OT-6 months to fully potty train our little boy... HELP!

[DVCsince02]

I am free to answer a post any way I like, you are free to ignore it. The only person stirring any pots is you. You certainly don't have to qoute anything I write. Especially since you had already acknowledged my reply before you decided to be so rude.

Actually I waited to respond to your whole post hoping I would let it roll off, but it still bugged me and I am free to post that as well.

Let me make myself clear. I do not want your opinion anymore. Thank you.

 

[cocowum]

Put her on ignore Jen!

Besides I thought you were leaving the rugrats home.
Way too stick up for your woman, Puck!

Come home guys.

 

[DVCsince02]

Kiddies are going in June.

Ignore ON!

I'm coming HOME.

 

[albertamommyof4]

first every kid is different, i have so far potty trained 2 of my boys and my girl i am in the process of training my 2 and a half year old son plus 2 2year olds that i babysit.
what works for one child probably won't work for another one .
You can use a reward system with m and ms or sticker chart
You can either use diapers, training pants/underwear or go nude
make sure you do not pressure them or they will go the other way
For training a boy i think it is easier to train sitting down at first.
You can let them sit on the potty when they wake up , before lunch and bedtime to start.
Put the potties somewhere they feel comfortable not just the bathroom, my youngest hates the setting of the cold bathroom floor so i have a potty in his bedroom and downstairs and the bathroom .
Do make sure what you say especially if they have a accident
good luck
And if it is money that is the reason why you don't want him in the nursery or even that you don't want him there, he will feel the uneasiness in you so make sure it is for him

 

[DVCsince02]

first every kid is different, i have so far potty trained 2 of my boys and my girl i am in the process of training my 2 and a half year old son plus 2 2year olds that i babysit.
what works for one child probably won't work for another one .
You can use a reward system with m and ms or sticker chart
You can either use diapers, training pants/underwear or go nude
make sure you do not pressure them or they will go the other way
For training a boy i think it is easier to train sitting down at first.
You can let them sit on the potty when they wake up , before lunch and bedtime to start.
Put the potties somewhere they feel comfortable not just the bathroom, my youngest hates the setting of the cold bathroom floor so i have a potty in his bedroom and downstairs and the bathroom .
Do make sure what you say especially if they have a accident
good luck
And if it is money that is the reason why you don't want him in the nursery or even that you don't want him there, he will feel the uneasiness in you so make sure it is for him

Thank you. All of the positive advice is wonderful.

No, money isn't a concern. We'll already have one in there. But I think a 3.5yo will be bored in the nursery.

 

[Jacksmom99]

Hi Jen,
I don't know if I can be much help, DH and I decidedly failed potty training with both kiddos, but darn't it, they always slept through the night after 8 weeks! My SIL bought the potty training undies for her DS when he was 2.5 and acting ready. He was trained in a few months. I Know the underwear were more absorbent then regular underwear, so she used them at night as well, with a rubber sheet on the mattress.

Good Luck!
Kim

 

[DVCsince02]

Ha! The bed is double made with waterproof pads.

 

[Debbie7452]

I don't have anything really earthshattering to add except that I think you have plenty of time and I totally believe that you and DS will make it for the cruise! I don't think you will stress out the little guy.

My second DS has been day time trained for a couple of months now, even for naps. He will be 3 in Feb. I haven't really even worried about night time yet since he is younger than a lot of boys who are training. We use underwear all day every day. Pull ups DID NOT work at all. Oh yeah, my DS never used a potty chair. He was very happy to perch on the big toilet. We started out sitting for #1. He would scoot way back on the seat so that "it" pointed down into the potty. Now he stands to go #1, which is way easier when you are out at a public restroom. I have to hoist him up to reach the taller potties.

I don't think it hurts my son to wear a diaper while he's sleeping...? I must have lucked out and hit that magic window at 2 1/2.

Best of Luck...you can do it!!

 

[DVCsince02]

It's nice to see that it can be done!

 

[*Seanaci*]

Didn't read through all the replies. But, here is what my mom did with my nephew.

Potty Training Boot Camp
Pick time were you'll be home for 3-5 days, no trips to the grocery store or anything. You'll need training pants (bought ours at Babies R Us) or big boy underwear, and a kitchen timer.

On the first day, put him on the potty chair every 15 minutes, whether he has to go or not. He'll get the idea that that's where you want him to put the pee when he needs to go. If he has an accident, don't sweat it. Take off the wet underwear, and sit him on the potty. My mom did use M&M's as a reward when my nephew would sit on the potty; I think he got one for sitting on the potty and 5 if he actually peed in the potty. Within the first couple of hours, my nephew got what my mom was training him to do and would try really hard to make it to the potty before he wet himself, but didn't always make it.

The second day, I think she put him on the potty every half hour to hour...pretty much the same as the day befores drill.

On the third day, my nephew would dance around and hold himself when he'd have to go pee and wasn't having nearly as many accidents.

Just keep up with whatever method you choose for potty training him. It can be done.

 

[HelenePA]

Oh my son was EASY to train!! He was out of diapers before he was 2! It was great! How did I do it? Nakked! its the way to go! Yep you'll have a few accidents but for the most part we were done with diapers with in a week... I will say he was in cloth diapers I think this had something to do with him training so early.

 

[eyeheartgoofy]

I've never potty trained a boy, but I have potty trained a girl with a deadline. Time (preschool start date) was a great motivator for us! I don't think it is unreasonable of you to expect your DS to potty trained by the time the cruise rolls around.

 

[DVCsince02]

You ladies are giving me hope!!! Woo!

