OT: anyone have experience with neuropsychological assessment?

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I posted this on the disabilities board but thought I would ask here as well.

Have you had your child undergo a neuropsychological assessment? Can you explain the process and what I should expect? It sounds like we will be there all day after talking to the intake coordinator.

DS8 has struggled in school with writing and comleting assignments. His teachers have told us he appears to be very bright and has exceptional verbal skills. He is very quick with answering math facts verbally yet fails the written timed tests. DS also appears to be immature for his age and still does not have good fine motor skills. He has problems with attention, organization, completing work on time, etc. Homework time is a battle every night.

We have known about these problems for over a year. However, DH has been completely against getting him evaluated as he does not want him labeled. DH feels it is just a matter of immaturity and that he will grow out of it. I don't agree as things have gotten worse.

This year started out OK but is now going downhill. DS has been having major meltdowns at school and his sporting events. He uses the fight or flight response and has tried to run away in several instances which was very alarming when it happened at school last month. He also got in a fight at school yesterday. He gets easily upset about losing games, perceived injustices, or he tends to misinterpret someone's intentions. When he is having a meltdown, there is no reasoning with him. He calls himself stupid, hits himself, etc. Or he goes into a rage and wants to destroy things in his room, etc. It totally breaks my heart. I put my foot down with DH and scheduled the evaluation.

This situation has been extremely stressful. I feel like I've failed as a parent. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. Thanks for listening.
 
No experience, personally, but I have a friend with a similar son who is diagnosed with ADHD. I just wanted to make a comment on the "labeling" thing. I learned, through her, that if you have your child privately tested it is your decision to share the results with the school, or not. Since she got a formal dx of ADHD (which she knew was going to happen from the outset) she did share with the school as her son is now on meds. (and doing much better, BTW) Her ex (the childs' father) had the same concerns.
 
I cannot answer your questions about the assessment, but I did want to share some experiences about having your child "labeled".

In short, having a "label" can mean REALLY great things. First of all, it means that you are meeting their problems head on. Your job as a mother is not to birth a perfect child, but to help your child meet his or her potential. It is not anyones fault if your child is less than "perfect" - I mean, who's kid is?!?!? If your child has challenges - even of a temprary nature that he may very well out grow - there is no reason not to accept any help that may be offered. Why lift things out of the back of a moving truck if you can use a ramp to make life easier? Is there some sort of reward (other than a sore back?) Of course not! Having a "label" means that you get the help of experts - as many as needed - to help your child. Perhaps there are medications that can help - or simple strategies that you child can be taught that will significantly improve his life. Would it be crazy to deny your child an improved life?

I have 2 much younger siblings that were both labeled has having different learning disabilities. It is a pretty scary word for something that really does not have to be! One sibling needed medication, the other needed to learn some coping mechanisms...both are now fully productive members of society! Because of their issues, they were given some consessions in school that made ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THEIR ABILITY TO SUCCEED. For example, my sister had trouble concentrating and kind of freaked out over tests....she was provided a quite room with extra time for her tests because of her learning disabililty. That small accomodation resulted in a huge improvement in her grades. In college, the school paid another student in my brothers class to take notes for him. This allowed him to fully focus on the speaker rather than on the note taking. Both were allowed to register for their classes before their peers because they need to have breaks between their classes. That dreaded "label" meant small accomodations were made (an very few people even knew that they were made) that meant HUGE improvements in their quality of life, their grades, and their ability to succeed.

My own dd has been in speech therapy for 2 years. I hated to admit that she needed the help, but by facing the issue head on, she got the much needed help that she needed (at no cost to us). Yesterday, she was discharged from therapy and is a much happier child than the frustrated little girl that started therapy. I still think we may be facing other learning issues with her, and I will be ready to be her warrior mommy to get her all of the help and advantages that I can for her!

Good for you! You are your child's absolute best advocate. Wear that label proudly, because if they need help, getting it for them is simply the best alternative!
 
