runwad said:
Ok help me because I'm confused on something. The second family it didn't say they used credit cards, but debit cards. Debit cards are tied to your checking account and the money is deducted from your balance, at least that is how mine works. How can she have debt this way??? I mean after a number of nsf charges I'm sure the bank wouldn't authorize any more charges right? What am I missing here??
Dh and I knew a couple who lived in our old neighborhood when we were first married. Very, very nice people, no kids. Wife would constantly have a job and then quit for really strange reasons like, she was having a birthday party for her husband and wouldn't be able to get the house clean and get ready for the party, if she was working. Or, she was having ceramic tile installed in the kitchen (or bathroom, or laundry room) and needed to be home for the installation. I'm not kidding.
Husband worked really hard but wife handled all the bills. Also, he never, at least in front of any of the neighbors, said anything about his wife quitting all her jobs. She bought very expensive gifts for her family and friends and even just someone in the neighborhood who had a baby. She was always having something installed, replaced or professionaly cleaned in her house. I'm talking sprinkler system, paver walkways, new hard wood, new ceramic tile, new appliances, chem-dry was there every 2 months cleaning her carpets-did I mention she had no kids! We bought our houses as new construction, so none of these things were old in her house. I could understand upgrading floors, doing lanscaping, etc. but eventualy DH and I started to wonder exactly how much money her husband really made. We have friends who have family money, so we thought maybe it was that, at first.
Then little things would happen, like I would call her to RSVP to a Pampered Chef party she was having, and her phone would be disconnected. She always had some answer for any questions and it was on the next day. Then one day DH was outside talking to her husband while our son played. It turns out that they were filling chapter 11. Wife had not payed regular mortgage payments since they lived there and not at all in the last 9 months. She also racked up about $40,000 worth of CC debt in 2 years. She apparently had just been spending his salary on "stuff" other than bills. Husband had no idea, she hid late notices and the bills from him. Oh, and she was pregnant. They were moving into an apartment. DH got the distinct impression that he would have left her if she was not pregnant, he was that upset. Everyone in our neighborhood was shocked, but started to think about little clues they had dismissed, and gossiped about it for months. You know how neighbors can be! We lost touch with them after they moved, and then we moved from NJ 2 years later. I wonder though, if she was able to change her spending habits.