OT--What's with Kids these days??

[Narnia]

When i had my first son I went to parenting classes regularly. One parent for how knows what reason hated me. She refused to stop her som from attacking mine. One day he grabed my son's face I had enough and gave the kid a time out(we were allowed to do this to other kids). Boy was she angry so angry that she tried to lie and say I was saying racial slurs. She ended up getting kicked out. I saw the boy when he was 6 he pushed my son up against the wall and threated to punch him for no reason! The mom when he was little told people she was going to teach him to fight! I tought my kids well and they would never hurt any one! I used to do 123 magic but it led to out of control kids(older two kids) I swiched to spankings and getting things taken away right away that work alot better my younger 3 are so much easier to handle the the older kids were at there age.

 

[maymom96]

Gotta love the parents who let their kids rule the house. The kids think they can do as they please anywhere they go. My favorite line from these little Jr's is "Your not my mommy. You can't tell me what to do." It just makes me want to squeeze them hard!!!

 

[Aliceacc]

The scary thing is that these kids are going to grow up as brats, completely unaware that there's another world out there... a kinder, gentler world that does not revolve around them. They'll never understand the ideas of respect and consideration, because they were simply never exposed to those concepts.

At some point in their lives, they'll learn that lesson, and it will be a rude awakening indeed.

 

[RMulieri]

Okay, I'll throw a story in here, too.

I was at a birthday party with my daughter a few years ago. I don't know how the conversation started, but the moms started talking about how Precious and Angel tend to manipulate them (the parents) to get whatever they want and aren't they so smart to be able to do that at such a young age. Anyway, the one upmanship started -- only they were all trying to outdo each other on how much their kids get away with. Then they started giving themselves labels like, "Well, you know I'm the mom who just melts and gives Precious anything she wants when she gives me those sweet butterfly kisses." Oh, I know what you mean. I just can't say no to Princess when she gives me those big eyes and that pouty lip." And on and on. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore, so I said, "Well, I'm the mean mom then because I don't believe in giving children everything they want no matter how cute they are." And yes, my children were the only ones not kicking and screaming when it was time to leave.

Amen, a woman like me!!!

 

[RMulieri]

The trouble is these kids grow up with no boundries whatsoever.The biggest mistake is trying to be your kids buddies instead of the parent, because you might hurt their fragile little psyches.My dad used to say "I am your father, not your pal.We can be pals when you grow up a healthy individual and move out of my house"...harsh, but so true.

 

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[MiniGirl]

The trouble is these kids grow up with no boundries whatsoever.The biggest mistake is trying to be your kids buddies instead of the parent, because you might hurt their fragile little psyches.My dad used to say "I am your father, not your pal.We can be pals when you grow up a healthy individual and move out of my house"...harsh, but so true.

My mom used to say something like that. She'd say, "God put me on this earth to be your mother -- not your friend." In other words, she didn't care if I LIKED her at the time. She was going to do what she felt was best for me. Thing is I always loved her and respected her, but we also eventually became friends.

 

[Disney Mommy 3]

Disney Fed--that was hilarious--I could picture the whole thing in my mind!! I too, get really peeved at the way some parents let their children act. And you know what's crazy? They will be the first ones to get onto someone else's children. Doesn't that just rub you the wrong way? YIKES!! I work with the kids from 4-6th grades at church on Wed. nights and man!!!! some are great, some are just plain awful-mainly they are coming from abusive homes but still, we go pick them up on church buses, feed them and minister to them. Well, the ones that accept it---some are just coming to get out of the house!! But, we do get the ones whose parents think little Johnny can do no wrong and will be it pretty quickly to the church house steps to see why the kid can't come back for a while, or this really gets me. The kid cusses-out our bus drivers and the mom wants to know why the kid is on bus-suspension. What did he really do wrong anyway.Wow. We need loooooots of parenting classes in the good ole USA!!!

 

[karajeboo]

Disrepectful kids and clueless parents can be found in the north and the south.

Absolutely true!!!! I've lived in Ohio, SC, and now Florida, and actually I consider the kids in DD's school here in FL to be the absolute worst!

Ooh I can answer this one! A 5 year old learns to hate when they are taught to hate. A 4 year old walked up to my 4 year old and pre-school and told her "You can't come to my party because you are not white". The "little darling's" father was standing right there nodding his head. This Momma had a little "chat" with that father in the parking lot

That is just beyond sad!

The trouble is these kids grow up with no boundries whatsoever.The biggest mistake is trying to be your kids buddies instead of the parent, because you might hurt their fragile little psyches.My dad used to say "I am your father, not your pal.We can be pals when you grow up a healthy individual and move out of my house"...harsh, but so true.