My son had a neuropsych work up done at age 5.5. What is done depends on the needs of the child, the behaviors exhibited, and the age of the child. My son had a non-verbal IQ test, memory test, and a few other tests over the course of almost 5 hours.

We also had a 2 hour interview (while the testing was being done). This was in addition to the multiple forms we filled out (inventories, conners checklists etc) prior to the testing, the some 200+ pages of medical records, IEP's and previous testing that we provided, and an hour interview prior to the testing.

I would ALWAYS encourage people to share a child's diagnosis with the school. I understand one's concern about a child being labeled something, but it is by far much BETTER to be labeled with a medical diagnosis then to be labeled
Lazy
Stupid
Flighty
Trouble
Bad
Not Worth the Effort

and all those other labels teachers and others come up with to describe the behaviors they are seeing because THEY HAVE NO OTHER EXPLANATION FOR THEM!

I will be happy to answer any specific questions you have about the neuropsych evaluation
 

I think having a name to put with whatever is going on can only help you know how to best help your child. As a PP said having a name for the disorder is much better that the child being written off as lazy, ect. I hope that you get some answers!!
 
My son just finished speech therapy through school, he is 6. I worried about it, about being pulled out of class, about being different, but getting the help was what he needed. Now my DD4 is in the process of a full evaulation by the preschool. She has already had a speech/language evaluation and probably will get an individualized placement program for a challenge with expressive/receptive language when she goes into kindergarten. Basically she has problems following complex directions. She appears perfectly average to most everyone but I knew something was going on. She also does not have great fine motor skills so she is getting the full evaluation. I hesitated to do it. I was nervous about a "label". I worried if, as she gets older, she will think she is stupid (kids with this problem generally have normal to above normal intelligence) or other kids will tease her. I realized after reading, researching and talking to moms of kids with various challenges that the only mistake I could make was to do nothing. I didn't "cause" her challenges and I can't fix them. But I can help her learn how to compensate for them and live with them by getting her all the help that is available. I have a friend whose son has a problem with fine motor and being able to "see" spaces in between words. Technically the school looks at him as disabled, but to you and me he is a perfectly average child. Other kids don't know, it doesn't change who he is, but it does mean he gets the help and accommdations he needs to succeed (for instance he can type papers instead of write them). Sure there are people I have not shared this with as they might not understand or might judge, but I am not going to let fear keep me from helping my daughter. You are not alone in having a child with some sort of challenge (you would be surprised about the kids you may yourself know that have a challenge). You are doing the right thing getting him evaluated and most importantly getting him help It is extremely important to let the school and even other adult teachers know. When I have the final information I will even let her coaches know. They cannot help if they don't know. We all have challenges, we are all "different" in one way or another. It is how we handle those things that makes us who we are. Good luck with your son.
 
I also have a 'labeled kid'. Is the neuropsych eval. thru your school or thru a private source? We have had 2 evaluations. Once in kdgtn. and again in 4th grade through the school. I have to say I was pleased with both.

My dd is very high functioning autistic. She receives help with tests and just breaking information down so she is able to understand it. She is in regular ed. with the same curriculum and she excels in school with the supports she receives.

Could she get by without an IEP and the supports in place. Absolutely- but she would not be able to reach her potential.

Sometimes parents get hung up on labels more than kids do. Instead of a label; I try to think of it as an oppurtunity to help her in different ways.

It's never easy, but I don't get hung up on labels and neither do her teachers. We have a few meetings throughout the year and the word autism is never mentioned in them simply because we are dealing with an individual child and her needs not her diagnosis anymore.

Good luck- doing what's best for your child is never easy.:hug:
 
We have a few meetings throughout the year and the word autism is never mentioned in them simply because we are dealing with an individual child and her needs not her diagnosis anymore.


