Our dog is going downhill fast.

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Some of you may remember my golden retreiver, Boomer, from other posts. He is a big, gentle, happy go lucky guy. He is 13 now and has arthritis and all the other things old goldens get. His abdomen has been swelling and getting firmer. I spoke with the vet about him last night and he said even if we tap him to get the fluid out it will return within 36 hours. He has pain meds here and is still eating okay. He stands and pants with a frightened look on his face. We have been sitting on the floor with him and stroking him till he relaxes and falls asleep.

I spoke with the boys and DH last night about simply giving him a larger dose of his pain medication if we feel he is getting worse. We thought last night would be it as he was panting over 100 times/min. He ended up falling asleep with DH's soothing presence and slept all night. He is more relaxed today.

We had a very unpleasant experience putting our cat to sleep a few years ago, not the vet's fault. It has left all of us not wanting to have to do that again. If I was in this position with old age/probable abdominal cancer and all the complications of that, I would want to be able to take a nice, big dose of narcotics and just drift off to sleep. How about you?
 
Always sad, mom, when the pups get old and ill. :hug: No easy way. Good wishes come your way.
 
I am so sorry to hear this, we just went through this with our 13 yo Golden, "Grover". He had hip dysplasia and a tumor on his spleen (sounds like you are dealing with a very similar circumstances). We had to put him down on August 29, it was so hard...it still is, we miss him so much! But, like you mention, he went downhill very quickly and it became obvious that he was failing fast and needed help letting go of this life. He was such a great, loving, loyal friend!

I can assure you, in spite of the situation with your cat, it is a very peaceful and quick experience. I can tell you that Grover felt NO PAIN and did not struggle...he just left us peacefully....Talk to your vet about it. Grover recieved a sedative shot first, I think that helps. It is so hard to see our beloved pets struggling in the last part of their lives.

BIG {{{HUGS}}}
 

My family JUST went through this EXACT situation. 12 year old Golden who also had bloated belly and heavy panting. My sister refused to let him be put down. The vet recommended it but said everyone is different.

Well, let me tell you, it was HORRIBLE!!! We had all gone over to my moms for a BBQ and the dog was just barely hanging on. I told my dad in no uncertain terms that he needed to take RUSTY to the vet now and have him sent to heaven. My sister had not yet arrived. My other sister did and said the same as me. My mom called my sister and told her she had better hurry up. When she arrived she started crying immediately upon seeing him suffer. He could not sit or lay because he could not breath in that position. He was standing and panting and had such a hollow look of "Please help me". It was awful!! My sister tried to pick him up and he died a terrible death. She was unable to hold him because he went into convulsions, and she dropped him. His death after that was pretty quick but devastating to the whole family. I understand that it was a difficult decision to make, but what happened to Rusty did not help him or my sister. It should have been avoided. Sometimes as a pet owner you need to make hard choices and it this case at least, his family did NOT do what was best for him.

:grouphug:
 
I am sorry you are facing this. Losing a pet is often losing a family member. Though using a vet is difficult, it is probably the best way for Boomer to cross the Rainbow Bridge. We've done this with 2 of our cats and it is never easy. But you are there to comfort him and that's the most important thing.

:hug: :sad1:
 
I'm so sorry. We went through this 4 years ago with our 13 y/o golden. But, 13 is a good long life for a golden. Your baby is trusting you to make the right choices and to not let him suffer. I can say that my golden had a look in his eyes that seemed to be thanking me as he went on that 'one way trip to the vet'. So, saying prayers for you and your family. It's a hard thing to deal with. Give Boomer a hug from me!!!
 
I would want to be able to take a nice, big dose of narcotics and just drift off to sleep. How about you?
Actually, a big dose of narcotics doesn't always result in a peaceful 'fall to sleep' death. It can take a long time and they can go into convulsions/vomit/etc. It isn't pretty. The way the vets do it is the most humane (ie quick and painless) way.
 
:grouphug:

You should talk to the vet about the bad experience so he/she can make sure it won't happen with your golden. I think an OD of narcotics without could make his last moments much worse.

It's never easy. Many hugs.
 
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I'm so sorry. I know it's never easy, but I have to agree with the others, giving him a bigger dose of his meds could just cause him more pain and suffering.

If you do decide the time has come to bring Boomer to the vet to help him cross over the Rainbow Bridge, know that you are doing the right thing for him. I know it is such a hard choice to have to make.

:hug: :hug: :hug:
 
I also have been down this road. It is very sad to see your beloved pet of so many years struggle everyday.

I have been with 4 dogs now that we have had to put down. None were easy for ME...all were easy for the dogs.

I have had a vet bring in a box of tissues when she came into the room. I thanked her...she said they were for HER also. This vet became my most trused vet!!

Talk to your vet about the previous experience, see what they say. I have to say that I believe it easier for the DOG when someone is there with her/him. My dogs have all put their heads in my lap & gone to sleep quietly with my hand stroking them...& tears running down my face.

It is not easy. But after my dogs giving me, 8 ,10, or only 1 year of wonderful life together I needed to be there for them. My last gift to them was to set them free from pain & say goodbye.

Need to go dry my eyes now...hugs to you & your dog!
 
