OT - is this a "bad" word?

[stout]

"Duh" is a bad word and must not be used in the house. Honestly, I said it the other day while joking around with DH and promptly got yelled at by the little language cop. I assume that she learned that at school, which I am happy about, but really . . . "duh"? If that is the worst word we use in the house, . . .

 

[sbsteel]

It was in our house growing up. We were allowed to say "that stinks" but not "that sucks".

I use it every so often, but I still don't say it around my mom (even though I randomly swear).

 

[JamesMom]

My kids (DS7 & DS5) haven't used 'sucks' yet, but we have had 'discussions' about other words & phrases.
We don't say in this house
- stupid
- shut up
- whatever
- what the heck or other forms. Substitute: 'what in the world?' I even correct one of my kids friends whom this is their favorite phrase when he visits
- OMG or Jesus or any form thereof. We treat the names of God with respect. Oh my gosh, or oh my word is acceptable.
And of course all the words on George Carlin's profanity list will be on ours, too

I think after reading these posts that 'sucks' will also be banned and substittuted with 'stinks'. I try, as a decent person, to not use foul language, but my husband slips and he is the one I need to correct most often

 

[Tink-n-MrIncredible]

Yes, I also think it is an inappropriate word to say. I do not appreciate it when people use that word and curse or other questionable words. Every word that comes out of someones mouth is clearely an indcation of who they are and what they think of themself (in my opinion). When you use those type of words you open yourself up to people talking to you in "anyway". I have always taught my children that "pretty girls say pretty words and nasty girls say nasty words", "nice boys say nice words and nasty and dirty boys say nasty and dirty words ". Call me crazy or old. This is just my .02.

 

[mommykds]

I am 42 & I still know better than to say that word in front of my mother. She gets very annoyed when I have.

I personally do not like to hear that from my kids. It's meaning has changed to mean "stinks" nowadays but I still don't want my kids saying it. JMHO.

 

[tigger51276]

Really? I would rather have kids using "bad" words than teaching them that hitting is OK.

Really?!?! I am amazed that you would rather your child talk in a disrespectful manor whether to you, your wife or someone else than discipline them. I'm not saying that if I heard my DD say a swear word that I would hit her, that is what my mom did and you know what as a kid it worked, I knew better and if I got caught saying it I knew I would get hit or grounded. I do not make a habit of hitting my kids but I am typically able to use the "look" or time out effectively. Granted my DD's are still young. I have overheard my DD6 use swear words and the "look" has worked and a firm reminder not to say that word again. The one time she actually used a word to me in a knowing manor, I slapped her mouth and you know what she has never used that word again. In my house those words are completely unacceptable...does this mean I am perfect, god no, I confess I use them but I am also an adult and try very hard to limit those words around my kids. I guess it's just a matter of how one was raised and most likely geographics. I was quite shocked by some of the responses here so I polled my friends/family/parents of DD's friends and 95% of them were appalled by the fact that parents would be okay with sucks and worse words regardless of how they are being used. Definitely an eye opener of a topic, but to each his own, each parent has their own limitations and style of parenting and whatever works in your home is your business.

 

[Planogirl]

In my house, those words are fine if they pertain to anything besides people. I don't like hearing disrespect shown to people even if some might deserve it. Of course, I'm talking about a 17 year old.

 

[angierae]

I has never occurred to me for "sucks" to be a bad word. Seriously.

Of course, I tell DD15 that I know she swears around her friends, as do I, but out of respect for her I don't swear in front of her, and out of respect for ME she isn't to swear in front of me.

She slips occasionally. So do I. Life goes on. To me, they're only words, but you should be respectful of the people around you when you're using them, and if they are likely to offend, you should watch your language.

 

[mjkacmom]

I has never occurred to me for "sucks" to be a bad word. Seriously.

Of course, I tell DD15 that I know she swears around her friends, as do I, but out of respect for her I don't swear in front of her, and out of respect for ME she isn't to swear in front of me.

She slips occasionally. So do I. Life goes on. To me, they're only words, but you should be respectful of the people around you when you're using them, and if they are likely to offend, you should watch your language.

That sounds like my dd14. I'm good friends with her bff's mom, and the mom told me that all of the girls curse. Dd rarely doesn in front of me, but sometimes slips. I this "suck," "crap," and "damn" are crass, but not as low as cursing. I remember my oldest telling me she was put on red at school, in 3rd grade, for using the "c" word, and I was . Thank goodness it was crap!

 

[njmomtoone]

To me it depends on the context. My kids don't really say "suck" but they do say "stupid" as in this is so stupid, which to me is not a big deal at all, and not a curse word. I feel the same about suck, to me it means stink, so I wouldn't care f my kids said "this sucks".
However they aren't allowed to call anyone stupid, and they woudln't be allowed to tell anyone they suck. There are far worse words I don't allow, these two aren't even a blip on my radar.