Beautifully said! Thanks for that!:lovestruc
 
If it is for ADHD, the school can provide that assessment to you free of charge. (I do them for ours.) If a child is diagnosed ADHD, they are entitled to a 504 plan. This is NOT special ed. It is for anyone with a medical condition that can interfere with academic progress, because they may miss school or not be able to complete full assignments. Even kids with asthma and seizures are entitled. (Your district may not call it a 504, but if you ask the school counselor, she should know what you mean.) The way I explain it to parents that are worried about their child being "labeled" is----if you're child was a diabetic, wouldn't you want to know? If you're child had high cholesterol or a heart condition, wouldn't you want to know? ADHD is a valid medical condition. It is an executive function (meaning of the brain) dysfunction. Just means they are wired a bit different. Nothing to do with academic ability, if the condition is treated. Some of the smartest, most capable and successful people in the world are dx with ADHD. The 504 plan I mentioned legally protects your child's rights. They are entitled to modified, abbreviated assignments if needed. They are entitled to more frequent breaks and not forced to sit still all day. It is really a good thing.
 
If it is for ADHD, the school can provide that assessment to you free of charge. (I do them for ours.) If a child is diagnosed ADHD, they are entitled to a 504 plan. This is NOT special ed. It is for anyone with a medical condition that can interfere with academic progress, because they may miss school or not be able to complete full assignments. Even kids with asthma and seizures are entitled. (Your district may not call it a 504, but if you ask the school counselor, she should know what you mean.) The way I explain it to parents that are worried about their child being "labeled" is----if you're child was a diabetic, wouldn't you want to know? If you're child had high cholesterol or a heart condition, wouldn't you want to know? ADHD is a valid medical condition. It is an executive function (meaning of the brain) dysfunction. Just means they are wired a bit different. Nothing to do with academic ability, if the condition is treated. Some of the smartest, most capable and successful people in the world are dx with ADHD. The 504 plan I mentioned legally protects your child's rights. They are entitled to modified, abbreviated assignments if needed. They are entitled to more frequent breaks and not forced to sit still all day. It is really a good thing.

Sorry, but the info your giving is NOT correct. Having an ADHD ciagnosis or ANY diagnosis does not entitle you to an IEP or 504 plan. In order to have a 504 plan you MUST show that the child has a disability and needs to have something accommodated due to the disability. For an IEP, you must show that due to the disability the child is not able to get a free and appropriate education.

Further, it is improper for the school to give any diagnosis for a variety of reasons. Yes, the school can do an assessment, but they are not doing a MEDICAL assessment, they are doing an educational assessment.

And yes, EVERY public school district in America will call it a 504 plan. It is FEDERAL LAW (section 504 of the 1972 Rehabilitation act), just like IDEA is FEDERAL LAW and every public school will all call an IEP an IEP. People should look at a 504 plan like they look at the ADA or the disability portion of the fair housing act. It is not automatic, its based on specific needs. Not everyone with a disability needs accommodations.
 
Here's how I see it - My son doesn't have a "label." He has a diagnosis (Asperger's Syndrome). He fits the diagnostic criteria for that disorder and benefits from the interventions designed for that disorder.

It's no different than being diagnosed with a disease like cancer. You wouldn't avoid the diagnosis because you don't want to be labeled as having cancer. You would want to find out what the problem was and address it right away.
 
I have 2 children with special needs and IEPs. I never understand why people think "labels" are a bad thing when they help my children get the services they need and are entitled to. The labels don't define my children, but the labels do help them receive the best education for them.

My ds (12) sounds EXACTLY like your son. While he also has ADHD listed on his IEP and many of the characteristics overlap, most of his actions are a result of his NLD (nonverbal learning disorder), which is totally misunderstood by almost everyone. I have a dd with high-functioning autism, and life is much harder for my ds than for my dd.
 
My son's autism is just part of who he is. He is a kid. His "label" helps him get the accomidations he needs to succeed in school. We have had the testing done, it was not bad.
 
I posted this on the disabilities board but thought I would ask here as well.