I totally agree but there's such a fine line. I have a great relationship with DD7 - she's my little buddy, but I'm also her biggest disciplinarian. I want to be her "friend" for those teenage years so that she knows she can talk to me. But she also knows that my word is law (DH knows that too but that's for another thread! ).

We're going through a difficult time right now because DD's best friend is a girl I don't approve of. I've seen how the parents try to discipline, but this little girl comes over and destroys our house. I'm not comfortable with her hanging out with DD so I've had to be the bad guy and not allow her over very often. Here's hoping DD will find a new BFF this school year!

 

[dzorn]

OK I did not get to read the whole thread, but let me tell you about yesterday and the clueless parent.

We are at a local park having a year end Brownie picnic. Play structure about 30 -40 feet from picnic pavilion where most of the parents are hanging out. We have been there for over 2 hours. My DD are never out of site for more than minute or two. There are several other kids playing. One group has been there for a while. Never saw a parent anywhere near them. One of the little girls starts vomiting. I was startled for a minute, though she was just spitting at first then I realize. I called DD down and start walking over to older child with them (assuming sibling) when another boy runs up to her and says so and so is puking. Girl says go away. He repeats. She does not want to be found because she is playing hide and seek. Meanwhile the girl is vomiting off the bridge (where kids have been running under) an now is standing over the slide vomiting down it. DD are now back at picnic shelter and I walk over to older girl and ask if the girl(pointing) is with her and let her know she is vomiting all over the play structure and she needs to get her off of there.

I go back and start packing up our things since DDs ( or any of the other Brownies) cannot play on play structure now. The older child walks past me griping about vomiting child just eating, along with a few words that should not come out of a child's mouth.

The the mother then comes over and starts getting in my face because I said her kids had to leave. (Which I never but hey a novel idea) She is going on and on about I should have asked for a parent. Which I said if I had seen one in the past 2+ hour I would have. That did not make her any happier. She continues on and on about how you should always speak to a parent and kids twist things around after all her daughter just ate and was "obviously not sick" Meanwhile the poor kid has a clueless mother that should be taking care of her, but is more concerned about telling me off.

The lady had no clue to how stupid she sounded.

 

[tonilea]

Do you all really not say anything to kids misbehaving. I have no problem telling little Johnny or Jenny to behave, particularly if they are being mean to a child or an animal. If the parent has any thing they want to say to me.... well, if you were watching your child, I wouldn't have to say anything.

 

[maymom96]

Not a post about bad kids but people who shouldn't have had children.
I was at a children's carnival type of thing today. I was standing in line with my daughter so she could do this bounce thing. A lady tapped me on the shoulder and asked if this 1.5 year old was mine. I said no to which the woman tells me that the baby has been standing alone for close to 10 minutes. Just then, a volunteer for the carnival picked the baby up and started walking around looking for the parent. So I start looking in the line for anyone who looks similar to the baby or appears to be looking for a missing child. Didn't see anyone.
10 minutes later, a woman starts looking for something. She's looking like you would look for a pen or a pair of shoes. I ask her if she is missing her child and she said yes. I yell "Your baby is over there and has been held by the volunteer for 10 minutes". She walks over, gets her baby and then walks off.
That baby didn't have any attention for close to 20 minutes by the mother or any other person responsible for her. Even a woman standing behind this mom didn't realize the baby belonged to the mom. Someone could have easily walked off with this baby.
Or my other gripe. The carnival offered a carseat check. I decided to see if my daughters booster was fitting properly. I waited in line for an hour before I finally left because it would have been another hour because of parents who don't have a brain. There was the dad who had his 2 year old in the front seat because the backseat didn't have working seat belts. Or the mom with 7 kids who can't fit all the kids in her car so her mom has to follow her in a separate car to haul the rest of the kids. This is the same mom who yelled to me "You in line for your free carseat too?" All I could do was shake my head in disbelief.

 

[averysmom]

I sometimes feel bad for my kids, because on many MANY occasions a group of kids will be doing something wrong (my kids included) and I am the ONLY parent disciplining / doing something about it.

I HATE the lines "boys will be boys" and "they are just having fun".

I am also a teacher, and you'd be shocked at the lengths that parents go to to "protect" their kids. Parents lie and cheat, all in the names of their kids.

 

[sdoll]

My biggest pet peeve however....kids that go up a slide the wrong way. We spend a lot of time at parks and my DD knows she is not allowed to go up a slide the wrong way and the kids that are allowed, drive me bananas. She and I were at a water park last summer and went down a slide together, in the kiddie area mind you, and collided with 2 boys, probably 8/9 years old, because they were going up the $%$% water slide. I was LIVID to say the least. Not only did I let them have it, but I let the teenage lifeguard have a piece of my mind too.

