OT: Where does the baby pop out from?

[Zeebs]

Hello Guys, I wonder if I can have some help.

I am expecting number baby number three and my eldest son who will be four in Feb has been asking plenty of questions about the baby. So far thankfully how it gets out and not how it got in there.

I have no problem giving him specifics if I need to (although I hope not to) So far I have been able to change the topic after telling him it "pops" out a special hole designed for it.

He did then ask which hole and by that time I had distracted him with some sweets (kid thinks he is heaven I wonder if he will cotton on to the fact everytime he mentions the baby he gets sweets lol)

I do want to keep it as simple as I can without lying to him, most of the books I have seen for his age focus on yay Mummy has a baby in her tummy and you have to be nice to her as she might be a bit poorly and cross etc etc. Has anyone got any advice on books for kids this small.

I know I have seen a previous thread with a similar questions but the child was older plus I can't find it to see which books were recommended to that poster (plus I never thought I would need the information)

Anyway any help will be much appreciated.

Kirsten

 

[mjkacmom]

I can't remember what books we used, but my kids knew, pretty much their entire lives, that the baby comes out of the woman's vajayjay (we use the correct word here, but the DIS won't allow it ). They also all know how the sperm gets to the egg (they asked). Just give him the facts!

 

[Zeebs]

Thanks very much, I agree that if he asks I certainly won't be lying to him he will get the correct information. My issue at the moment is the wee tyke is quite mouthy and I hate the thought of him telling everyone in the line at the supermarket. LOL Oh well

I was hoping I guess that he would be happy with an explaination before it got too graphic but I think we will just have to wait and see.

Probably before I get the book he will have asked anyway.

Kirsten

 

[ruadisneyfan2]

Hello Guys, I wonder if I can have some help.

I am expecting number baby number three and my eldest son who will be four in Feb has been asking plenty of questions about the baby. So far thankfully how it gets out and not how it got in there.

I have no problem giving him specifics if I need to (although I hope not to) So far I have been able to change the topic after telling him it "pops" out a special hole designed for it.

He did then ask which hole and by that time I had distracted him with some sweets (kid thinks he is heaven I wonder if he will cotton on to the fact everytime he mentions the baby he gets sweets lol)

I do want to keep it as simple as I can without lying to him, most of the books I have seen for his age focus on yay Mummy has a baby in her tummy and you have to be nice to her as she might be a bit poorly and cross etc etc. Has anyone got any advice on books for kids this small.

I know I have seen a previous thread with a similar questions but the child was older plus I can't find it to see which books were recommended to that poster (plus I never thought I would need the information)

Anyway any help will be much appreciated.

Kirsten

I would tell him girls have another hole and the baby has to be pushed out, like going #2.

 

[bumbershoot]

We use proper words here, and have since the beginning. So he knows I have a vu-word (I prefer to use that word since it's the outside, rather than the va-word which is inside), and that's the word we've used when he talks about where a baby would come from, if we manage to have another.

Though sometimes he forgets and talks about the baby coming out of my pe-word.

As for him talking about it, who cares? Adults know where babies come from.

 

[davidgpedersen]

I remember asking my mother this question and she told me the baby comes out by where Mommys go to the bathroom. I remember thinking at the time that Mommys must have a zipper on one of their bottom cheeks to let the baby out. Now that I have a few kids of my own, I think I've finally figured it out

Dave

 

[Zeebs]

I remember asking my mother this question and she told me the baby comes out by where Mommys go to the bathroom. I remember thinking at the time that Mommys must have a zipper on one of their bottom cheeks to let the baby out. Now that I have a few kids of my own, I think I've finally figured it out

Dave

Thank you very much for the laugh, I am still chuckling...

 

[NHdisneylover]

I really like the book Where Did I Come From? for this age range. It covers it all but very simplisticly and not too much or too little info.

ETA--I jsut looked it up on Amazon.com and it is rated as for ages 4-8 even. I forgot to say I also like that it starts off with explaining that they wrote the book because their kids used to ask about it and they know that parents get all embarrassed trying to explain it without a book to help (or something to that effect). I first learned about the book when the little girl I babysat in highschool ALWAYS wanted me to read it to her. After the first 3 or 4 times I mentioned to her parents that she always picked that one for some reason. Turns out she didn't want to embarrass them and figured since I wasn't a parent that was a book I should read LOL
We have had it on the shelves at our house since DD was about 20 months old because her brother was born just before her second birthday.

 

[amamax2]

When my kids were about that age and asking questions, we started with the Mommies have a hole....then they wanted to know if it was the same hole as pee came from.....

So I simply explained that girls have a hole for pee, just like a boy (well, not *exactly* like a boy, lol), and a hole for poop, just like a boy, but we also have a third hole for the baby to come out of.

They then wanted to know where it was, and I explained between the other two.

They were more than satisfied with that for then.

 

[JUJU814]

Both my little ones were born via c section. Ages 6 and 8. So far, the only thing they've asked me is how they got out of my belly.

I told them the doctor cut a little hole in my belly and took them out. So I told them the truth.

