OT-Another potty training advice needed thread!

[wlwilliams9]

Mom's and Dad's who have potty trained, PLEASE HELP!!!!

I'm so frustrated with DD right now. Back in Nov, we started potty training and she was doing great. She would always let me know when she had to go and would sit on the toilet. I bought her big girl panties and she was only wearing a pull up at night (staying dry through the night) and when we would go out (she didn't like public potties yet). Anyway, this last week, she's refused to use the potty and has gone on our new couch twice (we just got it last Tuesday) UGH! She is no longer staying dry through the night, infact, her diapers are full by morning. I don't know what to do! Any advice?

 

[miprender]

I feel your pain, when DD starting potty training once she started we never had any issues, however my DS3 keeps having accidents. We started in early December and almost everyday he is having an accident in some form or another.

I am sure it is partially my fault, since I need to keep on top of him and remind him to go.

Good luck with everything.

 

[Grendalynn]

I am looking for advice on this subject too... only a tad different! Maybe we can all help each other..... Here is my issue: DS2.5 will pee on the potty all day long, but wont go #2 to save my life! You would think this was my first kid - actually DS#3- I am at a loss... And he is still on the bottle at night, so that is my other part of it! So sorry to steak your thunder, OP, but hopefully someone has some great advice!

 

[daleswife]

I am looking for advice on this subject too... only a tad different! Maybe we can all help each other..... Here is my issue: DS2.5 will pee on the potty all day long, but wont go #2 to save my life! You would think this was my first kid - actually DS#3- I am at a loss... And he is still on the bottle at night, so that is my other part of it! So sorry to steak your thunder, OP, but hopefully someone has some great advice!

My ds2 wont even go potty at all....when I mention it he just flat out says NO! I know hes only 2, but i figured he'd like having big boy undies like daddies....NOPE could care less. ARRRGGGGG

 

[mjkacmom]

I am looking for advice on this subject too... only a tad different! Maybe we can all help each other..... Here is my issue: DS2.5 will pee on the potty all day long, but wont go #2 to save my life! You would think this was my first kid - actually DS#3- I am at a loss... And he is still on the bottle at night, so that is my other part of it! So sorry to steak your thunder, OP, but hopefully someone has some great advice!

I've learned that many, many kids poop train later than pee train - it's a dirty little secret... I had this issue with 3 of my 5, they wanted a diaper to poop. I researched it, and they will do it when ready. Do not withhold the diaper - it can cause a serious medical condition. I remember telling ds that if he pooped on the potty, we'd get right in the van, drive to Toys R Us, and buy a huge ride on jeep - nope, he waiting until he was ready (a year after peep training).

OP - nakey butt.

 

[Grendalynn]

I've learned that many, many kids poop train later than pee train - it's a dirty little secret... I had this issue with 3 of my 5, they wanted a diaper to poop. I researched it, and they will do it when ready. Do not withhold the diaper - it can cause a serious medical condition. I remember telling ds that if he pooped on the potty, we'd get right in the van, drive to Toys R Us, and buy a huge ride on jeep - nope, he waiting until he was ready (a year after peep training).

OP - nakey butt.

Yes, thats what we have been doing. If he goes a part of the day when he normally would have a bowel movement (BM) and didn;t, i would put a diaper on him and let him do his business.... it will come with time I guess, just curious if it was normal or if others have had the same issue!

 

[cinderellamom123]

I am a home daycare provider currently in the process of training 3 kids.
4 yr old boy and 2 two year old girls (soon to be 3) Boys take longer to train. A 2.5 year old boy is very young. Medical exp. say usually kids are not ready (esp. boys ) until at least 3 or older. Not passing judgement, every child is different. If you push them, it will back fire, encourage them, do not call them a baby (as some of my parents have). When they are ready, it will happen in two days.

For the first poster, since your child has regressed so much, and even at night, would rule out any type of urinary infection. One of my little girls had one and it set her back similar to the symptoms you daughter is describing.

