OT: "OMG! Your Mom Has A Tongue Ring!"

[Amirah95]

That's what my DD's friends noticed the other day as I dropped her off to her swim lessons. OK so I have a tongue ring and I was going to get a tattoo sometime after I'm finished breastfeeding, but now I'm kind of rethinking the whole thing because if my DD asked me if she could have a piercing other than ears or a tat I'd flat out say, "no, not until you're 21!" She hasn't asked yet.

Should I remove my tongue ring now permanently? Should I not get a tat since my time has passed? Any other Dis Mom's who have special piercings and tats? I don't want to feel like or be a hypocrite. Mind you I've had my special piercing for a very long time (way before my DD) and I didn't get it until I was 21...by my DM's request.

 

[Sailorwife]

I got my navel pierced when I turned 32 and a tat in the small of my back as a surprise for my husband when he returned from a 6 month deployment. I have told my daughter that I was an adult when I did it so when she is 18 she can do what she wants with her body.

Go ahead and get a tat if you want to. Just remember it is permanent so chose carefully!!

 

[Makdyn]

I had my belly done twice ( one got infected and the other time I was pregnant) and my libre twice (both had to be taking out for jobs). Eventually I plan on getting a tat, but I am scared and not sure what I want.

I really dont think anything is wrong with it. My aunt got a tat when she turned 40. I say go for it you only live once.

 

[ThunderMTexpert]

YOU'RE the momma, you get to say, "Not until you're out of my house, or 18." Or, whatever you decide. No questions. YOU could afford to 1. pay for the ring/tatt yourself, 2. take care of it, 3. sign for it, etc. I don't think you're being a hypocrite. Honestly. She/he may have a special piercing if they'd like when they are grown. As for now? Go get your tattoo!!

 

[eh24fan]

Go for it!! I'm 29, have 2 kids and would love to get one more tattoo. I have 2, only one of them is visible when clothed adn even that one only when I'm wearing shorts or a skirt. It's on the inside of my left ankle. the other is on my lower right back. If and when I get another one, it will be something that I can cover if needed.

 

[pixiewings71]

It's your body, you're an adult. Do what you want. I have a large tribal butterfly tat in the middle of my back. I LOVE it! I did it for very personal reasons and it means something to me. I want another one but haven't designed it yet. It too will mean something to me. I also have my belly button pierced (got it at 31) and I have extra piercings in my right ear (tragus and cartiledge). I'm lucky enough to work someplace where it doesn't matter if we have piercings or tats so I wouldn't have to take anything out or cover anything up. My s.o. has his tongue pierced, his company doesn't care either. I have 3 DD's, one is 19, one is almost 11, one is 7. They are not allowed to get any piercings other than ear lobes until they are 18, after that they are adults and they can do what they want, as long as they pay for it. My oldest has her belly button pierced (I actually paid for that, it was her 18th b-day gift) and her tongue pierced. The younger 2 have once piercing in each ear. They aren't in any hurry to get anything else.

 

[laceemouse]

Not that any of you care what I think, but I think both things are gross! I think piercing anywhere but on the ears look painful, it literally hurts me to look at them! And tats to me just look dirty, like someone has written on themselves with a marker and it won't wash off. I also think both things look crude, like something an old sailor with a filthy mouth would have, And when a person gets old and the skin gets saggy and rough, YUK!! However, I am probably way older than most of you....
My oldest dd got here ears pierced for her 16th birthday and was scared to death to do that. Anything else they want to do when they are adults is their business. As long as they take into consideration what other old fuddy-duddies like me think about junk like that!
Go ahead and flame, just my opinion here. I was just raised in a different time and place.......

 

[xipetotec]

That's what my DD's friends noticed the other day as I dropped her off to her swim lessons. OK so I have a tongue ring and I was going to get a tattoo sometime after I'm finished breastfeeding, but now I'm kind of rethinking the whole thing because if my DD asked me if she could have a piercing other than ears or a tat I'd flat out say, "no, not until you're 21!" She hasn't asked yet.

Should I remove my tongue ring now permanently? Should I not get a tat since my time has passed? Any other Dis Mom's who have special piercings and tats? I don't want to feel like or be a hypocrite. Mind you I've had my special piercing for a very long time (way before my DD) and I didn't get it until I was 21...by my DM's request.

I don't think there's anything wrong with saying she has to wait till she's 21. It's a big decision, especially with some of the more creative piercings ( and ESPECIALLY with tattoos!!! ).

I myself have two tattoos and I have my nipples and septum pierced and my kids think nothing of it. DW has a double labret and her nose pierced. Our kids just think we're "cool parents" ...

If you want a tattoo, I say go for it! And no, definitely don't take out the tongue ring if it's for any other reason than you don't like it anymore!

 

[james'mommy]

I have 2 tattoos. I got my first one when I was 18, which was not a good idea. For years I had wanted to cover it up. I finally got a new tattoo to cover the old last year at the age of 31. This march I got another tattoo. A small mickey at the small of my back (DH calls it my hidden mickey). I say if you want to get a tattoo go ahead and get one. My DS4 has already asked why mommy and daddy's tattoos are permanent but the one's he gets are temporary. I nicely explained to him that he could get a permanent one when he was 18 but that he might want to wait because 18 year olds don't always make the smartest choices.

