OT - DD not sleeping through the night anymore! **UPDATE PAGE 6**

[emmababy]

I didnt ask for a bunch of varying opinions on parenting styles, now did I? If I had, the title would have stated - "Attachment parenting - I do it! Do you agree with me?" But that wasnt what this was about. So, I am the one who reacted natily? Re-read the replies.

Oh, I am sorry, did you have a reply to my intial post, or are you just having a bad day, so you needed to come in and gripe about something? That is what I find rude.

No, I don't have a reply to your original post, because you have so clearly decided that you don't want anyone's response. You can't dictate how people on a public forum are going to respond. If there was a certain response you were looking for, then do your own research instead of asking opinions. There is no need for you to berate a bunch of people you don't know. I am having a great day. It looks like you are the one who has a stick wedged in an awfully tight space!

 

[emmababy]

Oh wait, nevermind. I see you are over 37 weeks pregnant. I excuse your rudeness.

I am not the one being rude. You have personally attacked several people on this website. Just let it go and move on.

 

[emmababy]

I didn't read emmababy's post/suggestion as rude at all--a voice of logic and reason minus the emotional response.

What i do think is rude--bringing her pregnancy to topic; had nothing to do with it.

Thank you!

 

[mamaLori05]

retracting my post

 

[Jenvenza]

I'm afraid to post but here I go.

Our daughter has been an avid night sleeper since two months old. When she does cry out (literally just loud whiny cries, not crying like she needs something or is hurt) a couple times before we go to bed, we give her Tylenol when we go to bed. That quiets her down. 98% of the time, it's been teething. The other 2% were after a day of travelling, but we know what they say about hindsight.

It's easy to blame teething for everything, but a lot of times that's what it is. Our daughter never wakes up despite how hard she is crying. Sometimes she breaks into full tears. I then wake her up just to end the dream or whatever. DH just rubs her back.

But for a complete change in sleep behavior, it's either developmental or teeth. My opinion is that a little Tylenol will never hurt anyone and DD has come to appreciate that (and Orajel too).

We have thought about giving her Tylenol if it is teething pain, but I cant see any teeth, so I dont want to be too quick to jump to conclusions with that one. I think it could be worth a try though. If it helps, then it might be what the problem is and hopefull they will break through soon.

 

[Jenvenza]

Well, someone on here has quite the attitude now don't they! This person asked for advice (or if her baby's behavior was normal), and attacked just about everyone who tried to help her. Seriously, I'm starting to think this person was just looking for a fight. Either that or she is just that miserable with her life.

I am quite happy with my life. I have a wonderful husband, daughter and we are going to WDW soon! What do I have to be miserable about?

 

[minkydog]

I am sorry, but do you have a problem with me tending to my daughter's needs? Just because you may chose not to do the same, doesnt make your way the right way.

I have no problem with any parent responding to their child's needs. I was simply suggesting that since your child didn't seem to be in distress that perhaps she just wanted to play. As long as you are not neglectful or abusive to your children in my sight, I couldn't care less what kind of parent you style yourself. I just thought your answer was a bit snippy, about being an "attachment parent" and all (as if none of the rest of us parents are really attached and couldn't possibly understand .)

I'll tell you what--let's talk again in, ohhh, about 18 years. You better sweeten that crow cuz you're gonna be eating some of it.

Cathy--mom to 3 mostly grown kids. Been there, done that. Just trying to help you out

 

[Jenvenza]

I have no problem with any parent responding to their child's needs. I was simply suggesting that since your child didn't seem to be in distress that perhaps she just wanted to play. As long as you are not neglectful or abusive to your children in my sight, I couldn't care less what kind of parent you style yourself. I just thought your answer was a bit snippy, about being an "attachment parent" and all (as if none of the rest of us parents are really attached and couldn't possibly understand .)

I'll tell you what--let's talk again in, ohhh, about 18 years. You better sweeten that crow cuz you're gonna be eating some of it.