Have you had your child undergo a neuropsychological assessment? Can you explain the process and what I should expect? It sounds like we will be there all day after talking to the intake coordinator.

DS8 has struggled in school with writing and comleting assignments. His teachers have told us he appears to be very bright and has exceptional verbal skills. He is very quick with answering math facts verbally yet fails the written timed tests. DS also appears to be immature for his age and still does not have good fine motor skills. He has problems with attention, organization, completing work on time, etc. Homework time is a battle every night.

We have known about these problems for over a year. However, DH has been completely against getting him evaluated as he does not want him labeled. DH feels it is just a matter of immaturity and that he will grow out of it. I don't agree as things have gotten worse.

This year started out OK but is now going downhill. DS has been having major meltdowns at school and his sporting events. He uses the fight or flight response and has tried to run away in several instances which was very alarming when it happened at school last month. He also got in a fight at school yesterday. He gets easily upset about losing games, perceived injustices, or he tends to misinterpret someone's intentions. When he is having a meltdown, there is no reasoning with him. He calls himself stupid, hits himself, etc. Or he goes into a rage and wants to destroy things in his room, etc. It totally breaks my heart. I put my foot down with DH and scheduled the evaluation.

This situation has been extremely stressful. I feel like I've failed as a parent. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. Thanks for listening.

Wow. You could be writing about MY DS9! We are just now beginning the process as well - we have our initial doctor's appointment later this month. Please DO NOT feel like you have failed as a parent - I know it's hard, sometimes I feel that way myself. But as PP's have mentioned, it's a medical condition and your parenting skills did NOT cause it. Good luck! :hug:
 
Sorry, but the info your giving is NOT correct. Having an ADHD ciagnosis or ANY diagnosis does not entitle you to an IEP or 504 plan. In order to have a 504 plan you MUST show that the child has a disability and needs to have something accommodated due to the disability. For an IEP, you must show that due to the disability the child is not able to get a free and appropriate education.

Further, it is improper for the school to give any diagnosis for a variety of reasons. Yes, the school can do an assessment, but they are not doing a MEDICAL assessment, they are doing an educational assessment.

And yes, EVERY public school district in America will call it a 504 plan. It is FEDERAL LAW (section 504 of the 1972 Rehabilitation act), just like IDEA is FEDERAL LAW and every public school will all call an IEP an IEP. People should look at a 504 plan like they look at the ADA or the disability portion of the fair housing act. It is not automatic, its based on specific needs. Not everyone with a disability needs accommodations.


I am most certainly NOT giving false info. I should know. I am the one who does it for our school system, and we are the 22nd largest school system in the country. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, which means I could open my own practice, and am more than qualified AND legally allowed to make mental health diagnoses. And YES (at least in TN), any child with a diagnosis of ADHD (and needs accommodations--which I previously said)is legally entitled to a 504 plan for accommodations. I already said that is different from IEP. Sorry if you feel it is improper for the school to do this, but our mental health division is a licensed mental health center, and we are one of the models that other large school districts around the country use to plan their programs by. Jeez, everyone is entitled to their opinions, but please don't knock my profession. And by the way, this is National Social Work Month, and this is National School Social Workers Week. Of which I am proud to be one. And furthermore, an IEP has nothing to do with free education. Every child in the country is entitled to a free and appropriate education. IEP is an individualized education plan that entitles the child to extra or special services, when they qualify as having a disability by STATE guidelines. And, by the way, our school psychs do the educational assessments, and our social workers do the mental health assessments (for things like ADHD, ODD, and CD).
 
Sorry, but the info your giving is NOT correct. Having an ADHD ciagnosis or ANY diagnosis does not entitle you to an IEP or 504 plan. In order to have a 504 plan you MUST show that the child has a disability and needs to have something accommodated due to the disability. For an IEP, you must show that due to the disability the child is not able to get a free and appropriate education.

Further, it is improper for the school to give any diagnosis for a variety of reasons. Yes, the school can do an assessment, but they are not doing a MEDICAL assessment, they are doing an educational assessment.