My DH had a golden for 19 years. Ben was a very good dog, but he was not "our" dog. He always took to DH. Ben had very bad hips. Took took Rimadyl but that did not help. We did everything we could to make it easy on him. One morning DH was leaving to go to work and Ben was outside. Ben could not get up to walk into the house, so DH brought him in and woke me up. He told me today might be the day. I knew DH could not make that decision and ultimately left it up to me. By 10 a.m. he could not get up and move. I called my FIL and he came over to put him in my truck and went with me to the vet. As I previously told DH, the vet said I waited about a year too long. He has been suffering for a long time because of DH selfishness. The vet gave him a sedative and carried him off on a stretcher and then did what they needed to do. His remains sit in a sealed container on top our entertainment center. Once I got back from the vet, I called DH and told him it was done and Ben was no longer suffering. He had a hard time for quite a while. It took about 1.5 years until he agreed to get another golden. Now, we have Trapper and he is wonderful. As DH says, he doesn't replace Ben. But on the flip side, this is our dog--our family's dog not just his. I will have a heck of a time when Trapper has to cross that bridge since he's my baby.

All I can say is when you put him down you will be doing the right thing. He won't be suffering anymore and he will be in a peaceful place chasing all the poodles! Stay strong and give him a good petting for me. Lots of :hug: :hug: :hug:
 
I'm sorry you're going through this...it's never easy to see a "member of your family" suffer! I agree that a larger dose of pain meds may cause more suffering than good. Talking to your vet about your fears related to your past bad experience is a good idea. That way, he'll be able to calm your fears. I think having the vet help you ease Boomer's suffering is the most humane thing you can do for him at the end of his life. Good luck!:sad1:

~Tracy~
 
Oh I can just cry. I am so sorry you are going through this.

My golden, Woody, is 10 years old. I am terrified as I see signs of aging every day. He has had a bad spout with hot spots this summer and has been on medicine. It makes him pant awful. Now reading your posts I hope it isn't something worse as you say your dog pants.:(

Good luck to you. Give him a kiss for me.
 
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We too, are Golden "parents".
Brady is 9 and has been the most loving, loyal dog we have ever had the pleasure to have as a family member.

He has helped us raise 4 kids. Gentle is not a good enough word to describe his disposition. I will be a basket case when this dog goes.

HOWEVER:

When the time comes I will be the one that makes the decision and takes him to the vet for the last goodbye.

Why? Because I used to be a veterinary technician and have assisted in the euthanasia of hundreds of dogs and cats, a few birds, bunnies, ferretts, 1 eguana, 1 owl, 1 hawk, a deer and a turtle.

What a gift it is to animals that are suffering, to put our compassion and love for them ahead of our anticipation of grief.

May I suggest that you call your vet and talk to him or her. Some vets are willing to come to your house to put an animal down.

Since you did not say what happened with your cat I can only speculate.

The drug used for euthanasia at the animal hospital where I worked was actually a mixture of drugs. An anesthesia cocktail you might say. It affects the central nervous system in a very calculated way and the dosage is based on the animals weight. If an animal is very anxious or in extreme pain the dosage may need to be increased.

The way anesthesia affects the body is predicatable and the animal passes through a brief "excitement phase" on its' way to "sleep".
A very small percentage of animals linger in this phase which usually only takes a second or so and may exhibit behavior that is frightening to an unsuspecting, already distraught pet owner. Dogs and cats "stuck in this phase" may only show signs of it for say 2-10 seconds as opposed to 1. During that time they may bark, yelp, whimper, or meow or howl, and may even struggle as if to get up and run. This is terrifying to people that do not expect it although it is really perfectly normal. Pet owners witnessing this anesthesia reaction think they have done the wrong thing, that the animals suffering is even worse, that they are in pain. But that is not the case.

I worked with a very compassionate vet who never failed to explain to the pet owners that there was a possibility that it *may* occur. It has been explained to me that it is an effect like a very vivid dream. Not a scary dream. An EXCITING dream.

The most effective way to perform a calm and peaceful euthanasia takes a bit more time and may cost you a few extra dollars but is well worth it. The technician or vet to place a catheter in the leg of the forearm of your pet. (otherwise known as an "I.V.")
With this technique, *IF* it looks as though the animal is going to struggle a bit more of the serum can quickly be delivered through the line to rush them through that excitement phase.

With a good patent line in place the vet performing the euthanasia is relieved of the added burden of holding the dog (or other animal) securely and still while simultaneously: holding the vein in place- which can roll or kink, or the needle can become displaced, trying not to get accidentally bitten or scratched, injecting the serum, comforting the pet and reassuring the pet owner. These are a lot of things for one person to do all at once especially at a sad and stressful time.

And let me say here that it IS a SAD and STRESSFUL time! Even the vet, tech. and ancillary staff FEEL your loss and often the group will talk about what a "good boy" your pet was, long after you have left the building.

I will recap here that it is really only a small number of animals that experience this effect. The vast majority simply sigh and lay down their heads.

I urge you to rethink this situation and NOT try a do-it-yourselfer at home. An overdose of narcotics will very often result in disorientation, abdominal pain and vomiting/diarrhea.

It would be a far more merciful ending to your pets life to have the vet "send him on his way". Take a lock of his hair and press it in a photo frame with a picture of Boomer to remeber him by.


All the best to you and your family. I am truly sorry for your loss.
 












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