It will happen. Remember, eating and voiding are the only things kids can control!

 

[kwilliamsrn]

I feel all your pain, both DD's potty trained by second birthday not by my choice, day care started them sitting on the ptty every hour to hour and half. had to continue the work at home I would have just let my DD want to do it but low and behold about tho plus weeks of spending every hour in the BR- big girl panties. my second on came to me before 2nd Bday said i want big girl underwear too. so i said ok and it worked boy did i think i was in for another few weeks of sitting in the bathroom every hour.

plus we always sang the pee pee song, and danced around the BR everytime they went, both loved and made them want to go everytime. and they did thanks to a cup of lemon water every 45 min made them have to go.

two kids 1 year apart a whole lot of bathroom trips everywhere we go
as far as wetting at night I used to do pull ups at night and drenched in the morning couldnt understand, one night said big girl underwear so rember if you feel you have to peepee get up because no pull up, I also put the prtable potty in the room too. it helped, and only few accitents and nothing to dink after a certain time

good luck to everyone, rember run the water, sing the song , clapp and be loud, and they will get the picture.

boys on the other hand keep your fingers crossed and pray.
they do thier own thing

 

[wlwilliams9]

I am a home daycare provider currently in the process of training 3 kids.
4 yr old boy and 2 two year old girls (soon to be 3) Boys take longer to train. A 2.5 year old boy is very young. Medical exp. say usually kids are not ready (esp. boys ) until at least 3 or older. Not passing judgement, every child is different. If you push them, it will back fire, encourage them, do not call them a baby (as some of my parents have). When they are ready, it will happen in two days.

For the first poster, since your child has regressed so much, and even at night, would rule out any type of urinary infection. One of my little girls had one and it set her back similar to the symptoms you daughter is describing.

It will happen. Remember, eating and voiding are the only things kids can control!

I think I am going to take her to the pediatrician because her urine has smelled much more pungent than usual. Maybe she does have an infection.

She did go on the potty again tonight, so maybe she's getting back into the swing of things. We had been on the run quite a bit around the holidays, so she was in pull-ups more than usual. I'm not really pushing her to the potty because she is only 2 (she'll be 3 in July), I'm sure she'll get there again, but OMG, it was so much easier and cheaper when I wasn't buying so many diapers!

Thanks for all of your advice. It's hard as a 1st time Mom, wondering if we did or said something wrong or discouraging!

 

[mommycrawford]

It's a long time ago, but I had a flip and flush on the big potty and a potty chair in the bathroom. I personally think the flip and flush ( an insert that makes the toilet hole smaller) is a great thing because many kids fear going down the drain. (Ladies...we hate the seat left up!)

My daughter would sit on the potty when I sat on the toilet...we just made it normal to use. Also, I think it's easier to train in the summer and let them be bottomless in the house....They are young, and the fewer steps in any process, the easier it is to master!

I would be careful to avoid a power struggle. I would put her back in diapers and say, "I made a mistake. I thought you were ready for underwear, but I see that you are not." Leave it alone until she said she was ready and then say, "You are going to have to show me that you are ready.....If you can stay dry and use the potty for a week (make a chart with stickers she can put on when she uses the toilet sucessfully, and praise her,)then I will let you wear underwear like Mommy." She can't pee on the couch...it's just a reality...it's not punishment....A child learns at their own speed, and rest assures, though it's frustrating, she will learn!

I hope this helps

 

[MissFitt]

I guess I'm in the same boat as others (and think I'm the only one this is happening too) DS (3) has been going both #1 and #2 on the potty for a few months now. All of a sudden he started going #2 in his pants. It's been about 2 weeks and he is still going in his pants and I'm at wits end.

At first he was saying he was scared b/c one of his school friends told him there was a monster in the potty but I don't know if that is true b/c he still does #1 on the potty all day long. I'm back to pull ups on him b/c tired of soiled underwear. He does get very upset when he goes but won't tell me why he won't take himself to the potty. If I'm not watching him like a hawk, it happens.

Any advice????

