hope he might change his mind.... lol

Well said, hope he changes his mind, or you can find a compromise How old are your kids?

 

[MDIME]

Love Bar Harbor and Acadia! I'm going to be headed there again next month... any recommendations for places to get lobster? Last time I was there we had lobster benedict at Two Cats and lobster at C-Ray.

Both of those places are great! Have you tried Thurstons on the dock in Bass Harbor? It's always nice to stop there after visiting Bass Harbor Lighthouse. Rose Eden Lobster has live or cooked lobsters to go. If you are staying somewhere with a kitchen, then cooking your own may be an option? Cafe This Way in Bar Harbor is absolutely wonderful as well for brunch or dinner. Sweet Pea Farm is a hidden gem too. Both Rose Eden & Sweet Pea are located next door to C-Ray's. Hopefully you'll get to see fall foliage at its peak!

 

[mshanson3121]

Well said, hope he changes his mind, or you can find a compromise How old are your kids?

They're young, only 6 & 9 currently, so, if we go back in 2019 like he suggested, they would be 9 & 12. Plenty young still, I know.

 

[Tattylou]

Thanks! I'll look into those. We are looking into Bar Harbor Maine as well so maybe we can do both next summer.

I have done the white mountains trips since I was a kid bc we only live about a 3 hour drive from there...Keep the age of your kids in mind bc IMO Storyland and Santa's Village are more for the age 11 and under crew. There are lots of other cool outdoorsy activities though. We easily fill a week every summer up there and have a blast.

 

[Tattylou]

OP, I'm so sorry to hear this! DH is kind of "over" Disney World too, a lot of the magic seems to be getting sacrificed for more $$ and it's kind of sucking the fun out of it for him. However, he knows I live for my Disney trips, so he would never just decide we are done. Rather instead of World, we did Land for the first time ever, found that it was more cost effective (cheaper flight, was huge) and, in a lot of aspects, more enjoyable! We loved the nostalgia factors happening there, and it was such a different and welcome change from World. Granted we missed Epcot (that's always been our favorite) but Disneyland just blew us away! Would Land be an option for you? Still getting a Disney fix, just in a different way!

Great suggestion... We did DL in 2015 and had an awesome vacation! It's a fun Disney option and if you go for a week you can do other California places besides just Disney!

 

[mshanson3121]

Great suggestion... We did DL in 2015 and had an awesome vacation! It's a fun Disney option and if you go for a week you can do other California places besides just Disney!

We've never really talked about it that much honestly. I wouldn't mind going, I think it would be neat to see, and some of the rides there I think would be great. I'm just afraid my kids would miss AK since that was probably my son's favorite park. And cost-wise it wouldn't be any cheaper for us since our travel to get there costs would increase.

 

[kamik86]

My DH and I like very different things out of vacations so every other year we get to be in charge of vacations. We have a set yearly vacation budget. Generally used for two vcations. A cheap escapewinter vacation in January (generally a carribbean cruise lately) and a more expensive one in Fall.

this year is my year and we are going to England for my 30th birthday.

DH generally wants to go back toplaces we have alreayd been. He knows he likes them and I think he feels those types of trips are safer. I like to do new things. Next year he is thinking back to Alaska.

 

[Party.Of.4-NY>>>FL]

This is how my DD (7 now) sees it. She was just as thrilled to go to Hersheypark this year, and our trip to Cape Cod, and would be happy at the little amusement parks up in NH, although she was disappointed she didn't meet any characters in Hershey this year like she has in the past.

DH and I have also discussed an adults only trip to Disney, but it's really not in the finances for us, because it would come out of our regular vacation funds. We just have to accept that Disney can't be an every year thing for us, and really, it's a good thing.

Totally agree with you. Kids just enjoy having fun. No matter where it may be.

We just returned from a quick 3-day trip to Hershey last week. DD8 and DS2 had a blast! Not even once did DD compare it to our Disney trip in 2014. We found it to be a VERY affordable mini-vacation. For the 3 days with hotel, park tickets, food, gas, tolls, souvenirs, etc. it cost us just under $1,000 for our family of 4. (We didn't stay at Hershey lodge. This would have increased the cost significantly) We'll be going back to DW in December for a 9-day trip but we only do DW every 2-3 years because of the cost and the fact that there are so many others places to spend our vacation dollars.

 

[SaintsManiac]

It really does suck that you had to cancel. I would be heartbroken, since we love to plan and anticipate and discuss as a family. We made the choice to go every other year and do other things in the off year. We go back next November. In the off year we will do cheaper vacations. This year we will visit family in Dallas for the Texas State Fair and then stay at the family condo in Orange Beach for New Year's. Talk about cheap!

DH and I sat down and discussed it when we got home in December from a truly magical trip. He asked that we go every other year and I asked that we at least GO. This was a pleasant compromise.

You never know, things can change down the road. 2019 will be here before you know it, too

 

[fbb]

Part of being married is making those sorts of decisions together.

Each family is different. Before we got married, my wife told me that I was the head of the household and she wanted me to make all the big decisions, and that she would make all the little decisions. I agreed.

That was almost 20 years ago, and there hasn't been a big decision yet.

 

[mshanson3121]

Each family is different. Before we got married, my wife told me that I was the head of the household and she wanted me to make all the big decisions, and that she would make all the little decisions. I agreed.

That was almost 20 years ago, and there hasn't been a big decision yet.

lol. Love it