OT, dealing with an addiction of a loved one :(

[miss missy]

I could write a book about what is going on in my life right now.

Arg! I keep typing and deleting, not sure what to say here. I don't even know what the heck I am writing to accomplish really. yep, confused

I am usually a thread killer so I am afraid this will be one of the post that end up lost somewhere.

I guess I just feel kinda burnt out at the moment.
I am in a situation that is similair to Pete's, it's "addiction" but I am on the opposite end than Pete, and I am the closest family member. I am aware of the road I am traveling, as it has been years now, but it still doesn't make it any easier. I love rollercoasters, but not this one. ---sad face here--- I am healthy in knowing what I can and can't do, trust me, in that I am confident, I do not do anything without thinking through or researchng it first. Almost to a fault.

But man Oh man the challenges I face and decisions I have to make in one day would make your head spin, mine is... Oh have you seen it over there? If so please send it back

I am lucky to have my dear dear DH, DD, MIL and friends to keep me lifted up! I would never make it without them. insert goodvibes here

I guess I just needed to post... to just go:



OMG look at all those feeling I chose! Thats how I feel all in one day. I had to edit the images down to 25 on this post he he he

But I choose or <---- podcast wish I could or . to WDW !!!! I don't know what I would do without the podcasts!!!!!!! and the boards to keep my mind off all this when I get a chance.

I have a trip with DD (15) coming up in a couple weeks, it is keeping me going. Ahhh my escape It could not of come at a better time ...

if you made it this far.... Thanks for reading!!

 

[calypso*a*go-go]

Sounds to me like you just need to take things one day at a time and try to deal with these issues on an individual basis as they come up. I'm happy to see you have some supportive people around you and hope things get better for you soon.

 

[~Fisharefriends~]

sound sto me like you need a everyone needs to let it out sometimes .

 

[GabbyMom]

I'm sorry your going through this.

hoping it gets better

 

[safetymom]

Sometimes you just have to take life minutes at a time. We do have a coping and compassion board here on the DIS if you feel the need to talk about it or need support.

 

[CinderellasSister]

addictions are always had to deal with, for ALL involved. like others have said, take it one day at a time, one problem at a time. and make sure you use that support system you have. Good luck with the decisions you need to make.

 

[alebisi]

I know a bit what you are dealing with I have a very near relative that is passing through and addiction. I know you don't know at the time what to do, but as other have said try to take life day by day and things would be much clearer to you in your head. Try to feel happier by thinking of the trip you are going to do with your daughter. I know listening to the podcast and writing on the boards will cheer you up, and most important we are here to cheer you up! we are all friends!
Hope everything will be fine for you, and I'll send you lots of pixie dust

 

[kab407]

Having been married to an alcoholic, I understand. You take it minute-by-minute, hour-by-hour or day-by-day, what ever gets you thru. Your are not alone in this journey.

 

[BRobson]

Sounds to me like you just need to take things one day at a time and try to deal with these issues on an individual basis as they come up. I'm happy to see you have some supportive people around you and hope things get better for you soon.

Sometimes you just have to take life minutes at a time. We do have a coping and compassion board here on the DIS if you feel the need to talk about it or need support.

Good words of wisdom

I am glad you have a trip coming up so you can escape for a while.

What I have learnt from the DIS there is always someone here to listen no matter what you have to say and no matter what time of day it is



and here is a big cyber too

 

[disneyholic family]

i wish i has some words of wisdom to share.....
i hope things get better....

 

[UrsulasShadow]

Hang in there, Missy. We're pulling for you.

 

[NWOhioAngela]

 

[peacelovemickey]

Hugs, prayers and pixie dust!

 

[IWISHFORDISNEY]

I am right there with you. Kind of why I have been sorta quiet lately. I am dealing with alot with my sister and brother and major addiction problems that are ending in financial crisis. I try to forget about it but I cant. Everything my parents worked for their entire lives is going down the drain. So sad. I feel your pain. It is so hard. We are here for you and you are not alone.

 

[burberryplaid]

I just wanted to let you know I hope it all works out. Hang in there!

 

[hanco005]

Hang in there. I know that easier typed than done, but you have a lot of support from this community.

 

[miss missy]

Thanks everyone! I know I am not alone in it, with all your comforting words!

Gosh, drama before I went to bed, drama when I woke up. (I work night shift so I am opposite the rest of the world- how fitting LOL)

I know I can't change it or stop it. I can only find the place in me where I will be at peace with how I handle it. It isn't just the addicted person, it also involves the spouse, and mental illness and children. Unfortunatly, I am the only one in both of their lives that isn't in that same world they are in. They have no one but me and DH, which makes it harder to limit our involvement. But right now my plan is to find my place and stick to it. To not take on what isn't mine or what effects my families daily life.

I will be OK in the end I am sure. Just gotta work at keeping my family healthy through it.

Thanks, I am sure I will be around venting for a long long time

 

[WaltD4Me]

Addiction is an awful, awful thing for everyone involved. The addicted person and their loved ones. I'm sure you know, there is only so much you can do. You cannot force, threaten, beg, plead or guilt someone into recovery. It took me a very long time to come to terms with this. Please, please take care of YOU.

 

[MsLeFever]

{{{Missy}}}}

I can't recommend AlAnon highly enough - awesome strategies and great support.
Good Luck

 

[MerriePoppins]

Thanks everyone! I know I am not alone in it, with all your comforting words!

Gosh, drama before I went to bed, drama when I woke up. (I work night shift so I am opposite the rest of the world- how fitting LOL)

I know I can't change it or stop it. I can only find the place in me where I will be at peace with how I handle it. It isn't just the addicted person, it also involves the spouse, and mental illness and children. Unfortunatly, I am the only one in both of their lives that isn't in that same world they are in. They have no one but me and DH, which makes it harder to limit our involvement. But right now my plan is to find my place and stick to it. To not take on what isn't mine or what effects my families daily life.

I will be OK in the end I am sure. Just gotta work at keeping my family healthy through it.

Thanks, I am sure I will be around venting for a long long time

Missy,
Sorry to hear that you are going through so much. Stay strong and keep the communication open with your DH. Focus on each day at and time. I like your plan of " not taking on what isn't yours".

Prayers are coming your way...

Take some quiet time out for yourself when you can.....hot bubble bath....aahhh, read a book, LISTEN TO THE PODCAST etc.

Feel free to come here and vent whenever you need to....

We're here for you....