 

[cheap traveler]

Our situation is so similar. My now 2 1/2 year old (july b-day) started wanting to go potty right after her 2nd birthday. Now it is 6 months later, and she still just couldn't care less if she goes in her pants, diaper, or potty. To her it is all the same. My DD5 had a major problem with #2 on the potty. She was so scared that we had to go back to diapers and rub her back and tell her it was ok to go when she needed to. Once her body got back on a normal schedule, we put her on the potty one night when she had to go and said she needed to stay there until she went. She sat at the little table, on her potty, eating dinner (eew) and watching tv for about an hour until she finally went. After that night she was completely trained with no more accidents. I just hope once the weather gets warm here in NY the little one will realize it is better to use the potty than pee on the ground

 

[foltzy]

It took forever to train my 3 year old. She didn't care if she was wet or not when she was in underwear, she also started to potty train and then she'd just be done with it. She also started preschool this year. Well after a meeting with her teachers we decided that she would go ahead and wear underwear to school (She was wearing a pull up to school, at night, and to her weekly ballet class, and underwear everywhere else). She had an accident the first day she wore underwear to school and that did it for her. From then on she was potty trained. She also refused to wear pull ups anymore. She's been potty trained since Novemember and is doing really well. She even stays dry at night mostly she's had 2 accidents since we potty trained (Thank goodness for rubber sheets).

 

[nikkers]

I hated potty training! I feel your pain. My DS was terrible. He would start moving forward with potty training, and then regress back to not caring. Very frustrating. My DD was a breeze. Pretty much potty trained herself by 2 1/2.

I know everyone will tell you something different about potty training, but here are some things we did with my DS. We made a sticker chart. Everytime he went he got a sticker. After so many stickers, he got a special treat. Sometimes it would be food, a cartoon, a new hot wheel, to play outside for extra time, going to run and errand with mom or dad. We also reminded him frequently to go. Never forced him, just reminded. We ended up having a well check visit, and our peditrician did send us to a pediatric urologist. Luckily, nothing serious. But they had some great suggestions. But he was trained when he was ready. Unfortunately, not when I was ready. Good luck.

 

[hoffmann2828]

My DD (2.5) is currently being trained. So far, what has worked great for her has been what another OP mentioned and that is going CRAZY! We do the "Pee pee on the pot-ty" song over and over and say "Yay, no more diapers!". We yell "Caity is a big girl now" and dance around like we were at a Disco (daddy included). We tell her what a good BIG girl she is and how proud we are of her. It's actually funny because I'll say "Mommy's so proud of you!" And then she'll ask "Daddy proud?" and I'll say, "Yep, Daddy's proud of you," and then she'll say "Nana proud?" and well, you get the idea. LOL

After singing and dancing, we make it a whole production with her getting to dump her pee pee in the BIG potty. Then she gets to flush the big potty. She says "Bye-bye pee pee!" and then she gets her treat.

We make it a big deal when she goes and give her lots of treats (just like they tell you to housebreak a dog, lol). We bought her a small tube of Mini-M&M's for her Christmas stocking and have been doling them out 2-3 at a time after she goes. In the AM, we give her a Flintstone "Vitamin candy" and she thinks she has hit the big time! LOL

We also bought the mini-boxes of raisins and she gets that as her 2nd treat (because it's still morning). I think the more you make it a big deal after they go, the more they try to please you by repeating that behavior and getting their treat.

Monday will be two weeks since we started training. No accidents in a week and a half. She does wear a diaper to bed and nap, but we put her big girl undies right over it. We still make a fuss about her wearing the panties and she really tries to hold it during the afternoon nap. At night, she is sleeping, so I'm okay with a diaper at night for now.

She sits on the potty and SMILES every time she goes. Pride and control is so big with them at this age. They need to know that while they do have the choice, they make you very happy when they go and that they get rewarded for choosing the right option.

Also, after a week and half, we stopped the treats and still sing/dance, and she still gets to flush the big potty, etc., but no more M&M's or anything.