And yes, EVERY public school district in America will call it a 504 plan. It is FEDERAL LAW (section 504 of the 1972 Rehabilitation act), just like IDEA is FEDERAL LAW and every public school will all call an IEP an IEP. People should look at a 504 plan like they look at the ADA or the disability portion of the fair housing act. It is not automatic, its based on specific needs. Not everyone with a disability needs accommodations.


In Texas specifically North Texas ADHD does get you a 504.
 
I am most certainly NOT giving false info. I should know. I am the one who does it for our school system, and we are the 22nd largest school system in the country. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, which means I could open my own practice, and am more than qualified AND legally allowed to make mental health diagnoses. And YES (at least in TN), any child with a diagnosis of ADHD (and needs accommodations--which I previously said)is legally entitled to a 504 plan for accommodations. I already said that is different from IEP. Sorry if you feel it is improper for the school to do this, but our mental health division is a licensed mental health center, and we are one of the models that other large school districts around the country use to plan their programs by. Jeez, everyone is entitled to their opinions, but please don't knock my profession. And by the way, this is National Social Work Month, and this is National School Social Workers Week. Of which I am proud to be one. And furthermore, an IEP has nothing to do with free education. Every child in the country is entitled to a free and appropriate education. IEP is an individualized education plan that entitles the child to extra or special services, when they qualify as having a disability by STATE guidelines. And, by the way, our school psychs do the educational assessments, and our social workers do the mental health assessments (for things like ADHD, ODD, and CD).

I'm not knocking your profession . While you may be able to give a medical diagnosis, your not in private practice. You work for the school and therefore any assessment your doing is for educational purposes and not a medical assessment. Further, you do not hold the same standing as a medical provider working for the parent. You work for the school district and therefore (regardless of whether or not it is true) you are not truly an unbiased provider. Regardless of your qualifications, a medical diagnosis should never come from the school. That is not the schools job.

section 504 of the rehabilitation act is a FEDERAL LAW, which means it is the same in every state. The law is very clear. Your are NEVER entitled to it. You must prove that your disability needs accommodations.

Quite a few years ago, the Federal Department of Education released rules regarding section 504 and for IDEA that clarified that ADHD IS a recognized disability and therefore eligible for both. But again, that is NOT entitled. The law is absolutely clear. Qualified individuals with disabilities are entitled to reasonable accommodations. Having a disability NEVER entitles you to a 504 plan, because a person can have a disability and NOT need accommodations. Further, if the accommodations are NOT reasonable, the school does not have to provide them.

So let me repeat. A diagnosis of ADHD can make a person ELIGIBLE for a 504 plan, but it does not make you ENTITLED to one. A diagnosis of ADHD can make you ELIGIBLE for a 504 plan but it does not mean you will automatically get one.

These are SIGNIFICANT distinctions that many people do not understand and it is very important that people do. I watch too many parents and even professionals state, oh your child has x your entitled to y without explaining what is truly going on. Then the information gets passed on from one parent to another, who know doesn't understand that their child with an adhd diagnosis is not entitled to anything!

The term entitled means qualified by right or law, and neither an IEP or a 504 plan have ANY automatic qualifications. You are never automatically given one simply because you have a diagnosis. You must show more then just a dx.

As for an IEP, this is a creation of the FEDERAL LAW, Individuals with Disabilities education act (IDEA). It is NOT state law and the definitions for IDEA ALL come from federal law. Here is a cite to one part of IDEA 34 CFR 300.322(b)(1) (20 USC is the united states code chapter that IDEA is found in). ALL the definitions for IDEA are from the federal code and apply state wide. The idea that all children are entitled to a free and appropriate education comes DIRECTLY from IDEA. IDEA is the legislation that DEFINES what FAPE is and an IEP is created DIRECTLY to allow a child with a disability to access FAPE. The entire purpose of an IEP is for a child to be able to appropriately access a free and appropriate education. This language is repeatedly stated throughout all of the IDEA legislation.

