OT_ Day Care Issues

[newddmommie]

I don't know if any else has every had this issue, but i figured i'd ask. Do you ever have day care workers complain to you about your child? I'm not talking about being bad, but things like "she poops to much" (when she was 9 months old) or "she needs to stop taking her shoes off, i'm tired of putting them back on" she's nineteen months old. I just feel like for the most part, that if i'm paying them a substaintial amount of money that these things shouldn't be that big of a deal with them. What do you guys think and if this has happened to you how do you handle it? My dh wants to say something, but i just let it go.

 

[mom4graceandlogan]

I'd seriously consider switching childcare. If they are saying this to your face, Iwould hate to think of how they are handling it with you not around. Are they changing her less, getting frustrated with her etc. your child is too young to tell you if they yell at her/ ignore her etc.Saying something will only change how they respond to you, noy how they feel about the child. These things are the basics of providing child care. Honestly sounds like they have the wrong job. I too would be shocked upset if they said these things. It is absurd to think babies don't poop alot take off shoes etc.

 

[newddmommie]

thankfully the one who complians about her shoes is spending more time with the older kids, so we haven't add the shoe problem lately. I wouldn't switch cause my dd really likes it there, the diaper thing was just funny because the girl who said it went to highschool with me. I was more just wondering if other people ever had this problem or if it's just because i know the ladies who work there? Also, i went to day care there as well and the same woman runs it and she doesn't put up with any non-sense so i'm not worried about her safety or well being.

 

[rrobin3051]

yes that is very frustrating. I work in daycare. Are these workers young. Im older raised a family and have 2 little grandchildren. I think Im more patient than a lot of my coworkers. Im in the three year old room and for the most part most things do not bother me. While our teacher next door in the fours thinks they should all be quiet and perfect. She has no kids yet. During nap time when some dont sleep, they figit and she always complains. I tell her imagine being 3 or 4 and have to lay still for 2 hours if you are not tired..lol. I would say back to them, Yea I know she poops a lot..she is a baby. They will get the point. I mean I know that some things are aggravating. I guess taking shoes off all day doesnt seem like a big deal until you have 8 of them doing it and it seems like all day you are finding shoes and putting them back on. I have a little boy in my room that aggravates all of his friends all day. I mean just touches them to aggravate them..lol. This goes on all day every day, but I laugh because how do I tell a parent their kid is a pest...LOL. I just try to reward him if I catching NOT pestering anyone. Seems to be working somewhat. Anyway back to you..good luck and dont take it personally. If it is really bothering you, speak to the administrator and she will speak to the teacher. They wont hate your child..LOL. Everyone at my work even the young girls loves all the children.

 

[newddmommie]

Thanks robin. I've often thought it was because some of the girls are young and just don't have the patience yet. Once when they said she pooped to much, I just said "you should she her at home, at least we know that there's no digestive issues". I just let it go, it's my DH who gets bugged by it.

 

[smiths02]

It would really bother me, and I would probably either talk to the director (to see if the director can handle it) or switch.

The poop comment might not have bothered me b/c there are some things I would like to know...I worked in a daycare, and we finally had to tell a parent that her child smelled...but it was a medical issue, he had an infection b/c he had stuck things up his nose...I am sure she was glad someone confronted the issue...

Back to the topic though, for any issues, I would confront the teacher directly and say with the poop something like "at least she gets enough fiber, do I need to bring in more diapers?" with the shoe thing, I would say...do you have any suggestions on how to handle this situation? (ie do you think her shoes are uncomfortable? would you consider high tops or some shoes that are more difficult to get off? could she wear robeez or something like that while she is inside the classroom? could we get shoes that are more interesting-like Cinderella on them? could we reward her for keeping her shoes on?)

When I worked at a daycare (with children with autism and typical children, mind you), it was policy not to talk negatively/complain about the children or co-workers at ALL. If we did have an issue to discuss with parents, we would come to the parents with a proposed solution

 

[smiths02]

yes that is very frustrating. I work in daycare. Are these workers young. Im older raised a family and have 2 little grandchildren. I think Im more patient than a lot of my coworkers. Im in the three year old room and for the most part most things do not bother me. While our teacher next door in the fours thinks they should all be quiet and perfect. She has no kids yet. During nap time when some dont sleep, they figit and she always complains. I tell her imagine being 3 or 4 and have to lay still for 2 hours if you are not tired..lol. I would say back to them, Yea I know she poops a lot..she is a baby. They will get the point. I mean I know that some things are aggravating. I guess taking shoes off all day doesnt seem like a big deal until you have 8 of them doing it and it seems like all day you are finding shoes and putting them back on. I have a little boy in my room that aggravates all of his friends all day. I mean just touches them to aggravate them..lol. This goes on all day every day, but I laugh because how do I tell a parent their kid is a pest...LOL. I just try to reward him if I catching NOT pestering anyone. Seems to be working somewhat. Anyway back to you..good luck and dont take it personally. If it is really bothering you, speak to the administrator and she will speak to the teacher. They wont hate your child..LOL. Everyone at my work even the young girls loves all the children.