 

[bumbershoot]

I was just raised in a different time and place.......

I don't think it's right to say that you feel the way you feel b/c of your age. My FIL, who just died Thanksgiving at 79, was a kid in the Depression and therefore was definitely born in a different time and place, and HE had several tattooes.

Then again, he was an old sailor.



To the OP, do what you want. If anything, piercings being something her MOM does might make her think twice about it in the future. Although I did get a second ear piercing on one side at 15 because that's when my mom did HER second piercing on one side (I did it at a mall place while she did it with ice and needle at her friend's house), most everything else naughty she did, I held off on. All that hippie, Grateful Dead, sorts of things...she did when younger (stopped entirely at 35 when she woke up in a massive asthma attack and realized she HAD TO stop smoking everything and get her asthma under control or we would have to live with our then-useless dad if she died), I knew she did, and it just looked so BORING to me. Years later when I had boyfriends that were into all of that it just made me laugh, b/c they were acting like my mom and her friends... Man oh man they didn't like me, LOL.


If my mom had had a tattoo, I very likely wouldn't have gotten one, so if you might not want her to, that might be a very good way to keep her from it.

 

[daisyduck123]

Not that any of you care what I think, but I think both things are gross! I think piercing anywhere but on the ears look painful, it literally hurts me to look at them! And tats to me just look dirty, like someone has written on themselves with a marker and it won't wash off. I also think both things look crude, like something an old sailor with a filthy mouth would have, And when a person gets old and the skin gets saggy and rough, YUK!! However, I am probably way older than most of you....
My oldest dd got here ears pierced for her 16th birthday and was scared to death to do that. Anything else they want to do when they are adults is their business. As long as they take into consideration what other old fuddy-duddies like me think about junk like that!
Go ahead and flame, just my opinion here. I was just raised in a different time and place.......

I'm not that old & ITA with you...but to each his own.

 

[ilovejack02]

You arent a hypocrite to say she cant have anything pierced or tattooed until she is on her own or 18 ( note I didnt say 21.. cuz legally no need for your permission after 18). There are many things that children cant do , that adults can.

 

[ForeverDance]

DH has quite a few tats and I have a couple myself. DS and DD know that they can not have one until they are adults and have no problems with that. I think they understand it is "an adult thing to do".

Side bar: it could be worse... it took me years to be able to get DD to understand why she shouldn't have a baby young like mommy. Talk about looking like a hypocrite

 

[Rowlf]

Do what you want! I hate this "I'm a mother now, so I don't get to have any fun" idea. I'm working on the design for my second tattoo and will be getting more piercings in the next year or so.

And I sell software to the federal goverment! I just don't get things I can't cover at work.

 

[luvsmickeymouse]

I got a tatoo on my ankle when I turned 40! LOL! I am trying to design another one for my other ankle. I say go for it. My almost 20 year old college son just got one on his back. I like his alot. Life is too short! Have fun!

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Here's my take on it. I had my navel pierced twice before I had kids. That hole is now long closed. I will never pierce it again. I also have a tattoo on my ankle that I got in college. I will never let my kids get anything other than their ears pierced and I will never okay a tattoo either. I will sooner get mine removed than have them get one. Don't get me wrong- I love tattoos but I don't want my kids perfect little bodies marked up. I know it's a weird way to think but that's my feeling on it. I also don't think that once you become a Mom you have to be a fuddy duddy, I just think that once you are past a certain age it looks ridiculous to have your whole head pierced. I really don't like it at a younger age either but at least you have youth and stupidity or rebeliousness on your side. At some point to me it just looks like you are holding on. Let it go!!! JMHO.

 

[Steph9072]

I have a tattoo also. I have told my kids and step kid that I will never sign for them to have one. But on their 18th Birthday I will drive them down to get one. As for piercings I have told dd that she can have her ears and belly done when she is older she is only 6 now. I refuse to sign for any facial piercings. If when she is old enough to decide and sign herself she can go for it.

 

[Disney_Dreaming]

I have two tattoos and I hate them! I'm glad I didn't pay for them since an ex-boyfriend put them on. I'm planning on getting them laser removed which I'm sure will be expensive but I don't care!

 

[solferino]

I got my first tattoo at 33 and now have 3. I only have a wee bit of regret for one of them, and that's because of the placement.

I also have a pierced tragus and nostril. I pierced my nose to celebrate turning 30

 

[northriver]

Sorry I did not have time to read all the replies, but I want to share my observations. I go to the municipal swimming pool several times a week with my kids and I'd estimate that about 25-50% of the parents have some kind of tatoo - I don't look close enough to check on piercings!

Unpierced/untatooed parents will be in the minority soon (I'm one of them). Don't worry about what the kids think - or the other parents for that matter. It is totally normal. Get your new tatoo and enjoy!