Now, just to go a bit further, all states MUST comply with federal regulation. They are allowed to legislate MORE protection then what federal law provides, but in special education they rarely do or its very limited. School districts can also provide MOE protection then what the law (either state or federal allows) For example, a central auditory processing disorder is NOT recognized as an eligible disability under either section 504 or IDEA, but in where we live it IS recognized as an eligible condition (in fact our SPED district will even test for it). I have not bothered to check to see if it is in fact our local district making the distinction or if it has actually been added by state law. Another example of what I am trying to explain is that since ADHD is recognized by federal law as being eligible, a school district cannot deny a 504 plan or an IEP to a child who otherwise qualifies for one because their only diagnosis is ADHD. The bolded section is important, because need must still be shown beyond the actual diagnosis, but the school can't say you only have ADHD and despite need can't have.

Since your in Tennesse they have a unique thing that no other state (that I have been able to drag up through multiple resources) has (though they may have done away with it). By state law, they give IEP's to children in gifted education. This is an example of a state legislating MORE protection then what federal law allows. The combination of how gifted mandates work and actually change the definitions in that state for IDEA is a WHOLE other long discussion which I will happily share with anyone who is interested and actually changes the basis on which they determine a child's eligibility for an IEP.

I know you get truncated and filtered information regarding the laws surrounding what you are doing, but that is a far cry from understanding and being able to work with these laws. I am sure that whatever you have been taught about them they did not go into detail regarding the structure between federal, state, and local law, nor a conflict of law analysis (heck most people in MY profession don't understand this and this is what we do day in and day out).

You are trained to understand the subtleties between marked, moderate, and mild behaviors, your trained to understand when a mood is/isn't congruent. Your not trained to understand what an enormous difference you make when you use the word entitled versus eligible. You are not trained to know how to work with these laws and what all the stuff in between what you have learned means. You summarized very well what makes up an IEP (gives special services to a child) but by what you posted stating that an IEP has nothing to do with FAPE, shows that you do not understand the law nor what an IEP is designed to do. The IEP is designed by federal law to enable children with disabilities the opportunity to get a free and appropriate education in the least restrictive environment.

Again, I am not trying to put down your profession in any way shape or form. I am simply pointing out that you are giving out information that you gave about being entitled (and later to other parts of the law you stated) are not correct. A parent should NEVER approach a school district thinking their child is entitled to anything because that is one of the fastest ways to windup with your child denied because you haven't planned ahead to provide the proof of need because you had been told by someone that it was automatic (entitled)
 
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I'm not knocking your profession . While you may be able to give a medical diagnosis, your not in private practice. You work for the school and therefore any assessment your doing is for educational purposes and not a medical assessment. Further, you do not hold the same standing as a medical provider working for the parent. You work for the school district and therefore (regardless of whether or not it is true) you are not truly an unbiased provider. Regardless of your qualifications, a medical diagnosis should never come from the school. That is not the schools job."

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nothing[/I] to do with FAPE, shows that you do not understand the law nor what an IEP is designed to do. The IEP is designed by federal law to enable children with disabilities the opportunity to get a free and appropriate education in the least restrictive environment."


For original poster, please PM me if you need any info about an evaluation done in the school setting, which IS completely appropriate, legal, valid, and entitled to your child. I simply cannot read any more on this thread with someone trying to tell me that I am wrong about MY own job. It IS a role of the school to diagnose ADHD, autism, learning disabilites, asperger's, etc. Sure a doctor can also do it, but if we do it free, why put that expense on the parent. And yes, I have taken plenty of post-graduate classes regarding these laws. And, we do have lawyers on staff dealing specifically on 504's. And, just so you know above poster, we don't do evals just for educational purposes. We have entire free-standing health clinics (also operated by our school system--that are on school properties at 4 of our area schools--which are also free of charge), that have--shocker--medical doctors and nurses.
 