Cathy--mom to 3 mostly grown kids. Been there, done that. Just trying to help you out

I wasnt being snippy with you at all in my first response to you. Even saying how I felt bad for your baby cutting 10 teeth in a month.

It was your response with the that annoyed me.

Eating crow because my parenting style is different than yours? Okay. I guess yours is the only one that works. Thanks for the heads up.

 

[minkydog]

We will pick her up anytime she wants to be picked up. And if she is hungry in the middle of the night, we will give her a bottle. And she is great at playing by herself, but she would much rather play with us! We believe in attachment parenting, and so far, it has been great! Thank you for the advice though.

I cannot believe your little girl cut 10 teeth in a month! Poor baby! I am afraid that is going to happen to our DD as well, since she is obviously going to get them late. I guess we will see soon enough!

You don't think this sounds snippy? I do. I'm sure you're a great mother--tired, but caring. I was simply suggesting that perhaps, since you are so sleep deprived, that there might be a benign reason for your child to be up during the night. You are welcome to cuddle her and feed her all you want--ya'll can just have a blast in the middle of the night, ya know? You know your child best. As you say, there is more than one style of parenting. Thank you for sympathizing with my daughter, though. At 15 she has all her teeth now and lived to tell the tale.

 

[DISNEYFOS]

So I do think people have been trying to answer your question about whether its "normal". I don't think there really is "normal"..every child is different..however..if you want to try to figure out the cause Parenting sometimes is like being a detective...unfortunately..

Some possiblities:

Separation anxiety starts up right about now.
Ear infection? any fever, recent cold? pulling at ear? might want to rule that out
Teething.. Once they poke thru then it doesn't cause presssure..so not seeing anything doesn't really mean they aren't coming.. look for lots of drool? wanting to chew on anything in sight?

For what its worth..a bottle in the middle of the night or nursing will be something they will get used to..a habit if you will..they will wake up for it whether they need it or not.

I'm not a big proponent of crying it out either..there are other methods/solutions...but for the most part keep lights low, change a diaper if needed..lots of soothing to help her get back to sleep.

 

[Jenvenza]

You don't think this sounds snippy? I do. I'm sure you're a great mother--tired, but caring. I was simply suggesting that perhaps, since you are so sleep deprived, that there might be a benign reason for your child to be up during the night. You are welcome to cuddle her and feed her all you want--ya'll can just have a blast in the middle of the night, ya know? You know your child best. As you say, there is more than one style of parenting. Thank you for sympathizing with my daughter, though. At 15 she has all her teeth now and lived to tell the tale.

No, I really dont. I was just stating that we do do those things you said not to, but I even said thanks for the advice though. Because I know not everyone does things the way I do. Doesnt make it right or wrong, just different.

And we dont play in the middle of the night. We keep the lights off, and dont talk much. And she falls asleep pretty quickly everytime she does wake up, it just isnt the norm.

 

[Jenvenza]

So I do think people have been trying to answer your question about whether its "normal". I don't think there really is "normal"..every child is different..however..if you want to try to figure out the cause Parenting sometimes is like being a detective...unfortunately..

Some possiblities:

Separation anxiety starts up right about now.
Ear infection? any fever, recent cold? pulling at ear? might want to rule that out
Teething.. Once they poke thru then it doesn't cause presssure..so not seeing anything doesn't really mean they aren't coming.. look for lots of drool? wanting to chew on anything in sight?

For what its worth..a bottle in the middle of the night or nursing will be something they will get used to..a habit if you will..they will wake up for it whether they need it or not.

I'm not a big proponent of crying it out either..there are other methods/solutions...but for the most part keep lights low, change a diaper if needed..lots of soothing to help her get back to sleep.

She does have seperation anxiety pretty bad. I work full-time and she cries buckets when I leave. Heartbreaking.