One day, I'm sure they'll learn the natural way, but for now, that's an easy answer for me.

They've only casually asked me how they got in my belly, to which I replied "God put you there" and that was the end of it. If they pushed it and asked how, then I guess I'll need a book, but for now, they were happy with that answer, and at these ages, I'm content with it.

 

[RMulieri]

I can't remember what books we used, but my kids knew, pretty much their entire lives, that the baby comes out of the woman's vajayjay (we use the correct word here, but the DIS won't allow it ). They also all know how the sperm gets to the egg (they asked). Just give him the facts!

agree..My 5 yr old has known since she was old enough to ask..Maybe it is the nurse and educator in me..But the facts were simpler for me .

 

[ms_missy66]

I know this isn't probably the best way, but we're not a "proper name" family, though I think the need will arise soon. Regardless, when my girls asked, I said, "God puts a special hole in Mommy's bottom (our general term for the whole area) where a baby comes out of." They said, "Near your butt and peeps?" And I said, "yep". That was it. I will absolutely go into detail with them, but at that point (ages 5 and 4) they were satisfied. Hope that helps!

 

[erinlees_mommie]

Both my little ones were born via c section. Ages 6 and 8. So far, the only thing they've asked me is how they got out of my belly.

I told them the doctor cut a little hole in my belly and took them out. So I told them the truth.

One day, I'm sure they'll learn the natural way, but for now, that's an easy answer for me.

They've only casually asked me how they got in my belly, to which I replied "God put you there" and that was the end of it. If they pushed it and asked how, then I guess I'll need a book, but for now, they were happy with that answer, and at these ages, I'm content with it.

My DD 5 asks all the time how she came out of my tummy and I told her through my sunroof *referring to what my midwife in the UK called it for a C section* And she is happy with that one
Wish she would have been born naturally and a water birth like we planned but she was stubborn so at least I get the easy way to explain how she was born Then when she is older for the birds and bees talk we will go into that there is another way.But that is MANY years down the road thank goodness! And she is going to be an only child so no need in explaining anymore than we have to.

 

[kim_o]

My friend who had her 3rd when her boys were 3.5 and 5.5 had to answer a lot of questions. They already understood that boys have a 'pen' and that mommy doesn't have a 'pen'. So she just said, "Boys have a 'pen' and that's what makes them a boy. Girls don't have a 'pen'...instead they have a special baby hole and that's where the baby comes out." They seemed to like that explanation and didn't ask any other questions.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

I guess I am the exception. I don't tell my kids about holes etc. I tell them that the doctor helps it to come out and it is magic. I learned the same way basically. I don't remember when I finally knew how it really happened but it wasn't at 4 years old. While I think that it is a natural thing I personally don't think little ones need to know the specifics. YMMV.

 

[hsmamato2]

well, I think if a 4 year old asks, then you should get some special books and read them together. If you don't he will try to find out in other ways. trust me kids who are expecting a little sib have lots of questions,and it only makes sense to answer them honestly.

 

[tzolkin]

My issue at the moment is the wee tyke is quite mouthy and I hate the thought of him telling everyone in the line at the supermarket. LOL Oh well

I had explained the entire process (with the proper names) to my daughter because she was very curious. One day while my mom was babysitting she brought her along to help clean church. It happened to be the day that the local elderly people have lunch there. When I came in to pick her up my mom was in the other room vacuuming while DD was loudly describing, "... and then the baby comes out of the mom's uterus through her vag..." to a table of women in their 80s who were all looking a bit like this I'm pretty sure she also told them how the baby got in there as well.

 

[DrRae2B]

When MY kid asked how SHE "came out of my tummy" I simply told her that the doctor game me some medicine, cut my tummy open, and then pulled her out. Technically I wasn't lying-- she was a C-section baby!!

Cha-ching! I got off easy on that one! Lol.


Last night at Thanksgiving dinner with extended family, my DD3 was oogling over all the new babies in our family. She stated that when she has a baby, she'll (fill in the blank with random baby stuff "feed it baby food", etc). When my SIL asked her "When is YOUR baby coming out of your tummy?" my DD3 simply replied, "Oh, when I'm sixteen," I almost choked on my stuffing!!!! SIXTEEN??? Over my dead body!!!! Lol.

 

[PA Princess]

Nothing like a new baby on the way to get those questions flowing from a 3 or 4 year old! We told our kids similar info to that shared here...baby is pushed from a special hole in the mom.

This seemed to satisfy our oldest son (who was the same age as your boy), but one day I came out of the bathroom and almost fell over him. He was lying on the floor directly in front of the door. I asked what he was doing, and he explained he was waiting to see that special baby hole I told him he would have to keep waiting

 

[Zeebs]

Well I am getting some good laughs out of these stories. Thanks for all your help.

I have ordered the book "where did I come from" on Amazon and will just wait until he asks me again. I will just keep supplying him with enough truth until he gives up and seems satisfied I guess.

All I am now hoping is that the baby does just "pop" out as he seems to think it will.

Kirsten