Hugs to you - this can be so hard for parents and the kiddos!!!

You mentioned fight or flight response - do you think your son might have some sensory issues? He may benefit from an OT evaluation - they could look at both sensory skills as well as fine motor skills.
 
I posted this on the disabilities board but thought I would ask here as well.

Have you had your child undergo a neuropsychological assessment? Can you explain the process and what I should expect? It sounds like we will be there all day after talking to the intake coordinator.

DS8 has struggled in school with writing and comleting assignments. His teachers have told us he appears to be very bright and has exceptional verbal skills. He is very quick with answering math facts verbally yet fails the written timed tests. DS also appears to be immature for his age and still does not have good fine motor skills. He has problems with attention, organization, completing work on time, etc. Homework time is a battle every night.

We have known about these problems for over a year. However, DH has been completely against getting him evaluated as he does not want him labeled. DH feels it is just a matter of immaturity and that he will grow out of it. I don't agree as things have gotten worse.

This year started out OK but is now going downhill. DS has been having major meltdowns at school and his sporting events. He uses the fight or flight response and has tried to run away in several instances which was very alarming when it happened at school last month. He also got in a fight at school yesterday. He gets easily upset about losing games, perceived injustices, or he tends to misinterpret someone's intentions. When he is having a meltdown, there is no reasoning with him. He calls himself stupid, hits himself, etc. Or he goes into a rage and wants to destroy things in his room, etc. It totally breaks my heart. I put my foot down with DH and scheduled the evaluation.

This situation has been extremely stressful. I feel like I've failed as a parent. Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated. Thanks for listening.

I haven't read any of the responses yet, but this post really resonates with me. Our DS8 was very similar to the way you describe yours. In younger years it was excitability, inability to keep his hands to himself, inattention etc. As he got into the school years is became disorganization, inattentiveness in class, nightly battles over homework, and he also has very, very extreme reactions to percieved injustices - to himself or others.

We switched from one independant school to another at the beginning of his grade two year. On the second day his teacher suggested a Psych/ed assessment. We had been at another school for two years where he was labelled the "bad" kid and spent more time in the office than class.

Within four weeks we had had the assessment done and had a 22 page report that then went to the school and formed the basis for his ILP. He was diagnosed with ADHD and a learning disorder with his working memory. At first we were very "secretive" about this; we also didn't want the label. We didn't even tell DS initially what the term was - we didn't want him to feel worse about himself than the first school had already made him feel.

Over the past year and a half we have had a fantastic journey. Our DS, while needing lots of support in some areas of school is very gifted in others. He is a kind, compassionate fun and funny little boy. Initally we told him he learned differently (which is true) than other kids, and his medicine was to help him focus on what was being taught. After seven months and many problems with the meds that DH and I were unwilling to subject him to any further, we found alternative methods of treatment along with lifestyle changes that have made life manageable again. He now knows his diagnosis and helps us in determining how he is feeling on any given day. His knowledge allows him to assess himself objectively without feeling like he is bad.

Getting the assessment is the best thing you can do because it will give you a starting point in helping your son succeed. Google ADHD successes and see how many very influential people have it (If in fact this ends up being the assessment, but it certainly does sound like it). It allows for huge creativity, boundless dreams, enthusiasm. Our DS is the happiest kid I know now that he know he's ok. We call him sunniest of sons. Yep - the school years, especially early years are difficult. When all the memorization, and basic building blocks that really have to easy way around take place. Spelling, multiplication facts, writing, penmenship etc...nightmares at first. But, man is he excited about the science that starts next year.

I have tons of tips and ideas for helping to make your days more manageable and there is a wealth of information out there now that you are starting the process of finding out your son's needs. Best of luck with your journey. It IS very stressful in the beginning, but you have NOT in any way failed as a parent. You are now taking the steps to help him succeed. Isn't that the definition of a successful parent? It is in my book. Feel free to PM me if you'd like. We've been right where you are.
 


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