She has been a drool-monster since 4 months, and no teeth yet. But she has been chewing more lately. We have thought she was teething for 6 months now and nothing! So I think I am a little gun shy to say she is teething. But the more I think about it, the more I think that is probably it!

Thanks!

 

[frtchr]

Have you asked your pediatrician for possible causes?

 

[Jenvenza]

Have you asked your pediatrician for possible causes?

No, I havent. I am not concerned about her health in any way, so I have not called. But dont get me wrong, I am the one calling the doctor at 2am on a Sunday if I think something is wrong!

 

[mamaLori05]

She does have seperation anxiety pretty bad. I work full-time and she cries buckets when I leave. Heartbreaking.

She has been a drool-monster since 4 months, and no teeth yet. But she has been chewing more lately. We have thought she was teething for 6 months now and nothing! So I think I am a little gun shy to say she is teething. But the more I think about it, the more I think that is probably it!

Thanks!

AH! The answer to my question has just been answered. (the reason for biting everyone's head off.) That can be very hard on a parent (went through that when dd was a baby).....that's what made me decide to be a stay at home mom. I feel for you and I hope it gets better soon.

 

[Jenvenza]

AH! The answer to my question has just been answered. (the reason for biting everyone's head off.) That can be very hard on a parent.....that's what made me decide to be a stay at home mom. I feel for you and I hope it gets better soon.

Thank you. It is very hard leaving her everyday. I would be a SAHM in a heartbeat if I could. It is just not in the cards for us. Ah! I am tearing up thinking about it!

 

[DISNEYFOS]

I'm sorry it really does rip your heart out. But keep in mind separation anxiety is a completely normal part of development. I'm a work at home mom just in the next room and my DD (1) flips out when I leave... Jeez she actually flips out when DH or I go to the bathroom for goodness sake. So it will pass..

Do you have any type of transitional item like a lovey? favorite stuffed animal, satin edged blanket? This might help her..not only at night..but maybe during the day as well?

 

[Maggie'sMom]

Do you have any type of transitional item like a lovey? favorite stuffed animal, satin edged blanket? This might help her..not only at night..but maybe during the day as well?

DD loves her satin edged blanky. It's been her lovey since she was about a year old. She will rub the satin edge and it soothes her to sleep.

This is what I was trying to say in my first post. Find a lovey that your DD will form an attachment with. She can use that to soothe herself to sleep. So when she wakes up in the night she won't cry and wake you up, she'll just reach for her lovey and fall back asleep. In the beginning, you will still enter her room, hand her the lovey, rub her back, sing to her, or whatever. But it won't be playtime and it won't be meal time. She'll learn that it's still sleep time and eventually the night wakings will phase out again.

 

[mamaLori05]

Thank you. It is very hard leaving her everyday. I would be a SAHM in a heartbeat if I could. It is just not in the cards for us. Ah! I am tearing up thinking about it!

Trust me I understand....I think we all do. Our kids are our lives, and we want to be the best mommies we can be for them. Which I think makes us want to help when someone cries out for it. I think most of us earlier were just trying to say hey, this worked for us, you may want to try it. No one thinks you are a bad mommy, and no one is judging your parenting style. I'm guessing your baby's seperation anxiety has you feeling like the worst mom in the world, because I know that is how it made me feel, and that may have put you on the defense. But really though, I think you are a great mom and your baby is lucky to have such a caring mom. Many kids aren't so lucky!!! Please, don't think everyone is attacking you, we really are just trying to help. I know it's hard to hear the sincere tone through typing, but I would bet most of the posts are meant to be that way.

 

[Poohbug]

If you think she is teething you might want to try teething tablets. You can find them at walmart and grocery stores. My kids also have a hard time sleeping if they have a stuffy nose. A little elevation under the mattress works or some baby vicks.
It can be so frustrating when they sleep through the night then all of a sudden they don't. It's so hard to go back to those nights of being awake. She will sleep again-all night-you just have to make it through this tough time.