That is mine too. I get so mad when parents let their kids do that. My son tried it once after watching some kids do it. He was stopped immediately by me. Why don't other parents see how rude that is?

 

[livndisney]

My biggest pet peeve however....kids that go up a slide the wrong way. We spend a lot of time at parks and my DD knows she is not allowed to go up a slide the wrong way and the kids that are allowed, drive me bananas. She and I were at a water park last summer and went down a slide together, in the kiddie area mind you, and collided with 2 boys, probably 8/9 years old, because they were going up the $%$% water slide. I was LIVID to say the least. Not only did I let them have it, but I let the teenage lifeguard have a piece of my mind too.

That is mine too. I get so mad when parents let their kids do that. My son tried it once after watching some kids do it. He was stopped immediately by me. Why don't other parents see how rude that is?

And dangerous! This drives me CRAZY. I have seen more feet coming down the slide connecting to a head going UP the slide. If they MEANT for you to go up the slide WHY do slides come with steps?

 

[DisneyFed]

Wow, I guess I didn't realize this was that prevalent?? I think it's sad...my parents brought me up right, and I'm thankful for it, that's for sure

Absolutely true!!!! I've lived in Ohio, SC, and now Florida, and actually I consider the kids in DD's school here in FL to be the absolute worst!

Kara...my wife works for the Duval County School District---and we also lived in SC before hand....she agrees with you 100%...

 

[pixiewings71]

Do you all really not say anything to kids misbehaving. I have no problem telling little Johnny or Jenny to behave, particularly if they are being mean to a child or an animal. If the parent has any thing they want to say to me.... well, if you were watching your child, I wouldn't have to say anything.

I will speak up if I feel it's warranted. If not I stay quiet, there are some situations where you should just keep it to yourself but sometimes you need to speak up.

 

[twinspluscade]

My biggest pet peeve however....kids that go up a slide the wrong way. We spend a lot of time at parks and my DD knows she is not allowed to go up a slide the wrong way and the kids that are allowed, drive me bananas. She and I were at a water park last summer and went down a slide together, in the kiddie area mind you, and collided with 2 boys, probably 8/9 years old, because they were going up the $%$% water slide. I was LIVID to say the least. Not only did I let them have it, but I let the teenage lifeguard have a piece of my mind too.

That is mine too. I get so mad when parents let their kids do that. My son tried it once after watching some kids do it. He was stopped immediately by me. Why don't other parents see how rude that is?

Heh heh....guess I win the Worst Parent of the Year award, because I do let my kids go up the slide when we're the only ones at the park--which is often, since I live in a really small town. They know they can't if other kids are wanting to come down, but otherwise I let them have at it.

 

[almburr]

The scary thing is that these kids are going to grow up as brats, completely unaware that there's another world out there... a kinder, gentler world that does not revolve around them. They'll never understand the ideas of respect and consideration, because they were simply never exposed to those concepts.

At some point in their lives, they'll learn that lesson, and it will be a rude awakening indeed.

Watch MTV super sweet sixteen this is what kids who are being raised as best friends to thier parents not as parent and child. It makes me sick how kids think they are so entitled to everything just because thay want it. I dont care if Im a mean mom sometimes I think my kids like bounderies.

 

[anabelle]

I have a story that fits into this topic.

A couple of years back we were at church and a mother of 4 boys finds me to tell me that my son attacked her baby (he was maybe 11 at the time). Now my son who was the same age, wouldn't hurt a fly. I find my son and he is crying his eyes out. He just kept apologizing. I finally calmed him down and told the mother I would deal with it. It turns out that that his sunday school boy classmates had found out that my son was taking Karate. They thought it would be funny to jump him from behind. The kid ,who's mother let me have it, jumped on my son's back and another kid grabbed his legs from behind. Well my son has been in Karate for years and his instincts kicked in. He proceeded to free himself and throw them against the wall. They both came at him at this point. That is when the mom saw what was happening and started to let my son have it. A friend of mine who is a very large state trooper witnessed the whole thing. He comes up to me an confirms the story. He then proceeds to "discuss" it with the moms of both boys. The other mom had the audacity to tell me that I needed to let the other parents know that my son was in karate so that they could explain it to their children that my son was dangerous. I assured her that he understood that karate is for self defense, so he used it appropriately. To her credit, the first mom did apologize to my son for her behavior. But she chalked up her son's behavior as "boys will be boys"