I agree with the wrod stupid. Everyone makes such a big deal about the word. As I have explained to my 8 year old, he is to never call someone stupid, however, there are times that a book, a movie, etc. can be stupid.

 

[ENSOCK]

Trust me at 10 they are using words worse than sucks! Stand where they can not see you and listen. No sucks is not that bad!

 

[bjscheel]

It's not that bad, but I sure thought it was unattractive coming out of my little girls mouths so I decided that it would on the no-no list. Along with freakin.

DD9 has taken to making up words that I think are so much more fun...Shuckerpoodles...Kaboosh...and dare I say it? Pooperchunks.

 

[Gr8t Fan]

It's not something I like my kids to say, but it's not the end of the world either.

 

[Ava]

I don't think "sucks" is a curse word but it's definitely not a nice word. I use it, but I'm trying really hard not to say it in front of my DD. She's become a parrott so I'm trying to nicen up my language in front of her - no more "sucks" or "stupid."

 

[kirstenb1]

Really?!?! I am amazed that you would rather your child talk in a disrespectful manor whether to you, your wife or someone else than discipline them. I'm not saying that if I heard my DD say a swear word that I would hit her, that is what my mom did and you know what as a kid it worked, I knew better and if I got caught saying it I knew I would get hit or grounded. I do not make a habit of hitting my kids but I am typically able to use the "look" or time out effectively. Granted my DD's are still young. I have overheard my DD6 use swear words and the "look" has worked and a firm reminder not to say that word again. The one time she actually used a word to me in a knowing manor, I slapped her mouth and you know what she has never used that word again. In my house those words are completely unacceptable...does this mean I am perfect, god no, I confess I use them but I am also an adult and try very hard to limit those words around my kids. I guess it's just a matter of how one was raised and most likely geographics. I was quite shocked by some of the responses here so I polled my friends/family/parents of DD's friends and 95% of them were appalled by the fact that parents would be okay with sucks and worse words regardless of how they are being used. Definitely an eye opener of a topic, but to each his own, each parent has their own limitations and style of parenting and whatever works in your home is your business.

Now see, we all have different "bad" words. I don't know how to quote just one phrase from your post, but in my family, blasphemy is the worst.

"Sucks" doesn't bother me, nor do other minor swear words. But if either of my kids were to say "g_d no" like you did, I'd call them out, and they'd be in trouble.

 

[Mrs. Charming]

As far as I'm concerned, no. It's not.

 

[tigger51276]

Now see, we all have different "bad" words. I don't know how to quote just one phrase from your post, but in my family, blasphemy is the worst.

"Sucks" doesn't bother me, nor do other minor swear words. But if either of my kids were to say "g_d no" like you did, I'd call them out, and they'd be in trouble.

I absolutely agree with you which is why god is not capitalized as when you capitalize the word you are using it to mean the "being" of God. But no my child does not use the word god as a swear word either. The difference here is whether or not it's acceptable for a CHILD to be using these types of words, not kids. I've already admitted that I am not perfect and do use cuss words, I just try my hardest not to use them in front of my children.

 

[ancestry]

I'm surprised that so many people think sucks is a bad word. I don't get the sexual connotation that some have connected to it. Sucks just means that something stinks (not the smell sense of stinks). I don't think it is a bad word. My children are not permitted to swear around me or other adults but sucks is not a swear word in my book by any stretch of the imagination.

 

[hipchickie]

Really? I would rather have kids using "bad" words than teaching them that hitting is OK.

I am a little surprised to see so many people where "stupid" and "shut up" is not allowed...I always though that was my own little pet peeve I always say I would rather hear my child "swear" than use those words

 

[MommytoaSweetie]

I don't think it's the worst word out there for sure, but I do think it's not a nice word for our house. Granted, our kids are much younger, so we haven't had to deal with much - if our oldest has said something questionable like "stupid" or "dumb," we've corrected it just letting her know it's not a nice word to use and we want to express kindness with our words. We also don't use the word "Gosh" in our house, because it comes from "God," and we don't say Oh My God... we may relax more when our girls get older, but it just seems weird to me to hear a 3 year old say Oh My Gosh! (and I don't like that Darby says it on Tigger&Pooh, but we've discussed why we don't in our house, and our 3 year old hasn't said it again). In response to the original post, if it was another kid who was saying "sucks," I wouldn't worry about it much... I was a preschool teacher before having kids, and there were way younger children saying way worse stuff. It just would be a word we use in our family.