Hope this helps someone.

Jenny

 

[lovebuzz]

Mt daughter will be 3 next month and she is my forth child. My husband has asked when am I going to potty train her and I told him when she is ready. So and so was trained a 2 and blah blah blah and I told him great and that if he wanted to train her then go right ahead. Well finally she has decided on her own that she did not want to wear diapers anymore. She has gone pee and poop with no problems. The first time she told me she had to poop and wanted a diaper and I told her that I'm sorry but that I got rid of all the diapers and that she would have to go in the potty. Well I sat with her and read her a book and TADA!!!! So my advice is to skip all of the hassle and they will do it when they are ready.

 

[kwilliamsrn]

Mt daughter will be 3 next month and she is my forth child. My husband has asked when am I going to potty train her and I told him when she is ready. So and so was trained a 2 and blah blah blah and I told him great and that if he wanted to train her then go right ahead. Well finally she has decided on her own that she did not want to wear diapers anymore. She has gone pee and poop with no problems. The first time she told me she had to poop and wanted a diaper and I told her that I'm sorry but that I got rid of all the diapers and that she would have to go in the potty. Well I sat with her and read her a book and TADA!!!! So my advice is to skip all of the hassle and they will do it when they are ready.

I have to agree they will let you know when they are ready. It is tough on us with the cost of diapers and pull ups but the fight is worse then the cost and all the sudden these young kids who can't figure out how to pee pee on the potty can suddenly work the system like a teenager. It is amazing!

Have to second strongly go nuts in the bathroom, my girls had everyone singing always saying" sing pee pee on the potty " and we said not until ypu go they loved us including DH jumping around like loons, but it worked.

GOOD LUCK!!!

 

[Mom2m&k]

Mt daughter will be 3 next month and she is my forth child. My husband has asked when am I going to potty train her and I told him when she is ready. So and so was trained a 2 and blah blah blah and I told him great and that if he wanted to train her then go right ahead. Well finally she has decided on her own that she did not want to wear diapers anymore. She has gone pee and poop with no problems. The first time she told me she had to poop and wanted a diaper and I told her that I'm sorry but that I got rid of all the diapers and that she would have to go in the potty. Well I sat with her and read her a book and TADA!!!! So my advice is to skip all of the hassle and they will do it when they are ready.

I have to agree...I have an almost 3 yr old boy who is doing now because he wants to and he is doing great! So far 3 days in a row of poo and pee on he potty and he is doing it himself I don't have to stand over him all day reminding him to go!

 

[K and K's Mommy]

I am looking for advice on this subject too... only a tad different! Maybe we can all help each other..... Here is my issue: DS2.5 will pee on the potty all day long, but wont go #2 to save my life! You would think this was my first kid - actually DS#3- I am at a loss... And he is still on the bottle at night, so that is my other part of it! So sorry to steak your thunder, OP, but hopefully someone has some great advice!

I just went through this with my third also! I thought I was alone, and my doctor said it was common. We knew that my little one knew when he had to go because he asked for a diaper, but he would not sit on the toilet. Here is what my doctor said to do:

Continue giving the diaper so he won't withhold, but he should sit on the toilet with the diaper on. (At first, my DS had to have the lid down because he would not sit on it with the lid up!!) You should dump the poop into the toilet so he sees where it should go. After a couple of weeks, put a hole in the diaper. In a couple of more weeks, try no diaper.

For us, we never had to do the hole in the diaper part! After about two weeks of sitting on the toilet with a diaper, he was ready to try it without!

Good luck! My third was so hard!

 

[robandkelly13]

Our DD went through the same regression period. So, we took her to the store and let her pick out new princess big girl panties (she already had some, but picking new ones out got her excited about using them). We then told her if she got Cinderella, etc. wet or stinky they would cry. She didn't want to make them cry, so she has used the potty every time since (about 10 months now). She was so excited about not making her princesses cry that she would tell everyone she met that Belle, or whomever she was wearing that day was happy. Hope this helps.