Sorry, but if 8 children are doing it all day long, then that teacher has a lousy behavior plan and classroom management...if she is just walking around after children putting shoes on all day, then it would be up to the daycare to come up with a solution not simply complain to parents...as a parent, I can help my child, but if my child is under 19 months old, talking to her about shoes...

Also, if the child is just taking shoes off all day, the daycare must be pretty boring and unscheduled...at the daycare I worked at taking shoes off was never really a big problem b/c there was just too much other stuff for the kids to do!

 

[budafam]

That is bad. I have my own daycare at home and I have a little boy who's shoes ALWAYS come off. They are a bit too big for him but I would never complain about it. It's something the kids do. As for pooping too much... as long as there's no concern (diarrhea) or anything, I would never say anything to the parents. Definitely check around for a new daycare!

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

Alot of 19 months old children take their shoes off as well as the rest of their clothes, LOL! They ought to thank the good Lord that she isn't stripped down buck naked on 10 seconds flat.... I had a 2 year old that had a habit of doing that that I day cared. He just prefered being naked . Apparently, he did it at home too. I think that a couple of the workers at your DD's daycare are a little anal personally. I would have not mentioned either of those things. Maybe you should ask them why they watch children if they dislike it so much next time they complain about such a silly thing..

 

[newddmommie]

nicole, that's my thing. I really like her daycare and trust the ladies who work there, so i'd never move her. It's more just the silliness of complaining about it. We put lace up shoes and double knot them and she stills takes them off. She just likes to be bare foot. I appreciate everyones thoughts and concerns, thankfully it's only two teachers out of 25 who say anything.

 

[DisneyNic]

I am sorry that you have to hear things like that. I too work at a daycare center and your post could have been describing a girl that I work with (wait, where are you from again??) She will tell the parents the most insane, nonsensical things. Things that just don't need to be mentioned. We have talked to her about it, but she just shrugs it off. We have never had any parent compaints or there would definetly be more action taken. We honestly think with her it is some sort of power trip, like she wants the parent to think that she knows so much about children and what is normal and what is not. I don't know. I'm sorry. If it really bothers your DH or you, I would talk to the director about it. She can then take care of it and if she is like you said, there would be no reason to worry about the girl taking it out on your DD.

 

[HGD24]

My take is that if either you or your DH aren't comfortable with something being said or going on at daycare, one of you needs to say something to the teacher if not the director as well (I always followed up any conversations with teachers by also talking to the director so that she was aware of the conversation). Our DD's current center was great about working with me when I brought up issues in the infant room. Unfortunately, we're now having issues in the toddler room that can't be resolved so we're going elsewhere. Never feel like you can't say something about things that bother you to the person responsible for your child's care on a daily basis. Good luck!

PS - one of DD's current teachers is grown and has older kids (10 & 13) and seems to get very easily frustrated by the little things toddlers tend to do. I think she's outgrown the toddler phase since her kids are older and she is not a good fit for the room and she won't be there long.

 

[nicolemomof4cuties]

nicole, that's my thing. I really like her daycare and trust the ladies who work there, so i'd never move her. It's more just the silliness of complaining about it. We put lace up shoes and double knot them and she stills takes them off. She just likes to be bare foot. I appreciate everyones thoughts and concerns, thankfully it's only two teachers out of 25 who say anything.

That's a 19 month old for you, I swear they are little monkeys! LOL! I love that age, they are so inquisitive. Bet she is a blast at home!

 

[RMulieri]

No. and I wouldn't put up with that either. It is one thing if there was an issue that needs to be addressed, but to complain about your child just because is uncalled for

 

[JerseyMamaBear]

I'd seriously consider switching childcare. If they are saying this to your face, Iwould hate to think of how they are handling it with you not around. Are they changing her less, getting frustrated with her etc. your child is too young to tell you if they yell at her/ ignore her etc.Saying something will only change how they respond to you, noy how they feel about the child. These things are the basics of providing child care. Honestly sounds like they have the wrong job. I too would be shocked upset if they said these things. It is absurd to think babies don't poop alot take off shoes etc.

I think you hit the nail on the head with the whole being in the wrong line of work. We will be placing my 1 year old in daycare this fall for a day or 2 a week and would be upset if the complained about something I am paying big bucks for them to do.