 

[SmallWorld71]

I haven't read all the responses but with the few I did, I may be the only one whose boys were much easier to train than my DD! Both were trained by 3, no problems. IMHO boys are much less stubborn than girls. (Just ask my poor brother!)
Anyway, I think it depends on the personality of your child. DS9 loved stickers and we put up a big chart and everytime he went he got a sticker. That's all it took with him.
DS13 is tall, and he was able to pee standing up right from the beginning which he liked much better than the potty seat so he never really used one.
If you run into problems and are looking to get creative, you can always put cheerios for him to aim at! Never done it myself, but know people who had good success with this. Or, you could put blue cleaning stuff in and have him pee to turn it green.
Anyway, unless there is a special circumstance, I see no reason why your son wouldn't be trained by your trip.

 

[jessica52877]

DS was 2 yr 7 mo when he trained and he did it in 2 days. I decided he would go without underwear to begin with and it worked like a charm. Before this time he never showed any interest in the potty what so ever and I just decided it was time. Showed him again, told him what to do and that was all it took. The first time I caught him going on the blanket (I had covered the entire house) and the 2nd time also the same so I showed him each time.

I was pleasantly surprised since he had shown no signs of wanting to learn.

 

[ERMama]

My oldest, we didnt even start training until he was 3.5 yrs old but he trained pretty quickly.
Second son, he trained on his own by the time he was 2.5 yo. Even at night. Then baby sis came home and he started bedwetting again. Shes been home 9 months and hes still wetting the bed. We gave it a solid try again recently for a month and I was washing sheets 3-4 times a week in undies. Hes in pullups again for bedtime, oh well.

Good luck with the training. Dont fret too much about it. Im sure he will have a great time on the cruise no matter which kids area he is in. Doubtful he would be the only toddler/preschooler in the diaper area.

 

[jenb1023]

I understand the need to pottytrain on a deadline for a similar reason to your own! My DD had to be pottytrained by age 3 to go into the 3-year old class at preschool. Otherwise, she would have had to remain in the under 3 class with kids as young as 20 months and she just did not share the same interests with that age group anymore.

I will preface what worked for us with the fact that my DD had shown previous interest in pottytraining and had gone on the potty a few times as well as could hold it for a long time, knew when she had to go and would hide to do her business and all of the other pottytraining signs plus, frankly, was smart enough to know what to do.

We tried everything we knew to try after her initial interest and readiness signs. We did a reward system where she got to pick a prize, we made her sit so many times per day and made a big deal about the whole thing, we stopped talking about it completely to see if it was just too much pressure, etc. You name the theory - we tried it.

Finally, it was late June and she was to start school the second week of September (which is also the week of her third birthday). I was starting to panic as I only had 2 1/2 months to get her completely trained. I did some research on the internet and finally read some stuff that made complete sense to me.

With my smart, precocious DD it was essentially a power struggle and that she needed to have the power. So, we gave her the power but under our terms as suggested by what I read. We did two things. One, I bought something I knew she would love. I told her it was mine and that I would let her use it for 30 minutes every time she went to the potty. In her case, it was a new princess dress. I don't think this is what did it for her but thought it was important to include as part of the process. The second thing we did was find a long weekend that I knew we would be with her the whole time and did not have a lot planned. We chose the 4th of July long holiday weekend. Then, we told her that she was no longer wearing diapers. We informed her that she would be wearing underwear from now on. Then, we gave her the power and told her that it was her choice - she could either go on the potty or she could go in her underwear and on the floor. If she chose to go on the potty, great. If she chose to go in her underwear and on the floor, that was fine too but she had to help clean it up. This gave her all of the power and choice. She peed once in her pants and on the floor and helped to clean it up and once in her pants and outside on the ground since we were not at home and she did not want to pee on the potty. That was it! She decided she would rather go in the potty than deal with the feeling and mess and was completely trained in a day and a half that weekend! She had very few accidents afterward and only wore nighttime pullups for a little while.

Sorry I got so long-winded and wrote a novel but I wanted you to know others have been in the same position and what worked for us.

Good luck!

 

[dpuck1998]

I understand the need to pottytrain on a deadline for a similar reason to your own! ......

Sorry I got so long-winded and wrote a novel but I wanted you to know others have been in the same position and what worked for us.

Good luck!

Great post

 

[dijid]

I've potty trained 2 DDs and a DS all were potty trained by 30 months. All different methods. My biggest advice:

Make a decision and stick with it. Once you decide it is "no more diapers" you mean it. No putting one on because he's had 3 accidents and you are tired of cleaning up. Or you have to run to the store. I used the naked method (cranked up the heat during a winter weekend dedicated to staying home and Potty training) with younger DD with much success. I've also used a "potty timer" - the timer says it's time to go, so no arguing with Mom - and M&Ms with older DD.

I had to use a method I don't think has been mentioned here with my DS. Negative consequences. He had total control and used the potty when he wanted to. The novelty of the M&M thing had worn off and he was just being lazy. There were two pairs of underpants I had bought that had a built in rubber pant. DS HATED Them. I finally got the idea that when he had an accident, he would have to wear one of those pairs the rest of the day. After 2 days of it, he realized I meant business and that was the end of it. I know a lot of people don't like negativity, but honestly, it wasn't like I was rubbing his nose in it, it just was wearing the non-favored underwear. And it worked.

I don't think you're setting up for an impossible undertaking. It may be difficult because I believe at his age you've probably missed the golden window of opportunity, but you can force the door open and help him through it.

 

[*Seanaci*]

Oh my son was EASY to train!! He was out of diapers before he was 2! It was great! How did I do it? Nakked! its the way to go! Yep you'll have a few accidents but for the most part we were done with diapers with in a week... I will say he was in cloth diapers I think this had something to do with him training so early.

To the bolded...I have heard that from others moms who cloth diapered as well.