OT: Has anyone noticed a difference in the boards?

[ilandrazdsw]

I'll probably get more flames for this...but *quite a few* DISers have seemed to become down right hostle on the boards lately. We use the boards to share stories (good and bad), gain tips and ideas, and even vent. I have not been on the boards long, only since November, but in the last few months *some* of the members just get nasty if your ideas, morals, or vents don't match up with theirs. Rather than just read and continue or calmly write their position they *slam* the OP and any others that support him/her. Sure, those that disagree with me will say don't put it on the boards if you don't want an opposing view, but then that would also prohibit the OP from getting postitve feedback (from both sides of the issue).

Am I the only one who see this?

Personally, I want to see both sides of the issue. If I am wrong or there is another side/option to the issue I do accept it, but that doesn't necessarily mean I am changing my mind about what I am doing or venting about. In fact when I am *slammed* I am less likely to even take what is being posted and learn from it than if the post was writting in a respectful tone.

Ok, vent over.

 

[Lucky'sMom]

Yes, I have noticed this as well. The posts that always make me mad are when people feel the need to leave an angry remark to an OP about how his/her question has already been asked so many times, and why don't they just do a search for the answer. If YOU don't want to answer someone's question then don't. But there's no need to make anyone here feel like a nuisance or that his/her question is unimportant.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

Been on here a long time and to me its no more than usual.

 

[SLK1]

I was thinking it seems to have gotten nicer! It's easy for people to be "mean" behind the comfort of their computer - probably the mean ones are the meekest and mildest out in public, afraid of their own shadow, and take it out on the invisible posters. You would never speak to someone in person that way, much like you would never cut someone off in a crowded mall, but in the safety of their car, people cut others off, honk their horns, and much worse. I don't post many questions anymore because there are those that kind of take the fun out of the boards!

 

[disneybridetobe]

You know, it's funny, I was talking to DH about this same thing today. I've been around since 2006 (so almost 3 years) and it seems to me that people are getting a little more.. um.. nitpicky? (to put it nicely)

 

[Juliet25]

Been on here a long time and to me its no more than usual.

That's my impression as well. I never post an OP on the DIS unless I'm prepared to get flamed. No matter the issue, lol.

 

[powellrj]

I think its been nicer too. I haven't seen many locked threads lately. There have been times that there have been several on just one page when you get a hot and heavy debate on one of the hot buttons.

 

[disneymom2one]

Same here. I've been here almost as long.

I've been on other large communities (and moderated them too) and have had some downright awful experiences. The Dis is pretty tame actually (compared to what I've seen).

I do think (in general) that people say things on a message board that they would never say in person. The relative anonymity of the Internet tends to make people a little more bold - a good thing sometimes - and a not so good thing other times.

Been on here a long time and to me its no more than usual.

 

[Stephres]

I think the family board has always been nicer than the community board. I rarely post over there because it seems so cliquish and people will go off for no reason.

I think the judgmental people come and go. Most people want to help and share their experiences and that's why I like to post here.

 

[Cinderella]

This has always been a problem - (maybe you're just noticing it more lately) it can happen for a lot of reasons and it's best to ignore it. Sometimes people don't mean to be hostile at all - it's just the way they write. But there are some who don't seem to believe in freedom of speech at all.

When I used to moderate the resorts board, nobody could say anything bad about a particular resort, without being attacked by a whole heap of people. That sucks, *** folk really need to know the pros and cons when choosing were to stay.

Dining is another difficult area. The other day, a poster asked for opinions on their dining choices, so I gave mine (I don't like seeing people waste their time and money on a bad meal). Next thing, a relative of the OP was complaining *** she chose the restaurants and didn't like that not everyone thought they were great choices. I just don't understand why folk ask for opinions if they don't want honest ones.

Do bear in mind that there's certain topics you need to avoid, if you don't want to be flamed though. Folk who like to pool hop to all the other resorts, or make multiple ADR's and don't cancel the ones they don't use, generally attract a heap of angry comments, with good reason. Nobody wants to encourage practises that have a negative impact on other people's vacation.

PS: For some reason every time I write the word "***" for "because" it gets edited out. Does it have some other meaning that I'm not aware of? I'd hate to think I was saying something rude and not knowing.

 

[crisi]

Been on here a long time and to me its no more than usual.

Agreed. Its been much worse at times, and I can't really think of when its been better.

 

[MinnieVanMom]

Just post pool hopping, using last years refill mug, sharing a meal and you open the usual can of worms. But there does seem to be a group that just loves to stir up trouble. As they say, don't feed the troll.

Just because people post on the internet doesn't make it the truth. Heck there is a prince in Istambul that promises to give me back 4x's my money if I send him my bank account information to free his father the king! People can be anything and say anything on the net but it doesn't make it true. It is just words typed down.

Hopefully the good people will keep being nice and the other, we just ignore them. Don't feed the trolls.

 

[ilandrazdsw]

I do notice that some of the "rooms" are nicer than others, like the family & budget rooms. Haven't seen too many harsh threads on the resorts (not on that one much) or resturants...but pools, the electric wheelchairs, and even education WATCHOUT!!! I just love being told I am a bad or irresponsible parent too in education and car seat threads. LOL

Maybe it was just coming to the boards over the Christmas (Holiday) season that people had the holiday spirit (or maybe didn't have the time to be on) and now into the year we all need a trip to Disney

 

[Kaler131]

Just because people post on the internet doesn't make it the truth. Heck there is a prince in Istambul that promises to give me back 4x's my money if I send him my bank account information to free his father the king!

 

[mom2faith]

I went off last week, I think it was the first time I went off my entire time on the DIS. But, I was having a bad day and the comment just hit me the worng way. I was immediately called out by another DISer and she was right, I was being sensitive and I had to BUCK UP or get off the boards I stated in my very mext post that I was having a toushy day and made a joke.

One thing we all have to remember is we do not know what kind of day everyone else has been having, and while we all use these boards as an excape, sometimes you cannot escape from what is happening in your real life and if affects your posts.

Overall I think this is a very positive place to post. I am one who appreciates the repeat questions, because now that I am not a newbie, I get to answer them instead of being the one to ask them

Have a good day everyone!!

 

[Lewisc]

A few years ago there were some nasty threads regarding children vs adult "credits" with the dining plan. Mug "abuse". Pool hopping. I agree there is a difference but I think it's positive not negative. I see fewer locked threads.

Occassionaly a poster won't be happy when other posters don't agree with them but that's nothing new.

 

[disneyjunkie]

Been on here a long time and to me its no more than usual.

 

[JerseyMamaBear]

have seen some radom acts of nastiness but this is nothing compared to the weight loss boards I used to post on. I dont know if its the lack of food to their brains but those chicks are big b's

 

[lrab1126]

yep i have been on the receiving end of 2 different "hostile" people in the last couple of weeks and over nothing ! I was so PO'd

 

[RN01]

Yes, I agree 100%. Some people can be downright rude. There is one in particular that I won't mention because she is on here all the time but I read her history and she was slamming probably 50% of the responses she wrote. You know what we tell kids... If you can't say something nice...